sex in the 3rd trimester?

[joanna1985]

Im in my 3rd trimester and my partner and i have stopped having sex. i dont really feel like i want to anyway but the fact that he doesnt want to is bothering me. he said he is really aware of the baby and it puts him off. i feel a bit fat, unattractive and not myself at the minute and my hormones are completely mental and im just worrying whether things will go back to normal after the babys born. i dont want my relationship to fall apart but right now i feel really distant and i thought i would feel closer than ever to him at this late stage..

oh dear joanna i feel sad for you. We have stopped having as much penetrative sex (about once a fortnight) but still have oral/manual about twice a week. I would also feel very distant from DP without the physical intimacy. Some people on here are fine without it but i am not.

Is there a compromise? Can you wear a pretty neglige type thing, dim the lights and give each other an oily rub down etc? Or have a bath/shower together?

DP has a routine of rubbing bio oil on my belly and boobs every night at bed time which also gives us some close physical intimacy.

Have you spoken to him about how you feel?