Men looking at pregnant women

[MangoHedgehog]

I had assumed that once i got pregnant I would disappear into the background as far as men on the street were concerned. Instead it almost seems as though the opposite has happened. Especially now I am really big (37wks), I find that men look at me all the time, even young blokes who would never look my way normally.

I don't remember this in my first pregnancy but I spent the whole time in velour trackies with no make up on. Have been working full time and out and about and probably making more of an effort with myself this time round.

I am thinking that it's not an overtly sexual thing, maybe just some kind of strange fascination with pregnant women? DH says he thinks a lot of men are just kind of 'drawn' to pregnant women, not necessarily in a sexual way though.

Has anyone else had this?

Fluffy, you might be eating your words sooner than you think

I got a very lascivious leer the other day (37 weeks). It was a bit ick.

This time I have had a lot of people saying "great bump"!

:o

I carry straight out the front, so I have a very pronounced, round bump.

This is my first summer late pregnancy. Last couple of times I was swathed in enormous cardigans by this gestation.

Lulabellarama I think you're right - DH is mixed race, and most of his friends are black with families from the West Indies. We went to a christening recently and it was the first time I'd seen them for several months (after hibernating with MS). They were all - in a lovely, respectful way - fawning all over me. Telling me how gorgeous I looked, how I "suited pregnancy", how lovely I was.

None of it was in a leery way - I've known these boys (men) for several years now. It was almost...something like awe. I can't put my finger on it exactly but it must also have something to do with the hormones we're giving off?

But then again those same hormones are making me feel beautiful, they really do, so maybe that vibe is just being picked up on?

We're all basically designed to pick this stuff up - whatever we're giving off is sending men a little bit cuckoo deep down in their evolutionary consciousnesses somewhere. It's just the same when my normally very un-showy offy DH does something a little caveman-like, like I dunno - pick up a chest of drawers and carry it upstairs easily or something! I get a little "Ooooh! He's strong...likey!!" And what is that? Really it's just because he's just demonstrated to me his prowess, which perks up my evolutionary desires to have a strong, fit male to provide me with strong, fit offspring and the ability to protect us.

I don't think I've been oogling other pregnant women so much - maybe when I wasn't visibly pregnant, but not so much now I have my own bump - but I do oogle small babies.

I think its because I try to work out how old they are which I'm rubbish at because I don't know much about baby size or development and its like 'In 4 months, I'm going to have a baby about that size.' So I'm day dreaming about my own little baby and imagining what our little one will be like.

When we were struggling to concieve, I found that I couldn't look at babies/pregnant women/aisles full of baby stuff especially if I'd just got my period. It was too sad. I don't think I was jealous of them as such, I didn't want their babies, but it reminded me of how sad I was that I didn't seem to be able to have mine. I don't think I looked anyway, but I probably did with a very sad look. :(

I think people look for different reasons - some will be imagining a future, some sad about what they don't have and some reminiscing about the past.

I haven't noticed sexual attention, but I do feel more confident in myself and less bothered by whether other people find me attractive, so I wonder if other people find that attractive (just like with confident people generally) and I'm usually with my husband so obviously unavailable

I asked a friend's husband why men in cars honk at pregnant women, and he said:

"cos we know she shags".

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