Any Dp disappointed at the sex of the baby?

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I'm 20 weeks pg with dc3. We have two boys already.

Tomorrow is our 20 week scan and I'm hoping that obviously, everything will seem to be going well. Fingers crossed.

However, I'm a little worried As I know my dh will be disappointed if its another boy. I know he should be grateful of any child, especially a healthy child- but he is so desperate for a girl.

He loves our boys to pieces, but we have decided that 3 is enough children for us and certainly for the moment, we have decided we won't be having any more.

Have any of you had the situation where your dp was disappointed at the sex? What did you say to him?

I personally couldn't care less what sex it is. I just want a healthy baby.

Any advice much appreciated.

My dh was convinced we were having a boy and really wanted one (even though he said he didn't mind) Think he was a little disappointed when we found out its a girl. It took him a few days to get his head around it and now he's loving the idea of a little princess/daddy's girl (she so will be, jumps around whenever she hears his voice)

Can imagine my (X)DH would have been disappointed if we had had a boy as he was so convinced from day 1 it was a girl...not sure how he would have reacted if she had been a boy...but as sparkle says, a couple of days to get over it would be normal ish. With a little bit of leeway to have a bit of grief for the baby you had in your head, IYSWIM.

With DC2, OH would have been disappointed if it was a girl as we already had our lovely daughter at that stage and he has strange notions that boys are easier to parent than girls which was really just a front for his longing for a son, I think

In fact, at the scan, the way the sonographer said it, we both first understood that she meant we were having another girl and I got to see his best "Oh yes, we're delighted" face when I knew he was a bit disappointed.

I don't see anything wrong with having a preference for either sex, I think lots and lots of parents do and the vast, vast majority of them get over any disappointment within minutes, hours or days of finding out and go on to love the child as much as any other so don't feel bad if he is disappointed, it's only human and he will get over it.

We are having our third daughter. My dp couldn't make the 20 week scan and I know he was desperate for a boy and I nearly cried when I had to call him and say it's another girl I actually felt really bad . He said a baby is a baby and what god has given us i am happy with. I know he is still a bit disappointed as he is football mad ha ha and us girls terrorise him for it ! I no he will love her to death when she is here !

Don't find out then, it's much harder to be disappointed with a tiny baby that's holding your finger than with a picture on a screen.

We have 2DD and are expecting again, DH summed up his feelings like this "it's like having 2 BMW's on the drive, if someone offered me an Audi I'd be well chuffed for something different, but if all I was offered was another BMW I'd be happy too!"

It wasn't dp who was disappointed with the sex of our third dc, it was me. I really wanted a boy because I knew that we would probably be finished after this baby. The whole pregnancy I was hoping that it was wrong and we were having a boy after all. We weren't, but I haven't cared at all since I first saw her. HappyCamel couldn't be more correct.

I agree with happy camel too. I didn't want to find out but he kept going on and on so thought oh jus do it lol I too really wanted a boy aswell as this is my last no more but now I'm really looking forward to 3 girls as we only have a 2 bed house anyway and no way we can move!

Yes!!!

DH and I decided we are only going to have 2 children. We already have a boy. When the ultrasound technician told us the 2nd child will be a boy my DH was very disappointed as he really wanted one of each. I was very angry as in my opinion any healthy child is a blessing! However, once I told him about all the DIY they could do together, and how it will save him money on not having to buy 2 sets of schools uniforms etc he was a little happier.

My husband was a little disappointed when we found out we were having a second girl, but now she is here he is totally delighted. I think lots of men would like a son but you just have to get on with it! I personally love having two of the same sex!

Thanks for your replies.

Scans in two hours so hopefully things are going well and we'll hopefully find out the sex.

We discussed not finding out, but we both really want to know. Dh was a little disappointed when we found out ds2 was a boy but he absolutely dotes on him now, so I know his feelings will change.

Just wanted to know your experiences. Thanks again

Let us know how it goes boys , I hope you and DH are both happy whatever you're having

It's a boy!!

Really happy everything's going well and we'll have two boys 16 months apart so I'm hoping they'll be best of friends-and not arch enemies!!

Dh really gutted.

But there's not a lot we can do. I do understand how he feels and I'm going to give him some time to get his head round it, but I wish he would be happy about it.

Congratulations!! I'm sure he will come round to it, I was a bit gutted when having DS as I wanted a girl but came round within a few days/weeks, and by the time he was born I was overjoyed at having a boy! Now planning on TTC again and would be equally happy with either this time!

boysboys - congratulations!
I know it must be hard to see your DH gutted about it but, as you say, there is nothing you can do and he WILL come around to it.
It is a natural reaction and an understandable one.

So, how's your list of boy names coming along?!

He will love him just the same when he is here! Congratulations!