Just curious really. I've never met anyone else in my situation.
There were complications during the birth of my first child. I didn't progress in labour so had an emcs. The tissue in my abdomen is very brittle and as a result tore badly during her birth including rupturing the uterine artery. I had a full debrief with a lovely consultant afterwards and understand the reasons for all of this happening. I also understand that the brittleness of those tissues and the now likely extensive scarring poses a range of risks for the birth of any future babies. She also said having never seen a case like this before she couldn't quantify the risk of rupture during the pregnancy. She did say however that if i decided to try again i would be closely monitored and offered (and unofficially instructed to have) an early section to avoid labour. She also said that it would be a very senior surgeon performing the surgery and infact should i need any future abdominal surgery of any type i should insist on this.
At the time DH decided that these were risks that we were not happy to take. However as time goes on i can't help wondering, what if.... Part of me is petrified at the idea of going through what i did again. Another part of me thinks that there are risks in all pregnancy and births and perhaps finding the right consultant to get me through this would minimise the risk.
I'm not saying i want to have more children and in reality i'm not sure DH would but i just feel the time may have come to explore the options. I thought i might start by seeing if anyone else has been though similar and what advice/information you were given.