Would it be ok to ask people to visit hospital the day after baby is born?

[DueinSeptember]

Just reading AIBU and there is a thread there about a lady whose family all want to wait there while she is in labour.

I've just had a thought.

I'm going to have an ELCS, I also had one for my 1st daughter. Last time I remember visitors coming when I was still paralysed from the waist down, in a hospital gown and bleeding onto a puppy pad on the bed under the covers. I hated having visitors and then the midwife coming to ask about my 'loss'.

This time, I'd really like to be dressed and able to move before anyone comes to see us. Would it be ok to tell visitors to come the next day because of this?

snow I plan to get DH on board and limit visits to 1-1 1/2 hours, at which point they need to know I'm tired and need some space. Or possibly I'll just disappear upstairs to bf and they'll take the hint :o

I'm having an ELCS and have said to my husband that whilst I'm in hospital, I only want him there, no other visitors. I will be feeling very vulnerable and only want him there, if my parents came I'd be sad when they had to leave and would feel uncomfortable if IL's were there, although I get on with them well, just wouldn't feel comfortable. My husband is happy with this, and so is my mum, she understands my reasons and is s laid back anyway! But am I wrong to want this? Haven't spoken to IL's about it yet, baby won't be here til October.

When I had DS we texted family to say that labour had started and we were heading to the hospital. We live overseas so I think they all appreciated knowing, we also arranged it so we only texted DSil and my sister and they passed the message on, rather than sending the same message to everyone and then them all replying.

We were really lucky that the only friends who we wanted to come and visit in hospital were really understanding. I didn't feel up to seeing anyone the first day - very emotional, lots of unexplained crying, trying to get BF sorted etc. They were great about waiting til the next day and then only stayed about 20 mins, but enough time to take photos of us as a family which was really nice as we didn't have any photos otherwise.

They also cooked dinner for DP so when he got home after birth there was food ready for him.

You can be quite lonely in hospital and might appreciate seeing a friendly face, if you're in for a few days. I would also add hospital visits can be kept shorter than home ones, as they get kicked out when visiting ends!

Thanks everyone, perhaps I'll just have to see how I feel on the day. I remember last time being on a high and wanting people to come and see DD. But then also at the same time, I hated being in such a vulnerable position. I was in for 3 nights last time and by the third night I was feeling pretty antisocial.

I so don't get this. No one tried to visit me in hospital & all politely waited a few days after we got home.