Positive test after 2 miscarriages and cant control my worries and sress

[MrsNJDrury]

Hi this is the first time I have posted on here, I am just so worried and just wanted to see if anyone has been through a similar thing and if all has been ok in the end. I have a son who is 3 and a half, we got married in april last year and planned to try for another baby after the wedding we conceived the first month of trying as we did with our son, unfortunately when I went for my scan at 13 weeks the baby had no heart beat and measured about 11 weeks, we was devastated and I went through a pretty tough time the months after that. We started to try again after 2 periods as recommended each month I tested every day from a couple of days before my period was due to i actually had a period desperate each month to see a positive result. eventually in February we got that positive result and we were over the moon! I tested again the next day just to be sure and it was negative so I did another and it was positive the next day I tested again and got a negative result again it was clear that the HCG Levels were not rising as they should and I started to bleed a few days later. again we were very upset and I just couldn't understand what I am doing wrong, I don't drink alcohol, I don't smoke, I eat what I should and don't eat the things I shouldn't, I told work so they helped to make my workload less stressful for me, I try to do my best. Now I was due my period on Sunday so I took a clearblue digital test yesterday which was positive :) it said 1-2 so must only be very early 3-4 weeks maybe. I am so happy but also feel very anxious that the same thing is going to happen again I have taken 2 more tests today both positive and I have got 4 more in stock lol which I will take one a day to make sure the levels are still rising. I want to relax a little and enjoy it but don't feel I can. Sorry this is so long and a bit rambled but that's exactly how my head feels at the minute. Thank you for reading. xx

Hi, congrats on your poitive test!! after my 2 MC's i felt that was an acheivement in itself. it's a really difficult time though, it was hard for me in those first few weeks, everything seems so fragile, i felt that any little knock or bump would dislodge the embryo. i was apranoid about every little unusual feeling. when we went for our 6 week scan i cried as i entered the room because i was so sure that i had miscarried already!

it's especially hard when you don't know what has caused the last miscarriages but i think the fact that you have had a healthy baby already is really positive and to have 3 MC's in a row is really rare. i know that is very little comfort because it was for me too...

all you can do is take each day as it comes and take extra good care of yourself. i won't tell you to try not to worry becasue that doesn't really help much but try to relax as much as possible and talk to people as often as you need to xxx

just reading back at this and most of it makes no sense but just to change some of the wording haha - We have a son who is 3 and half, me and my husband got married April last year. first miscarriage was a misses mmc at 13 weeks and the second was at 5 weeks. I am now 4 +2 weeks pregnant.

I'm in the exact same situation as you - 2 MCs (July & November) and now I'm 6 weeks pregnant. One thing helping me stay a bit sane is that my GP organised an early scan for us, which will be a week from Friday (when I'm 7+2). Perhaps your GP could do the same?

There are lots of us on these threads - and it's really scary to not know what the future will bring, but we just have to take it day by day, supporting one another as we can. A helpful mantra that has been passed around MN is 'Today I am pregnant'. (Rinse and repeat as necessary.)

One other tip - keep busy!

ps. Congrats on the BFP!

Thank you for replying to my thread :) it makes is a lot easier when you have people to talk to but as we are keeping it quiet for the first few weeks it makes it difficult to speak to people at home. I wasn't sure if I would be offered an early scan as last time I asked if I could have one as I was worried then too and they told me they wouldn't do one unless I had 3 mc's in a row I might speak to them again this time and see what they say, it would really put my mind at rest if I could just see what was actually going on in there lol. Im glad everything worked out well for you :) xx

Thank you Laura yes it is nice to speak to people in the same position as you as it makes you feel less useless iykwim I just feel like what has happened to me is not normal but looking on here tonight it looks like it is actually a lot more common that I thought ans a lot of people go on to have a healthy pregnancy and baby :) xx

Of course you can't stop yourself from worrying. Don't be so hard on yourself. Pregnancy after mc is scary. I've only one mc and I had two dcs before and I was a wreck when I got my bfp with dd2.
Congratulations and one day at a time x

Hi! Firstly big big congratulations on your BFP MrsNJDrury!! My situation is very similar to yours .. I have a 2 1/4 yr old ds and have since had two MCs .. the first at 5 weeks the second at 7 weeks. I then had to have an ERPC after the 2nd one as it was an incomplete MC. We've only been trying for three months since I got my periods back after the ERPC but it has felt like forever!! Anyway, I got my BFP yesterday so am now 4 + 1 and sooooo scared that it will happen again too. I had an early scan (private) with my ds at 7 weeks and will definitely do that again if we get that far with this little one, everything crossed. :o I think it is natural to worry after going through a MC, but fingers crossed we will all still be on these threads in 8 months time panicking because we are due to give birth imminently!!