Signed off

[Pickles77]

How do u tell ur boss you've been signed off, we're a small team and I don't think he'll take it very well. The ex has been saying that he is running a business etc and I'm causing issues. It's for depression, my job means everything to me as well :(

ive been there with depression so totally understand not wanting people to hate you when your at your lowest!
id phone him, be very arsy to the point and say that you have been signed off of work for medical reasons, that you are sorry to be causing problems but that you hope to be back on form soon to come back to work.
then tell him to fuck off and stop being such a dick
then listen to any responce, and try and be posative about the fact youll be back as soon as you can, instead of the fact you need time off.
(also found from personal experience, talk on the phone with a smile, makes you sound much more.. genuine. e.g. noone with a real cold blows their nose whilst on the phone to work calling in sick..)
hope this helps, and i hope you feel better soon!

Do you work with your ex or is he just giving his opinion? Would his opinion be worth anything as he's your ex and might want you to feel bad. Could your ex be stirring and your boss be more understanding than you think?

If you've been signed off, you've been signed off and that's it. You have taken yourself to the doctor for help and the help your doctor has given is telling you not to be at work for a while.

Thanks guys, bubbless that made me chuckle for the first time in days. I text him asking to speak but he's gone out so text again and said, said I'll explain tomo. No I don't work with the ex but you know he's one of these know it all types putting the frighteners on me x

glad i could help!
might also be worth considering although this is only from personal experience
i had a lot some time off of work because of depression, and started on very strong tablets to try and sort myself out. however i found going back to work very difficult. i actually quit my job and got a new one, which paid less, hours were rubbish, but was something i was actually interested and EXCITED to do (which is rare when your depressed!)
this helped me get back into the swing of things and saved me the embaressment of going back to a company where everyone knew my business.
i know depression is nothing to be ashamed of, and if you feel comfortable to go back then deff do, but i found that helped me..

I have been signed off since January and am due in 3 weeks time. My sick notes all say 'complications of pregnancy' nothing more specific. It's a combination of reasons, personal and SPD... just wanted you to know you're not the only one, it happens and frankly, work gets over it. You don't need to share anything more than you want to about why - your medical history is private, if you have a note, you have a note. Just stick to informing rather than explaining and you'll be fine! You're not letting anyone down just doing what is right for you and your baby!

Thanks again guys. I think I can take my maternity from the 11 weeks Nd add on my holiday meaning I only have a few weeks left anyway. but thanks for the super advice, feel bit better

Another one here - I've been off since I was 7 weeks pg and am signed off until my due date in December.

Work have not been at all supportive tbh, in fact I'm still waiting (5 weeks later!) for even an initial email letting me know what's happening about my pay and my contract etc.

They just have to get over it. There's nothing I or anyone can do, and if they employ women in their 20s and 30s they simply have to expect that this will sometimes happen. If they can't handle it, that's hardly my fault imo.

My feelings have moved on from feeling incredibly guilty to quite pissed off about the way its been handled...

Concentrate on getting better, and not stressing (easier said than done, I know :) )