Any good tips for a dad to be who's partner is becoming increasingly short tempered ?

[BBY1]

My partner is just 13 weeks pregnant and has become very short-tempered to the point that she's almost evil at times. I try to do everything for her, and make life as easy as possible..she is carrying my child after all! She means the world to me but I'm beginning to feel that I can't do enough to keep her happy. Is this alarming mood swing normal? Any tips on what a guy like me should do?

FUCK OFF!!!!

Sorry, only kidding :o

I'm 36 weeks now and pretty cranky myself.

Alarming mood swings in pregnancy can be normal.

In fact, the range of weird and horrible things that can be normal is quite frightening.

Have you spoken to her about how grumpy she is?

Is she amenable to gentle teasing?

It's not OK for her to be horrible to you, but it is worth knowing that it's probably hormone-induced rage and not anything you are actually doing.

Do as your told?

Well said athing.
To be honest you have no leg to stand on here op but good luck with this one..
Watching with interest

Are you my husband? I'm 13 weeks and have been a bit mean to my DH recently even though he's being lovely to me.

It is totally normal and a recognised pregnancy symptom I'm afraid, so to some extent you just have to try to shrug it off and not take it personally.

Yep I have been so nasty to my poor man in the past but my about 26 weeks started to chill out a bit and now am totally chilled :)

Yes, can be a symptom. Assuming it is, then I would observe that this is just the start of a long series of phases which will pass. There will be the "WHEN is this Baby Coming?" phase, the "O NO! What did we do, our lives are over!" phase", the "if only we could get some sleep" phase and many more. They are all overwhelming. And they are all over, in reptrospect, really quickly.

Just wondering, are you 'doing everything for her' that you think she wants you to do, or are you actually asking her what she wants you to do (and doing it)?

It is a bit hazy, but I remember my dp cooking a lot when I was in the first trimester, because I couldn't face doing any cooking. Sometimes I would be ravenous and sometimes I just couldn't face eating either. I was completely fatigued (in fact for me, that was the first symptom each time) and just wanted to lie down and do nothing most of the time. I particularly didn't want to have to take out the stinky rubbish bags. I definitely didn't want to have sex. I didn't really want to have to go to work but I forced myself to do it (in the first two pregnancies at least).

The first trimester is usually the worst, and the second trimester is supposed to be the one where we 'bloom', so you may have a happier wife in a week or so.

I have to say all you can do is try to keep her happy and try to talk to her about it (just make sure you don't sound like you're accusing her of being a bitch or it'll get worse)

The hormones go up and down all throughout pregnancy, they'll likely calm down in a few weeks and she won't be as bad but they'll make reappearances throughout the whole pregnancy as some weeks the hormones spike more than others. Just wait until she's 39 weeks and everyone keeps saying to her "haven't you had that baby yet" then she'll want to rip everyone's head off and tell them to "FUCK OFF DON'T YOU THINK I WANT THE FUCKING BABY OUT MORE THAN YOU DO!!!"

I had pretty bad mood swings with my first pregnancy especially when a stranger came up to me in Mcdonalds and touched my stomach and i properly ripped their head off and demanded to know what the hell they thought they were doing and why did they think they had the right to touch me. This time I haven't had much in the way of mood swings until a couple of weeks ago and I'm now 39+1 weeks so I think I have the right to be a grumpy bitch right now.

Just remember there is NO way you can understand how she's feeling the whole way through this. It's not your fault but you just can't so all you can do it put up with it and try to talk to her about it as much as possible. I'm sure she won't be evil the whole way through.....you'll get some weeks off.....probably....

Without meaning to be harsh, whatever you're feeling she's feeling a thousand times worse. Just take a deep breath, swallow your frustration and be there for her - hormones are insanely powerful, chances are she is feeling miserable and frightened. It's your job to support her no matter what. It will get easier as the pregnancy progresses, but be prepared for more frustration and anger again at the very end.

Do you have a loft you could go and lag? Or a shed to sit in?

It's really sweet of you to post OP and you obviously care. If you take a bit of time reading some of the threads on here, you'll see a whole array of symptoms us ladies are coping with to differing extents. I know you might be sympathetic but until you actually experience feeling so sick you would literally consider losing a finger for it to stop, so tired you'd sleep on the street, boobs absolute agony (those are the early ones - its getting wayyyy better!!) it's hard to appreciate the emotions.

She'll be alright and so will you. Just keep talking :)