Severe pre-eclampsia in previous pg, worried about going away with work next week (30wks pg)

[thesmallestpotato]

I don't know if I'm being silly but I'm so worried about going to a meeting next week with work 2.5 hr drive away for a meeting & two nights in a hotel. Not only am I scared I'm going to have an accident on the way (I have to drive myself there and my concentration isn't the best right now what with lack of sleep, also feeling generally groggy and woozy but midwife says that's probably just anaemia - awaiting blood results for that), I'm worrying something will happen and I'll end up in a hospital miles away from my family and 2 year old DS in particular.

We had a few problems last time, a couple of birth defects and severe pre-eclampsia which started at 36 wks DS born by emergency CS & was in neonatal intensive care for a while (IUGR), I just think what we went through last time is weighing on my mind and I really don't want to go away, just in case.

I'm 30 weeks now, pregnancy seems to be going OK so far, blood pressure OK at the moment, I'm under consultant care (am classed as 'high risk' after last time) and taking low dose aspirin but I just have a horrible feeling something awful is going to happen if I go to this meeting.

I'm going to call my midwife tomorrow to tell her how I'm feeling but I bet she'll just tell me to get on with it!

I'm being totally pathetic about this aren't I? I know I'm lucky to have a job the way things are at the moment and it would go down really badly with work if I was to cry off (had to miss the last meeting due to DS going into hospital to have an op to correct his birth defect) but I really don't want to be away from home!

I don't know how how I've managed to waffle on so much on this post - I'm just wondering how would others feel or am I being really silly?

I had pre-eclampsia at 26 weeks with my first baby (who died) and faced similar issues to you in my second pregnancy as I travel a lot for work - a very good job I wanted to hang on to. (luckily went to full term with no PE that time).

Where is it you are going? If in the UK bear in mind that few places in the UK are very far from a tertiary level referral hospital, if you did become sick. Not ideal I know but if this risk is small (i.e. all ok at the moment) then persnoally I might take this chance (the main thing really is rapid acess to good care for you and your baby if you became ill whilst away --- the NHS can arrange to transfer you and baby home as soon as safe if needed).

My Obstetricians were happy for me to travel within the uk throughout pregnancy, on that basis. Take your notes with you of course. I also took urine dipsticks so I could continue checking for protein if I wanted to whilst away!

PS If you are tired I wouldn't so the drive. Can you get a train and taxi at the other end? Or a lift with a colleague? After all, you are heavily pregnant, work should do a risk assessment for you, and this is statistically more risky than pre-eclampsia!