A thread for ridiculously over-paranoid worries

[Whysoserious]

I'm having a very paranoid day today. Fear of baby not moving yet, fear of shrinking bump and now fear of squashing my baby by bending over.

I'm assuming there MUST be other crazy ladies out there that are worrying about everything so thought i'd start a thread where we can reassure one another without the embarrassment of having to start separate threads to ask potentially stupid questions. Basically a hiding place if you will.

So I shall start. My name is Whysoserious and I'm panicking because I was sitting on my sofa earlier and I bent over sideways suddenly to pick something of the floor and I'm worried I squished my baby.

Is it so well protected that that is impossible? Yes, yes please tell me it is! I'm 18 weeks by the way.

Anyone else need reassuring by way of return??

Don't worry, I'm fairly sure that won't have hurt the baby! I know what you mean as I had to start one the other day for reassurance that I hadn't bruised the baby when I opened a cupboard onto myself! Hadn't got used to how big I am yet.

Also I know everyone's different but I only felt mine move for the first time at around 18 weeks and I was told that was fairly early (and the movements were TINY - almost imperceptible) so don't worry about that either, it might be pretty soon. :-)

Im definatly signing up and joining this thread. Never in my life have i worried myself sick over every bit of nothing.

Hello!

This is my spiritual home I feel. Chronic worrier here! I've been to the hospital to check on movements in the last two weeks (baby was bouncing around like crazy as soon as they put the monitor on - still good to go if you're worried though) and listen to my doppler at least twice a day. I also worry about squashing. Worry that sex will upset the baby too, but too embarrassed to tell DH that as I think he's getting a bit fed up with me and all the drama.

I'm 37 weeks and counting down the days to my c-section on the 21st - one of the reasons I went for c-section was t put a definite end to this agony! I have just become a bit mad in general during this pregnancy though; last night I cried because I couldn't find a pair of living room curtains I liked online.

So glad you started this thread! Many of my friends have already had babies so are seasoned pros, I sometimes feel like a complete numpty asking some of my more paranoid questions.

At about 30 weeks my bump did this really weird judder / spasm thing and I convinced myself that my baby was somehow having a fit inside me. After scouring google I found something which said it was common for the uterus to go into spasm with all the extra weight etc - felt a bit silly after that one.

I don't think you need to worry about squishing the baby, don't forget he / she is all cosy in a bag of fluid, so they are well protected. I fell down the stairs last month and, like you, was worried sick that I'd damaged him. Within a minute (longest minute of my life) he was kicking away and I could breathe easy.

They're pretty resilient and are well protected in there too!

This is my 3rd and I should be a seasoned pro but I have never been so anxious and paranoid. Partly because its a surprise pregnancy later in life.
i have had the usual bleeding after sex stress. Scan and testing stress. Movements or lack of stress. Dc being rough/ hitting me in tummy stress. Alcohol before finding out stress. You get the idea.
Not going to relax until I hold baby in my arms. All this made worse by hearing about miscarriages/still births on here and in real life.
Life was simpler with the last two. Ignorance was bliss!

Stress will be worse for you and bubs than any of the things you mention; they're pretty tucked up in there so don't worry about squashing them with routine moving around and stretching :) my kicks are fairly noticeable/violent now but every couple of days she has a quieter one and this is all quite normal :). Enjoy it, it's good to be aware of potential probs but don't let em stress you out :)

Hello, I would love to join in! In fact i almost started a thread earlier today about this exact issue. 36wks and cannot wait for this baby to be born so I can keep a proper eye on her.

Am plagued by horror stories about late miscarriage / stillbirths. Obsessively monitoring the baby's movements night and day. Stuffing myself with chocolate and fizzy pop to get her going!

The thing is - as i remember from DD1 - the worry doesn't end once the baby's born, does it? you just start obsessively checking breathing instead

Oh God, can I join? Having a terrible day, been googling "missed miscarriage" statistics. Am emotional wreck, on verge of tears. 11 weeks pregnant, crappy obstetric history, just waiting for it all to go wrong. Just can't seem to see things working out. Tomorrow will be better, I hope

I'm so glad I'm not the only paranoid preggo. It is so hard not to worry isn't it! My DH gets severely pissed of with me because he thinks I focus on negatives all the time. I really don't - I try not to anyway. I like to think of myself as a realist and prepare myself for the worst but hope for the best...

Well my main worries are concerning the birth and I'm only 13 weeks!

• the weather is so bad in dec I can't get to hospital.
• I then need urgent medical attention and can't get it.
• I get to hospital and still need urgent medical attention.
• I need a blood transfusion
• the baby won't come out

Help me I'm going out of my mind ALREADY!

Can I join im also due in December and am 13 weeks.
Living in constant panic about literally everything to do with my pregnancy - it's my first.
DP and mum thinks I'm over reacting!
It's good to know I'm not alone!
Hopefully we can all reassure each other!

Please can I join you all!! This is my 2nd DC, 13 weeks like bella, and worried about everything almost just as much as the first.
I have some sort of reassurance to add though - my doctor told me not to worry about squashing - the baby somehow always finds room. In terms of bending - I did pregnancy yoga with my first pregnancy and that was a whole lot of stretching and bending in half.
I'm terrified now of knocks to the stomach. I have a very lively toddler who likes crawling all over me and running up to me with a flying leap! Argh.
It is MUCH better once they are out in my opinion!

my god i hate google. 10wks yesterday and im feeling fit as a fiddle part from poorly boobs. so i did the deed... i googled for every good story theres a bad one. ive got my scan in 2wks and im scared of mmc or anything. ALL with no real reason just cos of *** google.

Me me me!

Dc2 and I'm convinced something will go wrong, and this has been a less worrying pregnancy than dc1, where I had a lot of bleeding. I also have fairly severe sickness and nausea with this one, which is always said to be a good sign, and I still can't relax!

In spain ATM, and have inadvertently eaten cured meat, a far too rare steak (they dont really 'do' medium, apparently!), goats cheese, and a runny poached egg (forgot about the no-no on the meat and cheese, the egg came atop my carbonara ). So I'm worried I've given myself and the baby listeria or toxo, especially since I have had a bit of a jangly tum today and loose, but not diarrhea, poo (tmi, I apologise!)

Terrified for 12 week scan a week today. Scared ill have had a mmc - apparently they're so rare, but so many women on forums like these seem to suffer them, so I think they're not as rare as they're made out to be.

Saw baby and a strong heartbeat at 7 and 8 weeks, which I know reduces risk of mc but still ... Surely I can't be lucky enough to have two healthy babies? :(

Hi, can I join too?

I m 23 weeks tommorrow and terrified I m going to go into early labour before the baby is viable, keep saying if I can just get to 24 weeks then at least it will have a chance. Bonkers because first pregnancy was completely straightforward with no problems, but I m worrying so much this time. Have been getting sharp pains in lower abdomen on and off all morning, probably ligament pain but I googled and discovered it could be lots of nasty things instead.

Bunty - I had a panic about an potentially undercooked steak the other day but what can we do - it's done now. And I'm sure I read somewhere that 3 in 100,000 babies are effected by toxo and that there've been very few cases of listeria in the past 10 years it's fine.

And people tend to come on forums to talk about mmc that's why it seems like every other pregnant lady has had one. People aren't going to start threads about perfect, problem free pregnancies - even though this is, in fact, most people!

And Turnwest - you're only thinking about this because you are soooooo close to the magical 24 weeks. You'll get there in no time. I'm jealous in fact. Another 4.5 weeks til I'm there. Then you need to get yourself through the next 4 weeks after that to 28 where chances of survival are even higher. It'll be fine!

Oooh can I join too! I'm such an irrational worrier I think I'll fit in :)

I'm 21 weeks and This week my worry has been 'Is that obviously pulled muscle in my left side something worse?' Last week it was 'if I roll over onto my tummy in my sleep, will I pop my lovely warm and cosy baby's water balloon?'

turnwest I'm with you in the abdominal pain, constantly googling to find out if it could be anything else when its most likely not! xx

Ooooo me too! I'm 23+4 and panic started the very day I got my BFP when I inadvertently ate a raw (blue) prawn and then was terrified I'd get food poisoning and miscarry

Worries since have included whether gentle movement counts as "reduced", my thyroid (I'm hypo), strange rashes, not having gained any weight for the past 3 weeks, whether I'll "jinx" things by buying a pram/cot/babygrow etc, maybe my baby won't like me ....... the list is endless!

turn I'm 23+4 so very close to you in dates, and I've been getting cramping this week too. MW said the baby starts growing very quickly now so I suppose some ligament stretching is to be expected? :)

Hey all, can I join in? I'm 26+4 weeks.

I've actually just come home from the hospital as I've had stomach cramps all day and I thought I was going into labour. Turns out I am constipated and that's why I'm in pain. My OH thinks I'm being paranoid! Luckily, the midwife was lovely and told me she has had people in for much less and she had seen 3 women this week for the exact same thing (she's probably lying lol)

This is my second pg and I never had wories like this with my first!!

Then there was the panic about leaking waters due to increased discharge!!

Argh!! Lol

whysoserious you're a saint :) I think sometimes we need other women to talk us down from our place of absolute paranoia - I never believe my DH when he tells me to stop being such a fanny worrier!

Please can I join the worrying club, it's a refreshing change to meet other mnetters who don't shrug off everything as statistically remote and unlikely to appen etc. I'm having dc2 and am 28ws and so far i think that I've had just about every real and imagined problem! My lo is currently living transverse and so I'm now worried she won't turn in time and additionally I'm worried that I'm going to give her a wonky head as I wake up lying on the side where her head is most mornings! Why am I so worried? Not sure - dc1 was completely problem free but have had a few mc's so I put it down to that.

ooh oooh me too!

Your first post made me giggle but yep bin there too daily.

'this week I am mostly worry about...'

• cycled up a hill, heart went like clappers, is this bad
• cycle over a bumpy bit, am I giving shaken baby syndrome
• constant thyroid worries
• wind (is this early labour)
• did watching prometheus send scary fear hormones to baby (its a shit film so had to watch alien again more scary hormones, argh!)

Clarella you're still cycling? how far are you? I'm too worried to get on my bike - we do regular 15 miles country routes at the weekend but I'm too scared in case I fall. I've never fallen by the way, which makes this silly worry look even more daft! I might get on my bike this weekend now :)

ha ha ha - I share lots of these! A couple of reassuring things I can add:
The bay is surrounded by the amniotic fluid. Liquids cannot be compresses (squashed), so you CANNOT squash the baby as you bend and move, becuase the liquid won't squash.

Some stress hormone (such as adrenaline, occasionally!) exposure is good for the developing foetus apparently - it gets its body 'used' to them.

I am also paranoid about something awful happening - I feel so lucky to have had one dd and a lovely dh, that I can't help but think something bad must happen soon - utterly ridiculous.

I am currently 11 weeks pg and a bit breathless - probably caused by anxiety, and not by a pulmonary embolism as I worry about! think of all the millions of women who give birth every day.