OH - solidarity on the non-drinking front? Opinions please.....

[SquealyB]

Hi all

I am 6 weeks pregnant with our first child and obviously drinking is now a no-no (or a virtual no-no) for the next 34 weeks minimum. My OH and I were not prolific drinkers pre-pregnancy but definitely enjoyed afew drinks on a Friday night after a long week at work etc etc.

OH is going out this evening and on Sunday for a friends birthday. I hate to admit it but I am jealous AND kind of cross at him at the same time. I cannot work out whether it is reasonable to expect to him to cut-back on his socialising/drinking when I am not able to partake (and am too tired to be away from the couch for extended periods) or whether the pregnancy crazy hormones have taken over my brain and this is an entirely unreasonable.

Would value your thoughts.

je suis margaux is the 4oz recommended as max 1 per week or something?

I wouldn't have even considered expecting my DH to cut down on his drinking just because I was pregnant - he is currently on anti-biotics and therefore not drinking much and there is no way I am cutting out the wine .

I did ask DH to stop drinking in a gesture of solidarity when I was pg with DS but he failed to achieve it. He didn't drink all that much but he was in a "come home, have a glass of wine" phase and didn't seem able (or willing) to stop.
I moaned at him about it but not that much - there really wasn't any need for him to give up.

I did, however, have an absolute wobbler at him when he got utterly wasted in early November (DS was due mid-November, although he was 2w late) and pointed out that should I have gone into labour at that point he would have been no fucking use to me - he said his uncle could have driven me to the hospital, so I said I suppose he expected his uncle to sit with me through labour as well, did he?
That was the last he really drank before DS was born.

This time around, he's on a no-alcohol kick anyway and has been for some time - amazingly we've both sort of gone off it, even before I was pg (probably because we'd been ttc for so long, and not drinking was just another way of cutting down potential problems). I wouldn't grudge him a drink now though because I honestly don't miss it and wouldn't be at all envious.

Thanks so much for all the opinions great to hear everyone's point of view and experiences. Can definitely see the benefits of a sober OH towards the last couple of week. For now definitely going to try and get some sober date nights in the calendar and accept that there may be a few nights when I feel a little left out ;).