how would you feel? Husband going to New York at 34 weeks

[ArtyJennie]

my husband has been told that he may have to go to New York on business when i'm 34 weeks pregnant- for 2 weeks. I'm not happy about it but it won't look good at work if he refuses. We rely on his income to pay the bills (i'm only part time) and people have been made redundant in his office recently. i feel like he can't really turn the trip down as his career is important to our future but at the same time i'm worried i'll go into labour early and i really don't want to be left on my own. (we also have a dd who is 4). What would you do/how would you feel?

DH went on a similar length journey at 36weeks with DS. Unavoidable so we just planned for backup. Yes I felt upset but tbh there wasn't a lot I could have done.

You are unlikely to labour if you don't feel safe - I know a few military wives who have hung on until their DH got home, past EDD and in one case it was her fourth and her longest pregnancy by over 3 weeks at 40+2. The doctors were rather surprised

I would feel sad / worried but given the circs I think he should go (assuming that your pregnancy continues absolutely normally and happily)

There are plenty of things you could do to try and feel less anxious eg have a backup birth partner / childcare plan all sorted just in case.

Arrange to Skype / email regularly.

Can someone come and stay to give you a hand with DD whilst he is abroad? I'm thinking weekends might be particularly knackering!

Having said that, I ended up with really bad SPD whilst pregnant with DS2 - I couldnt have managed for 2 weeks without help. My DH did work away regularly up until I was about 37 weeks but I always had some help here from my mum / MIL as I couldn't really walk, definitely couldn't pick DS1 up / push the pram etc.

However the odds are you will be FINE and you would be very unlucky to go into labour quite so early!

OP, I am in the same situation, my OH started a new job early May and he is travelling, this week 2 days in Europe, I am 31 weeks, and in 2 weeks time to NYC for a whole week.
I do not have family here and a 3.5 yo son to look after too.
the only thing I can think about is asking 1 friend to be my back up for DS and another one to drive me to hospital, not sure I will have some one with me during labour though...
but I also hope that I will not have the baby that early either
I have been told that you can talk to baby and make him wait for his Dad to be back
good luck and thinking of you

ArtyJennie I'd really struggle with that too - right now I feel so vulnerable I can imagine you must be feeling really uneasy about it. Do you have family nearby who might be able to come and stay? x

I sympathise. My DH travels for work and has his last travel planned for our Week 38. It's likely that this will be our only child and it would be awful if he missed it. I've added to the nightly mantra 'don't come early' - not sure its going to work though....

Thanks for the words of support everyone. I do- luckily- have relatives near by if things kick off early.

I am pretty huge already (only 28weeks) everyone keeps thinking i'm ready to pop. I was previously hoping the baby would come a bit early- but not now DH is going away. Last time i was tiny and had dd at 40weeks5.