In limbo - probable miscarriage - waiting ....

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Hi I am having such a tough time distracting myself... Can you help?!

Am 6.5 weeks pregnant. Started bleeding thurs so brought my private scan forward to thurs (6.3) - not good - sac measured 4.5-5 wks and nothing could be seen inside.

I know when i should have ovulated (used smiley predictor) and when my test went positive it said 2-3 wks, in line with my lmp and ovulation...

Referred to a&e (risk ectopic) and to epau. 8 hours later got home. they took bloods and got results yesterday - hgc 1300 which from what I can read is within range. Dr worried as progesterone level 22.5 - but again what I can read this is normal...

Back to epau this eve (sat) for more bloods - apparently the comparison is the important bit. Will get results Monday. I am then booked in for further scan in 10 days.

Am so upset. My husband works abroad and is not back for weeks. I have no family nearby, although i have told my sister and a couple of friends. I was so excited about being pregnant - although not definitely game over, dr has told me to prepare for the worst. The only people I have had a hug from is the dr/nurse, both of whom have been fantastic.

My husband is getting annoyed with me for being so negative and says until we know for sure (ie 10 days) I should think positive - I can't - I'm trying to be realistic/protect myself

So ....

1. how do I distract myself this weekend / next 10 days until scan. I can't go too far as spotting and worried that I will start miscarrying (bleeding) too far from home. I don't want to be around friends as I don't want to tell too many people, and don't want to burst into tears in public! I feel pretty rubbish so don't feel up to housework/gardening/sitting in sun (although is lovely outside!)

1. has anyone been in this situation and it turned out ok?

1. What would you do re work? I had to tell them I was pregnant on thurs - as super busy and no other excuse would have worked. The dr has signed me off for 2 weeks - I feel I have to go back monday for my sanity .... But then my results are coming on monday and I c ant imagine what I'll be like if bad news. Also I am completely fearful of miscarrying at work (hour on tube from home).

Any thoughts massively appreciated. Xx

I really hope of all hope that everything will be ok but just in case I found being cautiously excited was ok. I thought about a future child rather than the one I felt I was carrying and allowed myself to be excited about that. I felt that if I did lose my pregnancy then knowing I could conceive was reassuring and to keep in touch with my GP to ensure I had the best possible health for any future pregnancies. I carried a whole pack of just in case pads and wore one even though I was only spotting. I then concentrated on some healthy outdoorsy activities like walking and gentle cycling to feel like I was doing something positive. Think I also put on a few films in the evenings that were guaranteed to make me cry so I could allow myself to be upset about something else and not feel embarrassed. Also did a lot of cleaning which felt good and I imagined myself to be making a nice "nest" for when I was eventually lucky enough to have a child.
As I said though, hope everything will be fine. Take care of yourself X

I'm in a a similar situation. 6 weeks today but on and off brown spotting since last Sunday. Also quite some red blood for a short period of time yesterday. I've spoken to my doctor but no-one will scan me until next Thursday as it's 'too early'. I can't believe a baby can survive all of this but just have to wait and see. I dread going to the loo and seeing more red blood. How heavy has your bleeding been?

Hi both.

Bugoven- your words make me smile- good way to think about it. Will def put on some chick flicks this eve.

SF- the bleeding has not been bad- less than period. Not stopped for over 48 hrs but now is barely on pad so say spotting. And dark.
I almost had the same re not scanning - until I produced private scan, then they were more than happy to send me to epau.
How are you coping with the wait/uncertainty? Are they going to do bloods as well as scan?

Thanks, ladies x

C&P from another thread as you have asked for positive outcomes:

I found out I was pregnant on the 6th May. I calculated I would be 7 weeks pregnant going off conception as I couldn't remember when my LMP was.

On Tuesday 8th I began to get cramps so having had a previous ectopic I went to the EPU at 2am.

They gave me a blood test and an internal and told me to return the next day for a scan. Went to scan no heartbeat, just sac which was in the right place but only the size of 5 week sac. We were heartbroken, they couldn't do anymore and said I could have got my dates wrong - I KNEW I hadn't.

Anyway, I had to wait 2 weeks (which were hell) for another scan. We prepared ourselves for confirmation of a MMC and yet there it was heartbeat pumping away! The dates don't work at all, they estimate the baby is 7 weeks 5 days, so I figure he/she must just be lazy like their father!

Thanksctoryalane- a real success story! Congrats.
I have the teensiest bit of hope but all stacked against it...
X

Sorry you are going through this. The wait is agony. If you are spotting not bleeding and it is brown not red then these are positive signs. As are you levels, which seem pretty normal too. At this stage of development just a couple of days can make measurements out so there could be hope. I remember being convinced my pregnancy with DD1 was all over as she wasn't measuring right. Went back at 7 weeks and there was that little flicker of a heartbeat.

I have had early spotting in many pregnancies. One is sitting on the sofa watching Cbeebies and one is kicking my bladder currently at 18 weeks, my last episode in this pregnancy was at 15 weeks and I am still in the game. Sadly, some have ended in MC. Thinking the worse is good for self protection but it doesn't change the outcome so try and focus on the fact that you are pregnant for now and do as much as you can to distract yourself. I found good movies and sunshine very good for the soul. Those days drag (they are dog days). 7 weeks is a much better time to assess viability so you may just be a bit early. Worrying is no good for anyone, easier said than done, I know only too well.

Distract yourself and soon you will know more. Take care.

Hi just to update you-Got my hcg results this morning- down from 1300 to 1200. Going again tomorrow for further bloods, and to discuss options. But told this is non continuing pregnancies.

Am scared to death of the process and am bleeding/cramping so this may happen naturally before I get into surgery. My husband is away but thankfully have friends nearby on call.

Thanks to you all (and all other old posts I have been obsessively reading) . Good luck

So sorry. I do hope there is someone to come and look after you. Take care.

I'm really sorry take care of yourself x