Been invited to wedding 3 days before due date....WWYD?

[elliemay80]

DH and I have been invited to a wedding (good friend of his) 3 days before EDD in late summer. It is 1 hr 40 mins away according to RAC routeplanner.

Starts at 3 pm. Would you go? DH is fine with a compromise of going for 3 or 4 hours but is it a bad idea? Would it be silly to go? It's a fairly laid back wedding at a family house with buffet meal so probably fine to see how I feel on the day but just canvassing opinion...

yeah - I'd go. I was driving round West Midlands safari park around my DD3's due date. Is it your first baby?

If it's your first baby I would check out where the hospitals are, take a bag and your notes just in case, but go (assuming you want to!) First babies often arrive around 41 weeks or later, although there are always exceptions.

Also, most labours start pretty gradually so you would usually have plenty of time to get back if things did start to kick off. I went to the Lakes for a couple of nights at 38/39 weeks and it was lovely, but I went prepared. (baby turned up about 13 days after EDD IIRC) Had tons of strong BHs all along the motorway though

I think it would probably be fine, as long as you can sit and relax and even lie down somewhere if necessary. There is always the possibility that a) you won't feel up to it, b) you might have had the baby already or c) you might go into labour at the wedding (!), so as long as you and the hosts are prepared for those eventualities, I'm sure there's no harm in saying you'll try your best to make it.

I would have been taking a 4 week old baby

I think you need to make sure they are happy that you might not make it and hence leave 'free' seats. Also you may feel fat, exhausted etc. but equally you may feel fine. Problem is no one can predict it.

I'd check out the local hospital and take my notes/hospital bag.

First baby yeah. It's at the bride's parent's house so I might be able to ask for a room to rest in. There is a hospital very nearby and DH won't drink so he can drive. Can obviously keep hospital bag and mat notes in car, along with baby car seat!

Seems like we should RSVP and play it by ear....the bride is a new-ish mum so will understand!

Thanks for replies!

Should be ok, but then I thought that too. I organised a 3 day conference last year, ds due on day 2, I risked it, took a bag and my notes (was 2 mins away from hospital) it was a conference for drs, a couple of gynae drs were there, one wouldn't leave me alone "you ok? You sure" anyway, due day comes and goes, no probs, 10 mins before the end of day 3, I get a funny twinge and think oh fuck, next second waters burst, but they don't just go normally, oh no, they actually gushed gynae Dr comes running, I get propped in a corner in active labour, and 400 odd drs trying to get a front row seat.

Plus side - the feedback was great, the most entertaining conference they ever been to apparently

Now it's told as a nice story in the office

Not to scare you or anything, I am trying to say, it'll be fine, even if it does happen. I'm just saying it badly

Oh gosh LadyBabs I don't want to take the shine away from the bride by going into labour! Hope that doesn't happen to me. Sounds like you were in the ideal place to go into labour though!

You'll be fine, if mine hadn't been such a quick labour, I would have been fine

We have this scenario too. Supposed to going to a wedding 1 day before due date. We have said we would like to come to the church service, but won't come to the meal so that we're not taking two spaces and end up not making it.

Today is my due date & we are off to a full day wedding. It's about 40min from where we live. Months ago I thought I wouldn't be up for it, but as it got closer was quite looking forward to it.
If you feel ok, go for it.

Would I go? Yes. But based on my experience I had no late pregnancy niggles. Dd was 17 days late. When I went into labour it took 12hrs for waters to break and another 11 for dd to appear and then it was an emsc

I would go. Just make sure you have your notes and your bag with you, and find out where the nearest hospital is. In your place I would still have another 3 weeks to go before giving birth

We're going to a wedding 2 weeks before dc2's anticipated arrival, 4 hours away, in December, 3 days before Christmas

Potentially not my best plan, but dc1 cooked for 42 weeks exactly, so I'm banking on this one doing the same. Sods law, it'll turn up early ...

There are hospitals everywhere - just make sure you know where the closest one you'd be happy with is!

I too would have been there with a four wk old ...and he was my first !