Could this be deppression?

[pinkdolly]

Hi everyone,
I'm almost 18 weeks pg, due 25 July. I already have 2 girls Zoe 3 1/2 and Sophie 2 1/2. My dh is in the navy and currently i only see him at the weekends.
My mum is living with me as she is currently divorcing my dad (they were married for 27 years).
I have been so tired with this pg, much more so than with the girls. Also I have lost interest in everything. My head is constantly pounding and my IBS has started playing up again.

I've had a hard time with my dad as he is v.deppressed due to the divorce and almost every other week talks about ending his life. Just when you think he is on the up he nose dives again.
I feel like i'm constantly close to tears. I've lived here all my life and never wanted to leave but now I feel like there's nothing left and I need to get away.
I dont know whether i'm taking things to heart more because of my hormones or if it might be deppression. Have heard of antenatal deppression before but never suffered with it.
Just having a moan really, I still cant believe I feel like this. Waiting for my energy stage to kick in and its nowhere in sight. Help!

bump for you

sounds like you have an awful lot on your plate and of course hormones will be playing a big part

I feel a bit like this atm but am just blaming it on having been ill with flu for so long and being bloody knackered.

do you have to see your dad so often?

Hi Enid,
Well we both live in the same town, about 5 mins from each other. He comes over several times a week and we speak on the phone almost every day. A couple of weeks ago i had to walk round his house looking for him (to make sure he hadn't done anything!) it was awful. He was alright, but it was the emotional upset of not knowing what I would find as I walked into each room. He keeps throwing his anti-depressants down the toilet without giving them a fair go. Just feels like we're going round and round.
And even if i dont see or speak to him I get to hear about it from one of my sister's. I'm always on the lookout for whats coming next.

He was over here today saying how tired I was looking, I couldn't tell him I'd been crying cause I'm feeling so low.

might not be depression yet but could be a bit of stress and general feeling low. Speak to your doctor. You can't bear everything yourself in your condition.

(((Pink Dolly))) it does sound like you have a lot of other people's stuff on your plate at the moment which would be tough enough to deal with even if you weren't pg, let alone with your hormones going crazy and being so tired too, and your DH being away.

I know it's really tricky not letting emotional family situations get to you. The bottom line is that you need to look after yourself and your baba and the girlies - just for once, all the other grown ups need to look after themselves. That's not being selfish - it's self-preservation.

Is there anything you can do to put a tiny bit more distance between you and your parents as they go through this tough time? I find a 15-20 min walk by myself every day, even in rubbish weather, clears the cobwebs and lets me breathe and think about nothing for a bit - especially useful when your head is full of distressing things. Listing all the good stuff in your life to yourself every night before you go to sleep is also a good trick for keeping your head above water.

And I would go and speak to your doc and/or midwife now - they may be able to help and at least you won't feel so alone.

Please let us know how you are, and take care of yourself.

Pinchy xxx

Thanx Pinchy,
I hear what your saying.
At the moment I dont know whether i'm coming or going. I dont know if I mentioned that my mum is living with me, we get on really well which is good. But she still feels like she needs to be there for my dad, which means a lot of the time he is here.
Dh took me out all day sunday which was nice but as soon as I got in mum updated me with the news that dad threw away his anti-depressents again, due to the fact that he had felt like taking them all again!
It's like a vicious circle that keeps going round and round. He has been here again today, and I just feel so stressed. I cant tell him not to come over as I'm afraid that he wouldn't take the rejection and would top himself. So I dont really know what to do.