some space please!

[Loobylou12]

hello all! bit random but worrying for when dd arrives which is still 7 weeks away.... basically planning ahead for when she is born we have both got large families and lots of lovely friends living very close. im hoping to speak to people when she's born but also say politely we would love some space for a few days. i don't want every tom dick and harry coming for a gape.just want it to be me answer hubby for few days. any ideas how to do this politely!?x

I would just start dropping hints now. It's hard to know how you'll feel but if you prepare people now it'll make it easier.

I always found friends were happier to wait than family.

I was in hospital for 3 days with both my girls and luckily got a lot of the visitors over and done with during visiting times which was perfect for me... I didn't have to host and they got sent away again!!!

Just be honest and say you think you'll need some time to yourselves after the birth to bond and find your feet. It's not
Unreasonable!!!

Or leave hubby to sort it!! :)

Invite people over for a specific time? Say family over first?

PS Or get them to come one each day for 30 mins each to allow you to have a bath, pee, wash hair etc. oh and they have to bring dinner!

Wondering this myself. With DS we had visitors in the hospital from a few hours after his birth and they continued thick and fast for almost 2 weeks afterwards. At one point there were 9 people in my living room expecting cuddles, tea and cake. I won't bore you with all the reasons that was horrible for me but needless to say I want to do things differently this time.

I've sort of been casually mentioning to people that I don't want lots of visitors after DC2 is born but I think it'll be a bit of a cop-out text along the lines of "baby was born at this we would like a few days to recooperate and bond as a family and will be in touch again when we are ready for visitors" then when we are ready we will give suggested visiting times that are convenient to us.

A word of warning though - even if you do ask people to come at a particular time, they'll probably still turn up at the wrong time and outstay their welcome. It's exciting when there's a new baby to coo over but don't be afraid to politely ask them to leave if you or baby need your space. Good luck! :)

thanks everyone!x