Waiting 2 + weeks to see if it has gone wrong

[abigboydidit]

Hi,

Currently about 4.5 weeks pregnant (hard to gauge as still BFing DS so periods been erratic) & experiencing a lot of cramping and backache since Friday. Wasn't overly worried but had a one off incident of bright red blood when went to the loo earlier. Have seen both sides of the coin - 2 previous pregnancies, bled early in both - one ended in MC, the other in my DS. Have been advised just to wait it out as too early for a scan and to POAS in a week's time if bleeding increases. Finding it very hard to keep calm and distract myself and getting edgy every time I go to the loo. Dreading long meetings at work as feel am constantly wanting to check my undies when I feel cramps . DH doesn't know what to do with himself so am trying to keep it together for him and DS. Just been reading another thread and wondering if anyone has experience of getting examined earlier? Or is it pointless and I just need to wait it out? Thanks.

Hi, sorry you are having to go through this. The waiting to find out is the worst bit, from my experience a lot of epau's won't scan ppl before they are 6/7 weeks as any earlier and you probably wouldn't be able to see much anyway. As you know from previous pregnancies it is quite common to bleed, especially around the time you would likely have a period.

If the bleeding continues or the pain gets worse I would go to a&e where they will hopefully scan you or at least take bloods then take them again 48 hrs later to check if hcg levels are rising. X

Thanks. I'm sort of resigned to the wait now but finding it hard as the only two real life people who know are my DH and my sister. Obviously - they are the people who care most about me so I feel I will upset them if I show them how I'm feeling. Just worried 2 weeks is a long time to keep things bottled up but who knows - maybe there will be no more blood or..well I wont say the or out loud - but I suppose either way I might get more of an indication. Thanks for the reply!

Don't worry about upsetting those closest to you, don't bottle things up either! I had a mmc in December and bottled things up for ages at the risk of upsetting DP then just kind of broke down one day and then realised afterr talking that dp hadnt wanted to talk so as not to upset me! Your DP will understand and I really think you should talk about this. Good luck, I really hope the bleeding stays at a minimum (or not at all).