I think I need a slap too, really worried about 12 week scan tomorrow for no real reason

[mrswee]

I'm stressed about the scan tomorrow, I should be excited really, I've waited long enough! I'm almost 13 weeks with my second and feeling relaxed in general about the pregnancy but in the build up to tomorrow I have found it really hard to be excited.
It's not that I am convinced something is wrong as such, I am pretty sure there is an actual baby in there with all the symtoms I'm having but I think I am worried about the Nuchal fold test mainly. It;s taken all the magic out of the scan and I'm considering not having the test now.

It wasn't offered the last time I was pregnant and we also refused the downs blood tests they used to offer instead of the nuchal fold test in our area. It's only recently been introduced and we thought we would take it as no our priorities are a little differnt with a toddler to look after already. I don't know what we'd do with the information anyway but from what have read on here it has the potentail to cause lots of worry often unessesery, while further tests are done. I'm 36 and at week 13.. I'm thinking the odds might be higher.. argh I don't know what to do!
I have till 9.30 am to decide, I won't get a wink of sleep tonight!

I was exactly the same, I'm 23 weeks now and everything was fine with my nuchal test but I was so scared about it!

Try your best to put it to the back of your mind, I know full well that's easier said than done!

Keep repeating to yourself that "everything will be fine" and if things are getting on top of you then don't have it!

I discussed it with DH tonight but he says when it comes down to it only I can decide wether to have the test.. That's what it says in the NHS booklet and he's sticking to it! Argh that's not really helped me. I suppose the test is more likely in the odds of probability to give me reassurance things are fine rather than not. Argh again

I guess it depends on what you would do if the test picked anything up. I had it done knowing that even if it did pick up an issue I would still continue with the pregnancy, I just wanted to know either way so I could prepare myself. Everyone is different tho, unfortunately, only you can make the decision xx

I'm 20 weeks pregnant with DC2 and was exactly the same before my scan. It didn't help that I felt like I had waited FOREVER for a scan date, but I was sure that there would be nothing on the screen. My MW told me increased anxiety in 2nd pregnancies are totally normal, as with your 1st we are all naive yet by round 2 we have heard of or known someone who's pregnancy hasn't worked out. Don't worry, you will be fine. Its an enormous responsibility but your DH is right, the only one who can make that decision is you. Call it practice for all the decisions you will have to make in motherhood! Good luck!

Well ladies I had my scan and decided at the last min not to have the tests. I did discuss it with the sonographer and she agreed that it is not as accurate at 13 weeks.

I felt instantly better and that I could breath a bit better about the scan. I got two scans effectively because my bladder was too full, I had to go off and empty it and start again! it was great!