A baby, 3 miscarriages and now a BFP

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Thats it really! I've got a DS who is 3. Since then in the last 18 months I have had miscarriages at 9 weeks, 8 weeks then 6 weeks. Just got a BFP again and pretty scared.. How on earth do you not go mad... Deep breaths. Literally had no problems with DS. Anyone else in same boat? Can't imagine getting to 12 weeks and seeing a heartbeat.

Congratulations on your pregnancy.
I also had 3 miscarriages and tried baby aspirin on my next pregnancy from the moment of bfp the consultant then moved me onto clexane at 11 weeks
Im not sure if either of those things made the difference but I now have a lovely DD 11 months old.
These options might be worth exploring with your GP or midwife
Lots of luck x

Hello Schooldilemas, congratulations on you BFP! I am so sorry about your three miscarraiges- I lost my first baby at 20 weeks so i understand a little bit of what you are going through but to lose three one after another must have been devastating for you.

Can i recommend that you read/ join this thread here as it is full of lovely ladies in your position, and it has been a great source of information and friendship for me

Good luck with your pregnancy

Congrats sorry about your losses I have had 8MCs and have 1DD who is 6 so I have been in your position. I'm not preg at the mo but trying to get that way good luck with your pregnancy and PMA for a JB at 12 weeks! There's a thread called the mosh pit on conception full of ladies in this exact situation and handholding for the TTCers too! Come and join in

boris

Hi Marbles, oooh being recognised by a chum from another thread, a MN first for me!! :) :)

Schooldilemas it is the same thread we have both recommended!

glad to be of service

Wow thanks all for your lovely (and quick!) responses!

I will definitely head over to the other thread tonight after work and when DS in bed.

sorry for all of you about your miscarriages, to put it mildly, its crap :(

mynameis thats really interesting. basically my consultant has done a load of teste and the clotting one came back fine but before that happened one of his underlings(!) who stood in for him at one of my appointments suggested that i do that next time i get pregnant (asprin plus progesterone pessaries (sp?)) but then when i saw the actual main man consultant he said that no he didnt recommend that i took anything until after 12 weeks. hmm. I have my next appointment with him 8th June- do you think i should ask again then? or does the fact that those blood clot results were ok mean its not right for me? (sorry know youre not all Gynaecologists!)

Boris flippin heck. so so sorry- 20 weeks is incomprehensible. As is 8 miscarriages Marbles

I keep looking at the line! its not one of those really feint ones that i have had before- its a proper line and i am still 3 days before AF due, maybe this means its a strong one? #clutchingatstraws :)

thanks all

Hi
I was working in a maternity unit at the time and the advice was that the aspirin would do no harm so was worth a go
The consultant was more sceptical and said he didn't think it would make any difference to my miscarriage risks.
I think you will get varying advice but it was the only thing I did differently.
Oh and my clotting was also normal but was told my one dr that sometimes clotting problems don't actually show up until you fall pregnant?!

ok I might be brave I think and just start it. is it 75mg? and can you just get it from Boots? sorry for all the questions
thanks

ps- must have been even tougher for you working on a maternity unit :(

Congrats school on the BFP, great news.

I think maybe the underling may possibly have latched onto the standard aspirin and prog response? I don't know much about aspirin and any potential downsides, but I have used progesterone cream despite my levels being ok at testing. But whenever I have mentioned it I've always been told it's unnecessary in my case.

I have a DS (4 this week) and have had 3MMCs and 2 early MCs since. But am now 20 weeks, and so far all fine (anomaly scan tomorrow). So it IS possible. Hopefully you will get early reassurance scans? I have been scanned at 6, 8, 10, 12, 13, 15 this time round, and actually it has really helped (even though I was quite dismissive of the benefit before).

Good luck.

I think you should perhaps run it past your GP or midwife to help you make up your mind.
There is lots about it on MN as well.

In some ways working on a maternity unit was a help as I felt I could trust all the advice and got lots of reassurance 'listening in' in my last pregnancy

Let us know how you get on x

Schooldilemas, congratulations on your BFP! I have a ds (6) and then went on to have 4 m/c all round about the same weeks as you and I know how frightening it is to get a BFP again. What should be a euphoric feeling is replaced by fear. I am now lucky enough to be 20 weeks pg and I have been taking low dose aspirin daily on the advice of my consultant, even though my test showed that I didn't have a clotting problem, in fact they could see no problems with anything at all, just 'bad luck' as they put it. Also this time I received an HCG injection every week until 12 weeks. I felt exactly the same as you about getting to the 12 week mark, thought everyday would be a constant worry but I have fantastic EPU locally who scanned me every week as they knew how anxious I was. I'll be keeping everything crossed for you, please keep us updated xxx

ali and jollster amazing that you are now at 20 weeks... Gives me hope. Thanks guys. Sorry for delay in replying. I am away with work (a good think as it means I have to stop compulsively peeing on sticks!) so I haven't gone for the aspirin yet, I'm for some reason too scared too. I think because the consultant said not to then if I took it and had another miscarriage I would always be thinking that was the reason why I think. I am going to bring my consultant appointment forward I think as sure my GP won't have a clue. Then I can discuss with him a bit more. Ok, heading over to the other recommended thread later honest!