Just after reassurance to calm my paranoid mind

[chezziejo]

Hi all

I am being rather paranoid at the moment and not thinking very rationally. I am going for 12 week scan tomorrow but have somehow managed to convince myself there will be a problem. I have had a lot of things since being pregnant like two severe bouts of tonsillitis, then d n v, then a chest infection then d n v again. Last few weeks been fine tho. Also had a bleed at 6 weeks and they sent me for a scan which was fine little heartbeat was there. I just keep thinking how can this poor little mite have survived all that and all the antibiotics etc. lost a stone in weight too. But being rational I have no bleeding, boobs sore as hell. Someone please tell me there's nothing to worry about. On top of all that my lovely nearly two year old is having meltdowns about every 20 mins. Ahh the joys. Sorry for the long paranoid post xx

I had my scan last wk & have a 2yo DD. I kept feeling incredibly anxious about the scan but as soon as I lay on the table, I relaxed. I think the stats say 1% at this stage with no other worrying signs would have a sad outcome, so if that helps... It helped that the sonographer didn't even pause, just went 'there's one baby, heart beating' before I'd even really focussed on the screen!!

Having spoken to my mummy friends who've had their 2nd, I think its par for the course to feel more anxious second time around. You've been there, done that, heard all the horror stories & know exactly how precious this little thing is, whereas first time it might seem a little abstract iyswim.

Good luck tomorrow :)

Thanks chunkychicken. Hop

BloOdy phone.

Hoping I feel same as you once I get there tomorrow. I'm such an arse sometime.

It's been plain sailing for me, nausea, boob pain and abdominal discomfort at all the right times at the right levels, taken my multi vits, had nothing more than a runny nose, but i am still petrified I will get to the scan and there is nothing in my womb and this has all be hormonal or a mms. This is my first, and until the BFP I had convinced myself I was baron.

I'm hoping the nerves are same for everyone, we just all want our babies soo much we are scared or anything and everything!

Hi op ( on phone so can't see your name)
No advise but sympathy as I feel very similar to u. I'm 10 + 2 and am sooo worried being my first. I have just over 2 weeks to wait until my first scan and it can't come around quick enough although despite being extremely excited I'm equally anxious that like u said something horrid will happen at the scan.
I've had no sickness and so far no scan , blood test etc for confirmation so it's all based on my missed periods and the 3 tests I did.( sore boobs but that's it)
I too have had a virus and tonsillitis and have been left with a horrid cough ( currently on anti biotics plus having to take other allergy medication too- which is another worry !)
This weekend I had a knock to my tummy too ( drunk brother in law who doesnt know, play fighting and accidentally bashed me in the tummy) and so am panicking about that now! ( google is my best friend and worst enemy at the same time)

One part of me wants to get a scan early so I know but the other part thinks its only 2 weeks, I should wait and stop being silly.
Wish there was something that would stop us worrying.

I will be able to relax so much more once I see the baby and heart beat etc. 2 weeks and counting!!!

X

Totally normal, I think you spend the first twelve weeks paranoid that the baby is all in your head, then ok for a bit, then the last twelve weeks paranoid again.

There is nothing you can do, but live your life and try to make good choices to look after yourself - I had most of the above, and dental x-rays, was smoking and drinking before I realised that I was pg. I bled for five days when I was 17 weeks and I'm 36 weeks now, going to the Consultant later to find out if it needs to be hoiked out early due to my gestational diabetes.

Try to go with the flow.... (and good luck!)

Hi everyone

Thanks for all your replies, Well ive had the scan and everything is looking perfectly fine and im further on than thought, 13 weeks plus 3. So despite everything we have all been through i hope that it gives you a bit of reassurance :)

Im also a born worrier but feeling loads better now :)

Glad that the scan went well - I've have my 20 weeks scan tomorrow so expecting a somewhat sleepless night!

Aww good luck with scan. Are you finding out what your having?

Glad it went well cheezie I guess you're due about the same time as me - I'm 14+1 now :)