Anyone else's partner not that excited over a second pregnancy??

[jessebuni]

My first son is 3 1/2 now and I'm about 3-4 weeks away from my EDD of our second child. A girl this time. Only throughout the whole pregnancy my partner hasn't really been that fussed or excited. To start with I could understand because we've had a lot of miscarriages so up to the 12 weeks period or even a little after I could understand the not wanting to be excited but now when I'm 36+ weeks why can't he be excited? He hasn't been overly bothered about feeling the baby move this time or getting involved in anything and we haven't even picked a few possible names yet! I'm sure he'll be fine when the baby arrives but has anyone else's partner not been excited during the pregnancy of a second or third etc. baby?

I'm 40+6 & DP is exactly the same. Never really bothered to touch the bump this time, let alone talk to it, has shown no interest in buying the few new things that we needed, has failed to ask about my MW appts etc. Luckily DD (2.6) is fascinated by the whole thing & regularly comes over to chat to "baby bruvver", sing him a song etc so that sort of makes up for it. We have spoken about names but fairly briefly and that seems to have been the end of the discussion.

My dh was similar. We agonised over names for ds1. With the twins, I suggested names which he vetoed. When it came down to it (after they were born), I totally got my own way , so it does have advantages. I think it loses novelty a bit when the baby is not actually inside you, bit of 'been there done that', but when the babies came he was just as good as the first time around.

Heck I'm pregnant with DC2 and I'm not that excited!

Some people just don't get excited until the baby arrives. I'm one of those and I can feel the baby and have all the lovely pregnancy symptoms. Once the baby arrives I expect it'll all be very different.

yeah my son seems excited, or at least he comes up and talks to my bump and watches it move around (or did before she got so big that the movements are slightly less often) and kisses my bump goodnight etc. luckily my side of the family haven't had a single baby girl in 10 years so they're all super crazy buying and knitting pink things but i was just hoping my partner would be a little more excited this close to the end. especially since i've been so ill all the way through (i have aplastic anaemia so it's been one hell of a pregnancy lol) i've also had hypermesis gravidarum and lost 2 stone during my pregnancy. if nothing else he could be excited that he's going to have a skinnier girlfriend AFTER being pregnant than he did before! between being ill and the usual pregnancy hormones and niggles i just want to slap him and say for christs sake at least act interested! i'm glad to know it's not just me though.

I'm in earlier stages but DH keeps forgetting that I am pregnant this time!

Am also experiencing lack of interest from DH this time round, and find it very hurtful. Thankfully, as others have said, DS is being an absolute diamond about it all. I do fear that this dismissive attitude is going to continue after the birth. He was so supportive and wonderful first time and we still struggled massively with the enormity of it all, so the idea of going through that alone is terrifying to me.