Mum driving me up the wall for updates!

[Panda1234]

I'm 40 weeks and getting a sweep this afternoon. If nothing happens then the plan is for me to get induced on Friday. Pregnancy is after lots of IVF treatment, previous losses, and general drama.

The pregnancy has been fine but I'm slowly getting driven around the bend by my mum, though. For the past couple of weeks she's been phoning, texting or e-mailing on average 2-3 times a day. This morning she texted me twice before half past 8 and woke me up (am thinking I should get sleep while I have the chance). She's now moved on to asking my sister if there's any news.

She's got 4 gc already - I think my previous history is making her more hyped up than she really needs to be. She's also tried to invite herself to stay, which she hasn't done with any of the other gc (I've already told her this isn't happening!).

Most of the time her text messages or calls are a lot of inconsequential nonsense, and she's making up stupid reasons to get in touch just in case I go into labour and don't tell her. We have promised we'll let her know if anything happens but I'm getting so irritated, and worried that she'll just be on the phone to the hospital constantly, or turn up unexpectedly, that I'm tempted not to say anything at all when we go in.

I know it's only because she's excited, but I just want a bit of peace and, to be honest, the pestering is really putting me on edge and making me more stressed! Short of turning the phone off, is there anything I can do? Any advice?

Oh dear ! How annoying ! My mum has already made arrangements for my other 2 kids so she can come to the birth urn
Not being funny buy didnt really want her there this time I dnt no y but she is his driving me insane! She lives round the corner she wants to b at mine every weekend and we jus need time to ourselves! But I can't find a round about way of telling her without worrying I sound like a right cow! I no she means well but sometimes I think she forgets these are my children and yes she is welcome to see them but as I work full-time including evenings I would too like to see my children without her breathing down my neck sati g oh don't say that and do it like this bla bla she only had me! This is my third I think I no what I'm doing now!

Panda do you want ur mum there for the birth? Or would u rather not?

I do

For the birth? No way! I just want my DH there until I'm cleaned up!

She stays about an hour away.

My sister just texted me to say that mum is phoning me this afternoon. Apparently sis tried to explain that sweeps aren't instantly effective - and I think gently hint NOT to get on my case - but this didn't work.

I don't want to offend her, and it's lovely that she's so enthusiastic, but she's doing my head in.

Snap ! At least she not at the birth ! I'm hoping mi e will b too quick ha ha

My MIL was like this too. I had most of my IL's sitting in my living room while I was in early labour upstairs!

She also harassed my SIL who apparently she could tell was going to have her baby early so she must be hiding the fact she's having signs of early labour.

However, my mum (who I'm very close to) knew I'd let her know when I was ready and just left me to it, . Well until she got a call to bring something over and ended up taking us to hospital. I bet that pissed MIL off no end!

Unplug the phone/switch off the mobile?
Sorry that's not very helpful! Sorry if this is insensitive but is it just your mum or is yourr dad still around/does she have a partner? If so could you have a word with him - he might be able to diplomatically reduce her level of contact.
Failing that I would take the call from your mum this afternoon and gently but firmly explain to her that what's really important right now is that you're relaxed and getting as much rest as you can - You know she's excited and means well, but her contacting you constantly is not helping with that, and that she will be the first person you let know as soon as there's any news (ie once the baby is born and you're "cleaned up")

Just tell her. My parents both phoned me every day of my maternity leave when I was expecting DS, they can be quite smothering sometimes. My Mum (who was at home) would phone 1st then 10 mins after hanging up with her my Dad (who was at work) would ring . It was so obvious that the second my Mum had finished speaking to me she would ring my Dad and then they would finish their conversation and my dad would then ring me. It drove me fucking potty until after about 2 weeks I snapped and said "look I'm big, I'm tired, overdue and pissed off could you maybe arrange for just one of you to phone me and then relay that message to the other because I'm starting to get annoyed." Fortunately they understood and just one them phoned me from then on. I didn't tell them when I went into labour as I had a feeling they would turn up at the hospital which is the last thing I would have wanted. My DH phoned them after about 14 hours of labour to tell. i was in labour for 32 hours and they phoned the ward every hour , I think the midwives startedto get pissed off and told them not to phone again as my DH would phone them as soon as there was any news.
Just be frank with her and tell her that you need your rest and her constant phone calls are not helping you and as soon as there is any news she will be the 1st to know.

Panda that's just reminded me about when MIL told me SIL was being induced at 40+3. I was surprised as, at the time, there were no concerns etc. So I asked SIL when I next saw her and she said it was a sweep. Then when I saw PIL's the next day I took great pleasure in explaining exactly what a sweep involved (with finger actions and everything) and what could happen next. They didn't mention it again!

I'd just tell her how you feel if I were you. If she's just doing it because she's excited/anxious then she'd probably be mortified if she knew how much she's stressing you out.

thanks all.

as it turns out, my bp was quite high and ive been admitted to be induced. i tried to call my mum to tell her but her phone went straight to voicemail! i ended up calling my dad and leaving strict instructions for my mum NOT to start phoning me or the hospital and that we'll get in touch when there's news.

all would be peaceful apart from that the woman opposite is still watching her fucking tv unit and the noise is keeoing me awake. but you cant win them all!