Anyone else got ppl badgering you about wen they can have baby??

[Sarahmarie2505]

I have had loads of ppl say oh wen u have the baby wen will I get a turn?? Even one asked after 2 weeks of birth? I mean FFs I know it's my third but that doesn't mean I want to give birth and then just dump her! I want to try and breastfeed aswell and get my older 2 to bond with her nicely aswell !

A turn to hold/cuddle baby while you're around I assume? Or to take her away for days on end? I'm sorry you feel that way, perhaps they are just being kind in their own way and very excited about your new arrival.
I'll be lucky if my parents show up for a cuddle, or to have a break at all, I think you're fortunate :) Grass is always greener on the other side!
Best of luck to you. At least there are people around who give a toss!

Oh no ppl can cuddle and hold as much as they please ! No ppl are talking about for the day/overnight ! I appreciate the break but not ready to b thrown into panic expessing so they can have her for the day wen she only b 2 weeks old! I feel presurised I wasn't offered as a help jus wen can I have it for the day I would like her wen she is about 2weeks old ! Ok I'd I need help I will let u no and as I have Bern working so hard I'm really looking forward to my maternity leave !

Just say something ridiculous like 'I reckon I should be just about ready a couple of weeks after their 23rd birthday' or '4pm on 14th August, 2038 please'

And then if they don't realise they have asked a silly question, you can say well obviously I'll be breastfeeding her for the first few weeks/months/years so it will have to be once that finishes, plus to start with the other dc will be bonding, I'll be bonding and enjoying my maternity leave with her, but once that's all done and we're settled, then we can talk and delay again.

enjoy your maternity leave and congratulations to you all. Remember she is your baby so nobody else has a right to have her!

I feel bad about my mum :(

I moved 200 miles away from home when I was 18 and have stayed here ever since. DH's parents live close by. We've told our parents we just want "a week" to have some time, just the three of us to get to know each other, when the baby is born. This covers all the parents, but I thought it would work out logistically better for my parents as of course, they wouldn't be able to just dash down at the first contraction - they'd need to arrange time out of work, a hotel etc.

It transpires my mum has taken this "a week" as seven days gospel, worried to the nth degree, and come up with "but it might be a fortnight until I get to meet them - what if you give birth on a Friday? Seven day from that is the next Friday, and what if I can't book time off work until the following week??"

Yikes.

In short I don't have an answer because it seems fraught with worry, people's expectations, and people projecting their worries and needs already. Sorry - not much help, I know.

I know ppl are excited etc as I have been for friends and family in the past but I've not demanded I have their newborn of course I've said if they need a hand then give me a call I'll b glad to help! Not to start pressurising me into it !

Be up front with them.

Tell them it's not advised that a BF woman expresses until baby is at least 6wo, to establish supply and prevent nipple confusion and even then some babies won't take a bottle

OR

Just say you'll let them know when you're ready, smile, change the subject.

DD was 6 mo before I left her with anyone for even just 20 minutes. She's 2yo now and has only been away from me overnight once - when DS was born - and I even ummed and ahhed and cried when I made that decision!

Be frank but gentle. You've had previous experience so you know what you're talking about, not some romantic notion of life with newborn :)
Wishing you all the best, enjoy your LO.

I've had the same thing too, and from people I hardly know either!!

This is going to sound ungrateful, but the other thing I have people going on about is taking DC1 and 2 off my hands when I have the baby. I'm sure their intentions are great but they are my kids too and the last thing I'm going to do is palm them off when their new brother is here! Clean my house, cook me food but I actually quite like my kids company!!!

(may change my mind after sleepness nights!!!)

" a couple of weeks after their 23rd birthday' or '4pm on 14th August, 2038 please"

zipzap that is brilliant :o

I already have this issue with some family. I think some people get overexcited and just don't think logically. I've had both extremes of one person who will come to the hospital and take the baby home for me, some that are frantically doing up spare bedrooms as nurseries and some that couldn't care less and I will probably never hear from again after the birth as I won't 'be the same'

Oh I won't delay saying y she can't have her at that age! Plus to b honest her baby was always left in dirty clothes and a dirty nappy for ages so she would b my last choice! Just interesting to see other ppl that have had these funny demands