5weeks pregnant with 2nd husband had breakdown

[Sonar]

Husband had nervous breakdown from OCD/depression.
Business owner so can't take time off as just him.
I'm 5weeks pregnant with 2nd child & sick with worry.
Can't be helping baby & don't know what to do.
Pregnancy planned so that's not the issue although probably doesn't help matters.
He's been to docs but now a waiting game.

((((Hugs))))) Whats happened exactly?

He is feeling very low & sad & can't see a light @ end of tunnel.
Our relationship is fine but I am just so worried about him.
As works for himself he can't take time out. Struggling with workload. I can help but needs counselling really.

Hi Sonar, sorry you are going through such a tough time. My DH and I have both struggled with depression, sometimes at the same time.

I think its trying to balance being there for the other person, being supportive in whatever ways you can and not getting so emotionally involved that your own stress and mental health suffer, especially while you are pregnant. You can't fix how he's feeling or take it on yourself, you can just keep him company whilst he's feeling it and offer support when its useful and what you can manage.

Look after yourself, your baby and your older child whilst he's going through this. Make sure the that you all (including him if he feels up to it) take some time to do stuff you enjoy (day out - even something little like going swimming, or for a walk etc).

Take care x

Has he seen his GP? I think thats the first step. As for the pregnancy, don't worry babies are born all the time after stressful pregnancies, my dd being one. Keep posting, you need the support as well as DH.xx

Oh hes been to docs, ok, what did gp say? Why is it a waiting game? Is he on ads?

Thank you for your kind words of support.
By waiting game I just me he'd really like to get some cognitive therapy to help with OCD but has to wait to see counsellor.
Sure we'll get there.
Thank u again.

Try the Lindon method. Good luck. Hope things work out for you.