Sex and pregnancy

[theressomethingaboutmarie]

So since getting pregnant, have you still been regularly having sex? I'm 24 weeks with DS1 (we have a DD) and whilst it hasn't been as regular, DH still seems to find me attractive. The weird thing though is that with this pregnancy, he only wants to have sex with a condom but when I was expecting DD, it wasn't the case. Just curious to see if anyone else is experiencing this.

Yes I am (and did with other two as well) don't really see why you wouldn't. Bit confused about the condom though. Have you asked him why?

It was very infrequent in first pregnancy as DH found me 'freaky' but more frequent this time round.

The use of a condom sounds a little odd, not to say suspicious - the only valid reason I can think of to use one at this stage is to prevent transmitting an STD :(

That is total conjecture though. Is he the type who might have had a sneaky fling (like one-night stand) at any point? Is he particularly nervous about this pregnancy? Might just be (slightly odd) nerves.

Yes, he said that he feels a bit funny about it this time around. I suppose the idea of the sperm getting anywhere near the foetus. I've explained how it's not possible but he seems a little freaked out by it.

I certainly hope he's not the type to have had a fling (I can't think of when he'd have had time to actually) and certainly hasn't had any behavioural changes to suggest issues. I'm quite certain it's down to the idea of the sperm going anywhere near the foetus. Weird though huh?

No

To be honest, i'm feeling very ugly and very fat at the moment (14 weeks second pregnancy) and i'm bigger than I was with my first, so i'm completely off sex at the moment, not to mention being knackered every night after running around after my 14mo!
However DP is always up for it, so I know he finds me attractive still - I find myself apologising to him every night for not wanting to! We're still very touchy feely and kiss alot though, so all is not lost :)

Glad to hear some of you still have the drive!

We haven't really no... currently 10 weeks and no sex since about 5 weeks. Two reasons, first I've had bleeding on and off since 5 weeks and am worried about making it worse (or at least, I want to be sure it's not sex that's causing it). Second I feel deeply unattractive due to terrible skin, wind and bloating, and am knackered in the evenings!

No, I'm 21 weeks and we've only had sex twice since I found out at 4 weeks. The main reason for that is that I seem to be prone to spotting and sex has set it off and it's just not worth the stress and worry afterwards. Was similar with my first child too.

I think if I didn't have this problem, we'd both love to do it. Always use condoms, even when pregnant, but obviously not when TTC. Neither of us like the mess.

When you had your first child, did you use the 'sperm/sex to set off labour theory'? Maybe that has stuck in his mind.

until which stage of pregnancy is sex safe ? I am thinking about the sperm inducing birth theory. I am now 30 weeks and would not like to trigger labour at 34/35 weeks for example.

I'm pretty sure sex is safe right til birth. It will only set off labour if your cervix is ready if thhat makes sense.

Last time we had loads more sex in the first 3-4 months (I think my enormous boobs helped!) then it all dried up.

This time we've had sex 2 or 3 times (I'm 11 weeks) but it has made my bleeding worse so haven't had sex for a couple of weeks.

I'm sure it'll dwindle again this time even without bleeding issues as DP is weird about the whole penis/baby's head thing, no matter how many anatomical discussions we have!

We are not doing it as much as we would both like, due to spotting after sex as others have said causing massive worry each time it happens. So its been twice a week which I suppose isn't too bad really, just less than we used to have! I am missing different positions and spontaneous wild sex too- becase of the spotting it has all been very gentle missionary. Its just not worth the worry though on balance.

Wow twice a week sounds good to me!
I am 15 weeks and we have not dtd since BFP!
We were advised to avoid until 12 weeks due to prevous losses and now we are too scared. DH also seems convinced that he will poke the baby (delusions of grandeur!) We will obvioulsy have to get over it, but I am scared of any post coital bleeding with my history, i think it will send me in to a frenzy

I have been ridiculously frisky in this pregnancy so yes we have been bonking lots but am now 29 weeks and not quite as agile. Apaz orgasms are good for you in pregnancy?!

32 weeks here and still active

Although orgasms have set off the odd BH, which has freaked poor DP out

i was still going on my due date!

i kind of figured i'd be off it afterwards so felt it important to keep that side of my marriage going as long as possible!

I am thirty seven weeks and we are at it like rabbits the last few months as my sex drive has come back. However we abstained for a while earlier in peg due to bleeds abc pain. Oneoccured after massage then snot her after I had an orgasm so i did not have one for six weeks until baby was a 'viable' age. Eventually got our groove back but even if you are not having penetration you can do all kinds of other things, that's what we did whilst waiting! I am thinking as so close maybe I should slow it down a tad. Female orgasm causes womb to contract hence bleeds some women get. Did not know sperm set off labour is that true!

I was told trhat sperm and orgasms can help set off labour. It's to do with the oxytocin IIRC. But your cervix etc also needs to be ready for labour so sex alone won't set off early labour.
Good luck!

8 weeks pg here and I'm gagging for it all the time! In fact, DP has been working really hard and has been too tired a few times, and I've got a bit fed up with him about it

Orgasms are soooo much better now I'm pg, and DP seems to find the whole pregnancy thing a big turn on (lucky me).

I've been lucky though, no sickness or spotting, so no reason why not really! I agree with sunnyday about keeping that side of things going for as long as possible....