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Pregnancy

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Which was your most difficult stage of pregnancy?

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Gagagalaxy · 12/05/2012 09:09

I'm only 15 weeks. The first 12 weeks were mental torture - worries about miscarriage, 'is there really anything in there?' etc., topped off with feeling exhausted and dry heaving every time I got slightly hungry (and I got off lightly with the morning sickness).

After the 12 week scan I have settled down a bit BUT I'm still finding that I am worrying a lot due to the fact that I have no idea what's going on inside me and whether mini Galaxy is doing ok. I still don't like taking about being pregnant too much just in case. I cannot wait until I can feel movement!!!

Does it get better - or did you find the third tri equally as hard, or worse? Is it a different kind of horribleness, is. Physical discomfort rather than mental worry?

I'm assuming there'll be a few golden weeks when I can feel movement but am not yet massive where I will really enjoy being pregnant...

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Bartiimaeus · 12/05/2012 09:14

I didn't enjoy it much until 7 months when i stopped being quite so sick. Really enjoyed the last 1.5 months (DS was early). Little sickness, lots of lovely kicks, no work and the end in sight! I did become a bit obsessed with counting kicks though as was scared of losing the baby at the end (no reason why).

Florin · 12/05/2012 09:14

1st trimester was mental torture, felt so ill and as you said the worry was just awful. I felt good for 2nd trimester and really enjoyed my pregnancy and growing bump. Now 34 weeks and now feeling really dreadful again. So tired all the time, my body aches everywhere, can't sleep and having to pee approximately every 2.5 minutes. Roll on the next 6 weeks!

Bartiimaeus · 12/05/2012 09:15

Oh and physically i felt much better at the end than the beginning but thats probably cos i wasn't working and could rest more (despite a pea-sized bladder!)

ellangirl · 12/05/2012 09:18

Mental worry does improve a lot when you can feel it moving regularly, although as previous poster said then you stress about counting kicks! Weeks 18-30 were v good for me, after that I got spd pain and really fatuncomfortable. Lots of people I in know felt great right until the end tho. I am 16+3 now and although I think I have felt tiny movements, I'll be a lot happier when I get a few good kicks!!

Msfickle · 12/05/2012 09:19

I'm 7 months pregnant and I totally understand where you are coming from with early days. That seems to be the time you worry the most. The baby is still developing and your risk is higher. Everything in your world is different but there are no physical signs to the outside world

What I do know now though is to enjoy the early months when you can still do most things. I wasn't sick and had no bump until around 5 months so was able to carry on with all my exercise etc.

Now I'm starting to feel tired and it's quite frustrating. The due date is now looming and I'm starting to realise that I have only a couple of months left of freedom.

All your worry won't change anything so try to just carry on as normal as you can while you can!!!

ragged · 12/05/2012 09:24

Morning sickness, so maybe 8-14 weeks.
3rd trimester probably easiest. Quite enjoyed it other than feeling bulky at very end.

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Flisspaps · 12/05/2012 09:29

The final 3 hours.

ellangirl · 12/05/2012 09:33

Ha flisspaps, only 3?! Did you get your home birth by the way?

Yama · 12/05/2012 09:37

From about 31-37 weeks. Was very uncomfortable and birth seemed a long way off. Last couple of weeks had the same discomfort but end was nigh.

LST · 12/05/2012 09:40

I had a shite 1st trimester. And morning sickness didn't go until about 18 weeks. But after that I have never felt as good as I did my entire life.

I can't wait to do it again.

sparklekitty · 12/05/2012 09:46

I found the mental worry reduced as soon as I started being able to feel my little one regularly. I obviously still stress if I've not felt her for most of the day but I feel much less stressed about it. I got away very lightly with MS but have not really recovered from the exhaustion. It is better than the first tri (I'm 20 weeks) but I do a very tiring job so I don't feel I have much respite.

nomoreminibreaks · 12/05/2012 09:47

The first trimester was the worst for me, feeling so sick and tired all the time and trying not to show it.

Second trimester was definitely better, feeling better, getting to wear all my new maternity clothes and feeling really good about my body. It's the most confident I've ever felt in my own skin because I finally didn't have to hold my gut in

Third got harder - carpel tunnel, high blood pressure, worries about the size of my giant baby, cankles, fat hands, people asking if I was having twins - but I still enjoyed it. I also knew it was my last few weeks of freedom!

javotte · 12/05/2012 14:04

The first trimester was awful (terrible sickness all the time).
Second trimester OK.
The end of the last trimester was difficult to : sciatica (I walked with crutches for the last 3 weeks) and gallstones that were more painful than childbirth.

scarletforya · 12/05/2012 16:30

The first 12-14 weeks without a doubt. Nausea and crashing tiredness.

Flisspaps · 12/05/2012 17:21

ellangirl so very nearly - 25 hours of ctx at home and then transferred in due to prolonged second stage and being knackered. An awkwardly positioned, 11lb 7oz DS was produced by forceps 3 hours after the suggestion was made to transfer...those being the worst 3 hours!

ellangirl · 12/05/2012 19:11

11 lb 7 is impressive! No pph? If not that gives me hope! Hope you and your DS are doing well now

PinkChampagneandStrawberries · 12/05/2012 19:15

The 1st months were definitely the worst after about 16/17 weeks I loved it even although I still had morning sickness and the usual worries I loved being pregnant.

NeedToSleepZZZ · 12/05/2012 19:22

Worst bit was from a week after I poas until 38weeks, best bit was giving birth and knowing I wouldn't be pregnant anymore

Weezie85 · 12/05/2012 19:32

Can't say I have enjoyed any of it to be honest. Up until about 25 weeks I was sick all the time.
When that went it was ok, but from about week 32 I have been shattered. Now 38+3 and I cannot wait for it to be over. My bump is getting painful now.
As for worry, had a bleed at 9 weeks so worried about that. Apart from that it has only been in the last week or two that I have started to panic when I haven't felt the baby kick in a while.

Flisspaps · 12/05/2012 19:56

ellangirl!Oh yes, 1500ml but that was treated with 2 boxes of iron tablets! No transfusion and felt (and looked)considerably better than I did after 700ml PPH with DD. Intervention )forceps) and prolonged second stage as well as previous PPH made it more likely.

Still feel HB plan was absolutely the right one for me and DS

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