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PicklesisScared · 11/05/2012 05:18

Ladies, thank you for yesterday. I feel my mind is a tad straighter. Off to see my councillor later :) so she will be impressed with me getting off my bottom! Right I've been awake all night fretting and googling silly things (such as can u give birth alone)
Haha think I've a bit more to deal with first!!! That should be the easy bit! So girls if you've read my thread (if you have a little time I'd really appreciate it) then help me make a plan
Of action :) first things first like. Tried discussing it with small jack Russell, but he isn't computer literate and unable to hold a
Pen, and is far too busy trying not
To be bribed by OH!!
Much thanks once again, here's to a positive day :) xxx

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PicklesisScared · 11/05/2012 10:46

Please anyone?

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milk · 11/05/2012 11:29

Didn't see your other thread. What are you going on about?

PicklesisScared · 11/05/2012 11:30

Sorry milk I don't know how to add
My thread? It's the one called if you have a little time I'd really appreciate it x

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AdiVic · 11/05/2012 11:46

Hello - wow, you sound upbeat! Glad to hear you are feeling better than yesterday:) I read yesterdays and really felt for you. Having a baby, being P is scary enough without having to deal with some of the stuff you do. How is your relationship with your mum? Is she local? If you feel you can, I would tell her - she will prob rant and rave for a bit, but unless she's a beast, she will come around - it's not as if you are 14 for gods sake! She could be good support for you???? And it may be that you don't' have to give birth alone.

Talk to your councillor, hope they are good support for you? Use every resource you can, ask midwife for classes/groups/workshops - get in the spirit of things:) It will keep you busy, bring you into contact with other local mums and support groups. Try to focus on the positive and not the negative, and dont' waste your time googling negative stuff! There are a million horror stories out there, and I would say the majority are vastly exaggerated.

It will be scary, and hard being a single mum if that's how things end up, but women have done it before and will do it again. I can remember my Gran telling me how she lost her husband a month before the war ended, whilst she was 8 months pregnant - she went on to lead a very happy life with more children, and was also in her early 20's. It's a tough job, but I reckon you can do it (easy for others to say I know).

P.s. IFFFF you and your other half go your separate ways, make sure you get custody of the dog! I have a terrier (airdale) and he has been more supportive and sweet than the other half at times:) Love him! He will get you out the house for walks and be good company:)

Keep your chin up - it's easy for others to give good advice when not in the same boat, just be the best you can for yourself and your baby x

mrswee · 11/05/2012 12:15

Here is a link to your thread so others can look.
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/1469734-If-you-have-a-little-time-Id-really-appreciate-your-views

Hi
I read your other thread and I am really glad you are feeling positive today and glad you are speaking to your councillor about it. I hope they will help you get things straight in your head.
I hope you get a chance to talk to your mum too.
I personally really think your other half is trying to force you and no matter how scared he is, it isn't really right and I hope you can find the strength to stand up to him for your own sake.
A clinic should never offer you an abortion if you don't actually want one, that is what the councilling part is for, so if it comes down to it and you feel forced to go to the clinic on thursady, tell them at the time you don't want to go through with the procedure even if this really upsets your OH. I hope it doesnt come to that though and that you can get the support you need from your family and your councillor if your other half doesn't come round in time.

You will get lots of support from people on here!

I wish you the best of luck.

I am in no way against abortion, I believe it is a choice that sometimes people have to make, and it isn't a choice made lightly. But no one should ever be forced into it, no one should ever have that decicsion made for them. You say you have already been there and regretted it 100% so I think you know your answer already.

PicklesisScared · 11/05/2012 12:34

You lot are fantastic. Maybe I should take the bull by the horns and tell mum. Just off to get a pregnancy pack? And seeing citizens advice Monday to see if I can find somewhere to live or stay. OH out tonight so going to get my books out with
my jack Russell who is being more mature over this! No one shall ever take him away!!! Thanks guys

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mrswee · 11/05/2012 13:57

Good luck, keep being strong and keep making plans like you are, it will help you get through the difficult moments!

AdiVic · 11/05/2012 18:04

Take a deep breath and tell your mum:) Good luck and like mrswee said, stay strong and keep making plans..............you sound more with it and organised than me:) All the best to you, may your JR look after you well x

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