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How soon after a miscarraige can I try again?

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zoeymlucas · 09/05/2012 15:49

Me and my husband were planning on tryin for another baby next year as I have an incompetent cervix and need alot of medicalhelp including operations and alot of time in hospital. However 2 weeks ago we found out we were expecting and once the shock wore off we were really excited and happy and couldnt wait.
Over the weekend we had some bleeding and the hospital said they didnt think i was miscarring and it was just a treatened miscarraige. I knew it was over in my heart however much my husband tried to say I didnt really know and it would be fine. However, yesterday a rather cold and uninterested nurse rang to say that my bloods show i had lost the baby and to do another test in a week to make sure it was negative (not looking forward to that).
Me and the hubby now really want to try again as thinking about it we both really want this and no time is going to be perfect with my medical condition - we were just wondering how long we should wait till we start trying? Also do I take the pill for a bit to settle hormones?

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SimplyTes · 09/05/2012 16:03

Hello, first of all I am so sorry to hear about your m/c.

I have had two m/c, after the first one I waited till I had my period and then tried again - he is now 6 years old and at school! I wouldn't take the pill personally.

Good luck.

Fishandjam · 09/05/2012 16:07

Hi zoey. I'm really sorry to hear of your m/c, especially with an incompetent cervix to factor in. Having heard the news in the way you did can't have helped either :( How far gone were you? I'm just asking in case you need any medical follow-up.

I had a m/c last year and was advised to wait until I had had at least one normal period before trying again. (I had an ERPC, and my period turned up 4 weeks on the dot afterwards.) I don't think it would be a good idea to take the Pill your hormones are likely to unsettle when you come off it again. I did, however, take a good multivitamin/mineral supplement and made sure my diet was healthy.

Good luck!

Fishandjam · 09/05/2012 16:07

PS: should have said - I am now 32+3 with DC2 :)

MammaInTheMaking · 09/05/2012 16:15

Sorry to hear of your mc.

I also had an mc in august last year (about 7 weeks). although we were advised to wait for a cycle, we felt ready to try again very quickly and amazingly we got pregnant again straight away. now 36 weeks and ready to drop.

wishing you all the very best.

mirry2 · 09/05/2012 16:20

I was advised to try whenever I wanted. My consultant said why wait

DaisyMaisyJessicaEmily · 09/05/2012 16:25

I had mixed advise. EPU said wait 1 cycle at least, MW said 3 cycles for grieving process but that it was only for the ease of doctors making edds that they like you to wait at least 1 cycle and that whenever you feel ready to go for it.

RickGhastley · 09/05/2012 16:27

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I wish you all the best should you choose to try again.

I was advised to wait until I'd had a period before trying - we didn't and fell PG straight away.

However this did cause problems with dating the pregnancy - the Drs dated it from the date of my miscarriage and assumed I'd ovulated 2 weeks after that. I know I ovulated much later than that as I get terrible pains.

It did cause problems when the Drs were trying to decide when to induce DS (I had obstetric cholastasis) and he was quite ill when he arrived - probably more prem then we thought.

So I'd advise to wait till your periods are back to normal again if you can.

Chunkychicken · 09/05/2012 16:28

I think it depends how far sl

Chunkychicken · 09/05/2012 16:35

Sorry, phone cut me off...

I think it depends how far along you were and how regular your cycles are.

I had an early pg loss (it was so heavy, it was obvious what it was, so didn't go to the GP) and did a test when I finished bleeding, so I could be sure it was negative. I was so desperate to be pg I used LH surge strips to check I ovulated 'normally' and we conceived again straight away. I'm now 12wks & awaiting the scan.

I did some research to see if I caused myself or baby greater risk & I couldn't find any evidence to suggest it would. It seems the primary motivation in waiting is to get your cycles back on track/to date the subsequent pg. If you are further along, you might need medical intervention as other posters have said.

Don't go on the pill, it might disrupt your cycles further.

DaisyMaisyJessicaEmily · 09/05/2012 16:37

There is research out there showing that there are "better outcomes" for women who concieve again within the first 6mo after a mc :)

fatmummy35 · 09/05/2012 17:23

Sorry for your loss

I was told to go home and immediately try again as after a MC your body is still full of the hormones needed for pregnancy and the doctor was right as I fell immediately - DS is now 13 months old

Good luck x

Thechick · 09/05/2012 18:25

Im really sorry for your loss. I mc in jan at 5 wks and we tried again after one cycle and I'm now 12 weeks. I've read that you are more fertile after a mc and your body really wants to cling on to a baby. Not sure if it's true or not but it worked for us. It is prob best to wait at least one cycle like someone else said, for dating purposes.

StateofConfusion · 09/05/2012 18:45

I had a mmc at 14wks in december, followed by an erpc, I'm now 8+5wks pregnant, I started trying as soon as I felt up to it.

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zoeymlucas · 10/05/2012 10:52

I was 6 weeks + 5 days so not very far at all, the issue with dating the pregnancy incase I have the need to be induced wont really apply to me as I know I wont ever really get that far so far I have had a 28 week and a 33 week baby.
My cycles are regular as clock work and 4 weekly on the dot, I think the best way is jus to wait till the bleeding stop and see how my body feels then as right now I am not sure it has really sunk in as I am trying to carry on as normal and not sit and wollow as much as I want to go to bed and not face the world right now I went back to work the next day and have just put my head downa nd got on with it.

Thanks for the advise and its nice to hear other peoples stories of things working well after a m/c :)

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jessebuni · 10/05/2012 11:54

I've in total had 5 miscarriages so far and one completely natural healthy birth and I'm now 35 weeks with my second. The time you wait is totally up to you but it's normally recommended you wait until you've had a period first but there's no need to go on the pill or anything if you feel you want to try again in only a short while. I lost 3 at 6-7 weeks, one at 9 weeks and one at 12 weeks, the one at 12 weeks being the worst and i was actually signed off work for 2 months because I was so miserable but a few of weeks after going back to work I found out that I was already pregnant! 10 weeks pregnant! We weren't planning on trying for a little while after that one but we'd had unprotected sex once on my partners birthday and as it turned out that gave us our first son connor who is now 3 1/2. There's no right or wrong when recovering from miscarriage it's totally up to you and your body!

DaisyMaisyJessicaEmily · 10/05/2012 13:37

I'd say that maybe it would be more important for you to wait till at least one cycle in that case zoeymlucas as it could literally be the difference between medics in a premature birth event doing xyz instead of not if that makes sense?

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