ruined surprise?

[joanna1985]

I went for my 20 week scan last week and told the nurse i didnt want to know the sex of my baby, however when she was showing us it she refered to it as her! do you think this was a slip up or what? im a bit :( if i think she ruined the surprise for me. some people have been saying to me that they all do that and that some call the baby him/her to make it more personable but i dont know if they are just saying that to make me feel better! on the plus side there are loaddddddddds of cute girl names but i cant think of ANY boy names!!

I think she probably just wanted to call the baby something other than "it". You can't be sure though, so it's still a surprise!

When I had my 20 week scan with my first, the sonographer definitely said "his thigh bone" when measuring. I told my midwife friend about this who said lots of sonographers just refer to 'a' sex. My baby was a girl!

With my 2nd every sonographer referred to the baby as he/him/his and he was a boy. We too had said we didn't want to find out. I will never know if it was a slip up or not, but tbh it was better than hearing 'it' made it more real iyswim? We still found out ourselves at the birth.

yeah i suppose so im so excited!! few friends of mine have had babys lately and they all found out what they were having and cant understand why im not finding out. they think im mad cos i wont be able to buy it all its stuff in pink or blue but i dont care ill just buy a few wee white things, i want it to be a big surprise like its a girl!!/boy!! lol.

I think it is probably as others have said, that the sonographer just went for a "default" sex rather than say "it". You still don't actually know what you're having, so it will still be a case of "wait and see". And believe me, she / he will find lots of ways to surprise you once they are here !!!!! Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy :)

Well at the 20 week scan they said she, when I had to go in a few weeks later to be scanned for another reason (liver scan) they kindly had a quick look at baby for me and the lady said he was playing with his toes No idea what I'm having, I think they just like to say something other than "it"

Mine has always referred to the baby as 'he' - like others said, it's just to make it more personable. My husband refers to his battered old land rovers as 'she' - same kind of thing i guess. As for names, loads of gorgeous girls names, and I was worried about the lack of boys names I liked, but it made it easier for me - you'll find a name you'll love as it will belong to your baby:) Good luck with him/her

All babies start female before developing gender at is it 10 weeks?

??purple?? Not in my embryology lectures they didn't!!!!

I think purple is right. Isn't that why men have nipples?

I have 2 DDs, both were referred to as "he" by hospital staff before they were born (hospital policy not to tell).

I don't think you know anything :)

This time they said "he" and I even allowed myself to get a bit excited about the boy I'll be having. :o

They said he for both of mine. Much nicer than 'it' I think. Im sure it was just a default response.

My sonographers and midwives always said "The baby" or "Baby's head/toes/fingers/heart/whatever they were looking at" after I'd tell them I didn't know and didn't want to know. There was no gender attached to him. I had loads of scans (lots of health issues) so lots of sonographers and midwives and not a single "it" or slip up.

However, I let a trainee doctor scan me as part of her training (special day set up where expectant women could sign up to be scanned by a trainee doctor and get scan photos, etc) and she said something to the midwife afterwards about "He was in a very good position and Scout got lots of photos of him." I didn't think anything of it until she backpedalled so fast she nearly fell off of her bike. Then, deep down, I knew in my heart I was having a son but I didn't tell anyone my suspicions.

When DP and I went in for the 20 week scan this time, the sonographer told us that she would refer to baby as 'she' at all times rather than it. She was very clear that we were not to construe this as anything else, so I agree with the others that yours might have done the same.

I felt the same atmy 20 week scan when soographer was saying there is his head etc I thought is that a slip up or not, but I've had a couple of growth scans since, (they didn't eve look in that direction as were just taking head and tummy measuremets) and one sonographer was saying she and the other he, so don't worry I think they just choose a sex to refer to. I will find out when she/ he arrives next week! x