struggling in first trimester

[billybobcally]

Anyone else finding first trimester hard? I'm not coping well with constant nausea non sleeping 12 month old who i stil nurse to sleep and also several times during night when he wakes. Dont have the energy to do anything i work part time and apart from that I struggle. Have even contemplated termination just so i can feel well again, cant even think about feeling like this for next 6-7 weeks! So hard as cant tell anyone which helps in sense i cant wallow in self pity around them but also cant ask for help. anyone else feel like this? DP doesn't understand how i feel doesn't even have to deal with little one all night although we are trying to wean him off me so maybe we could go cold turkey on that so i can atleast rest at night sometimes while he deals with him

I fully sympathise.

Was the baby planned?

If it was me, the first thing I would do is sort out the night feeds with your eldest so u can at least get some rest at night. You've done fantastic bf for so long.
When I stopped bf what I did was decide on a block of time that baby would not be offered breast. For me it was 5-10.30pm as that was when I was going to be back at work.
Then gradually increased the time.
It can be quite stressful, but if your dp can be patient and persevere, your baby will eventually take a bottle .
Why can't you tell anyone that your pg?

If you're struggling with tiredness that much you would surely benefit from telling people so they can help in some ways?

I had terrible ms with ds2 and was eventually given anti sickness tablets. Maybe see if you can get done from the dr's?

Ds2 is nearly 10 months and I'm 13 weeks pg with dc3. Apart from my dh who works lots of hours we don't have anyone to lighten the load, I work pt too so know exactly how u feel.

Get yourself to the dr's and work on weaning off the night feeds. Good luck!

Thanks i know what your saying is right and i just try and look on positive side that this will pass and be worth every pukey moment, its just so hard, and getting me down:( We are going to work on weaning as he is over a year now but so very attached to me! The pregnancy was planned it seemed like a good idea to have two fairly close together i thought how hard can it be??? Now i feel like a FOOL and just keep thinking what have i done? It would be fine if i felt well but its hard to imagine how your going to cope when you feel awful. I'm not actually being sick that often just on the verge and legging it quite often! So i doubt i can get anything for that? How are you feeling then? And how much does your DP help? Mine too works a lot so i'm not sure how much he should be helping ...

I feel ok thankfully most days.

My dh works roughly from 7.30 am to 4.30pm
Home for tea then back out on call from 7 pm til 11 pm. Mon to fri. Then I work weekends.

In a normal day, dh gets up with the baby at 5, dresses him. After work he'll watch the kids while I cook tea. Then he does the dishes. About three days a week he'll put the eldest to bed.

When I'm at work he pretty much does everything that needs doing. Cleaning, cooking etc

And he walks the dog twice a day too.

It will pass. Just have to make things as easy as you can for yourself for the moment. What does your dp do to help?

I felt the same way, my youngest was 13 months when we found out and I also have a 5 year old and work part time.
I rang the doctor and explained the sickness was stopping my day to day life and he gave me sickness tablets I never needed them with my other 2 and they really did make a difference and I havent needed them after I turned 15 weeks.
I dont know how your money situation is but if your son goes to a childminder/nursery whilst you work could you not ring in sick a couple of days and still send him just so you can rest and get your head round things, I did and it helped.
I learned to let certain things slip alittle like housework and stuff as I knew it wasent going to be forever - even though like you say just feeling like that for an hour would make me feel like it was never going to end, just a couple of things that helped me :)