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Can't bring myself to tell anyone

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chipsandmushypeas · 27/04/2012 16:09

Hi all,

I'm nearly 6 weeks, found out at 3+6 but haven't told anyone except dp (obviously) and a good friend.

I haven't told my parents or siblings who I'm very close to. I'm worried about reactions. I work in a family business and I'm worried they'll be annoyed as I will have to take time off so more staff costs etc.

Don't really know when to tell either, was th

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chipsandmushypeas · 27/04/2012 16:09

Cut me off early: was thinking of telling after 12 weeks scan but maybe I should tell earlier incase I suffer ms ect

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Hpbp · 27/04/2012 16:27

you don't need to say anything to anyone if you don't feel like saying.

If they are upset, well, they should not be, I don't want to scary you but you can always say you wanted to wait for the 12 week scan because before 12 weeks anything can happen....

ANd I am sure they will be thrilled when you tell them. Take your time. AFter all it is a nice secret to keep with your DP !

Congrats and good luck

Calamityboo · 27/04/2012 16:33

I am with Hpbp, if you and DP are happy, wait, the right time will present itself, and the further into pregnancy you go, it will become more obvious, so when you do tell them it may not be as big a shock as you think, especially your mum, she may guess soon enough. No one will be annoyed about this lovely news.

Good luck

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chipsandmushypeas · 27/04/2012 16:34

Thank you. I'm not even sure if I would want to tell the if I miscarried. I feel it's such a personal thing that I'd rather keep it to myself

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thisisyesterday · 27/04/2012 16:37

aww, i am sure your parents will be over the moon to find out!

it's totally up to you when you tell people though, some like to tell straight away, other people prefer to keep quiet until after the scan... totally personal choice.

congratulations :)

Calamityboo · 27/04/2012 16:45

PLease don't be worrying about what may or may not happen, enjoy this private time with your DP before it goes public, and it is not uncommon to wait for the 12 week scan before you tell anyone.

blushingmare · 27/04/2012 17:34

You're still very early. We didn't tell anyone, not even close family, til after the 12 week scan, mainly because it took that long for the news to sink in for us (even though it was planned!)

VeronicaSpeedwell · 27/04/2012 17:37

I felt a bit like that, but felt that it was nice to keep the secret until after the scan (and I was nearly 14 weeks by the time I got mine). DH and I enjoyed sharing all our feelings in the early weeks just with each other, and pregnancy is long enough that you have plenty of time ahead to talk about it with everyone else. Just enjoy being quietly hopeful and excited, if that's who you are .

AdiVic · 27/04/2012 17:37

You will know when the time is right to tell:) Surely at some point in time you were going to get P, so it may not come as a shock, and I'm sure the prospect of your baby will outweigh the thoughts of staff costs:) Relax and you enjoy knowing - it's an exciting time x

Lilliana · 27/04/2012 17:45

Hey Chips, you don't have to tell anyone yet. I have only told people that I would tell if I did mc and am waiting for the 12 week scan to tell family and wider circle of friends.

I hope you are ok love, missed you on the thread. I'm sure your family will be over the moon and all your worries will be for nothing. Take care and enjoy your special secret with your DH :)

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chipsandmushypeas · 27/04/2012 18:58

Thanks everyone for the lovely advice :) feel much better now.

I am a very private person so would prefer to wait, it is very early too.

Lilliana :) I had a read through the thread, will pop on soon x

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Alligatorpie · 27/04/2012 19:09

I found out at 3 weeks, but didn't tell anyone until 13 weeks ( apart from dh) once you tell people, they give you all kinds of advice and I wanted to keep my secret for a while without it. Plus, I am 40 and didn't really want the comments about how old I am, and do I really think this is a good idea?

You will tell people when it feels right. Good luck.

Calamityboo · 30/04/2012 09:46

Hiya chips I was just wondering how you are doing?

libbyssister · 30/04/2012 09:50

Hope you're enjoying this special time chips when only you and DP know. I enjoyed that time so much that I didn't tell anyone until after the 20-week scan

Congrats on your pregnancy!

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chipsandmushypeas · 30/04/2012 10:33

Thanks for checking on me :) I'm ok, feeling quite sick today so got my sister to cover, I think I'll be raising suspicions soon if this carries on so maybe it's best to tell her? I really don't know.

Libby how did you hide it so long?! I'll be quite big in the summer so may be difficult to hide it

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Calamityboo · 30/04/2012 14:34

Bless you chips, let them suspect, you can confirm when you are good and ready! I was huge by 4 months, there was no hiding it for me :)

hodsno1 · 30/04/2012 15:40

hey, i also work in my family business, my dads actually, and i was soo scared to tell him for that exact reason. i wasnt planning to tell him at all untill my 12 week scan but as time went on i just couldnt keep it to myself anymore and he is going to become a grandad, so i told him when i was 8 weeks and he was over the moon!!! hope this helps! im 10 weeks now and cant wait till my scan!!!

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chipsandmushypeas · 30/04/2012 16:46

Thank you calamity :) I do really want to tell my parents. I'm sure they would be happy for me. I think I'm worried because my elder sister fell pregnant quite young at 20 and I just remember the shouting and screaming when she told my mum :( I'm worried that will be. But I'm 26, 1st class grad, working, have my own place with an amazing DP they both love.

hodsno1 thank you, thats very reassuring. I've booked a private scan at 9 weeks so maybe I'll tell them then and have the pic to hand

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Calamityboo · 30/04/2012 17:07

Good luck chips, keep up posted on your progress.

libbyssister · 01/05/2012 21:55

I was lucky and didn't have morning sickness or any other symptoms obvious to other people in the first trimester. And I didn't show or didn't think I did! But you're right, this was over the winter/spring and I hid a lot under clothes and coats. It was the same for DS2 and DS3 (told people at about 18 weeks).

I think it's got a lot to do with whether people expect you to be pregnant or not IYSWIM? If they don't expect it then they don't look and don't see. Good luck!

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chipsandmushypeas · 02/05/2012 14:30

I've been feeling soo sick since 6 weeks, my sister and bil are on their way round, I might tell them today as I feel so alone. So worried though

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chipsandmushypeas · 02/05/2012 14:31

To add, I'm v close to my bil, known him since I was 10 so I dont mind him knowing early

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Calamityboo · 02/05/2012 14:58

If you feel like it is time then go for it. :) Sorry you are feeling rugh though. Hopefully it will ease soon.

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chipsandmushypeas · 02/05/2012 16:42

Thanks calalmity :) I chickened out! They kept talking about who was pregnant and their friends water broke last night! Just felt it wasn't the right time.

I've arranged a dinner with everyone Sunday after next so that will be the day :)

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Calamityboo · 02/05/2012 16:45

Aah, at least you know you feel more ready to share the news.

Be kind to yourself.

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