Just found out pregnant and scared to death

[zoeymlucas]

I have just found out I am 4 weeks pregnant with baby number 3 and am scared to death after I dilated to 6cm at 23 weeks with my first and had a cervical suture and eventually had him at 28 weeks after a really awful time!
My second son who is only 15 months was slightly better but after weekly scans I found to be 3 cm at 22 weeks and had a another stitch and was in and out of hospital until they did a c section at 33 weeks and found I was 3 cm through the stitch!
I havent even had the guts to tell my hubby the news yet as this so wasnt planned and with 2 small children am really not sure how we will cope with all my hospital and medical stuff and the kids !

No real advice in afraid zoey but a hand to hold if you need it. Do tell your husband though you need to support each other.

Just didnt want to leave your thread unanswered for long.
The shock will wear off and once the news has properly "sunk in" you can begin to think rationally. You will have time to sort out the DCs and you will cope! You are a mummy already and therefore are strong and resilient. Just keep reminding yourself. You will also know what to expect and be prepared if it happens.

Thanks iI think the real problem is my hubby is a stay at home husband and I work full time and cant afford me to give up work or be off sick for long periods (plus only started this job in feb) so the added pressure of money and 2 kids already to support really dont help :(

There will obviously be changes and adjustments to be made in the coming weeks and months. Are your work likely to be supportive? Will you be eligible for any kind of compassionate or sick leave? Having said that you still have 20 ish weeks before you may need to take leave so lots of time to make plans. The most immediate thing is for you to share with DH - a problem shared is a problem halved and two heads are better than one. Could he do an evening job for a short time to help out financially?