Oh heck.

[dontpanicdontpanic]

I am just writing this down so all of you can shout at me to go and test and sort out my contraception and also to get some reassurance.

Have namechanged as I know people on here

I am really worried. I have an 18 month old ds, periods haven't come back, am still breastfeeding, not having sex much but not really doing anything to stop pregnancy as (and I know I am stupid) I had to have IVF after 2 years of trying so really think the chance of getting pregnant was slim. Figured I would just sort it out properly once my sex life improved.

I had a small amount of brownish discharge a few days ago, nothing since. What if I am pregnant? CRAP! I think I am quite happy with one child, really can't afford another - I don't want to give up work but may have to if we have another. I live in a tiny 2 bedroom house and DS is still in with me.

I don't know how I will love another child, how I will prepare DS for another child. If I am pregnant then that is fine but how am I going to cope with it all?
Anyone else ended up being this stupid? what did you do and how did you cope? did you have to give up work? Nursery fees for two babies will eat up my wages.

Hello - not been in the position myself, but a very close pal is. She was in a similar situation to you, BFing etc, presumed she would not get P and did, 4 months after having her 3rd - it CAN happen. She no longer works and her DH is struggling to find work, her attitude is "b*llocks, we'll manage". I think before you start panicking you need to do a test and go from there. IFFF you are p, you would get your head around it and you would love it I'm sure. Your 18m old would cope, toddlers have coped for hundreds/thousands of years with their mum's having another. I am P at mo, and my DD was 18months old when I conceived, and I'm not too concerned how she'll cope - we'll all be fine, sure, they will no doubt be some tantrums and envy issues. You WOULD cope - now, go and buy that test!!!!! Good luck x (sorry, no ground breaking advice)

Just think of my friend's position and if you are preg, it won't feel so bad....

She is preg with twins.. after wait for it... thinking she can't get pregnant while breastfeeding (her one month old baby)! She is living on the other side of the world, away from all family except her DH in a tiny 2 bed flat!!
But she has taken the hey ho attitude, will just have to get on with it!
I admire her very much, it must have been frightening enough to find out she was preg with a 6 week old baby to look after allready... but then twins!

Let it be a lesson to us all!!