10+1 wks and fed up already...pls give me a kick up the arse

[forpitysake]

I know this is supposed to be a lovely time but I'm fed up already!!!
This is DC2 and I'm still feeling sicky, very tired and most evenings I'm getting the shakes cos I'm so cold.

My tummy looks enormous and I'm fast growing out of most of my normal clothes already. People think they are being funny by saying there's more than one in there when the thought of it actually scares me silly. I'm try to laugh it off, but as I'm not sure of my dates I'm starting to worry I'm either further on with one or I'm early with two

I'm worried about the birth/CS scar rupture/feeding/toilet training (later obv!)/how DD will react to new baby (will be past 6yrs old)/I'm too old for all this again

I just want the pregnancy over so I can hold little one and start getting on with it

sigh

I can totally sympathise. I was really sick and tired up to about 11-12 weeks this time. I have also got older kids, and i was really worried about how they would react.

I think you will be better once you have had your 12 week scan. When you know your dates and that there is just one in there (hopefully!)

After the scan, when every one knows, and you are feeling better, time will fly by, you will be too busy to count the weeks! You are nearly there now!

btw, my 2 older children were really excited about us having another baby, it has all worked out, sure it will for you too! x

Thank you flipflopper!

You're right - once I've had the scan I'm sure I'll feel more reassured and it will all feel a bit more real (iyswim).
We haven't told DD yet. We wanted to take her to the scan so she could see it and hopefully it would help her understand better. I would be happy to tell her now, but DH wants to wait until the scan and I think MIL is right that it will such a long wait for her if we tell her now too.

How did you tell your older 2DC and how old were they when you told them?

Most people at work know now. I had to tell the manager first cos I was feeling so sick and tired, but there's no way I would be able to hide this tum anyway! I only had a couple of weeks between telling her and people noticing my belly and starting to give me knowing looks.

Not very long really if you want to keep it to yourself!!

First trimester is grim, I totally agree! I have a ds and this is my 3rd pregnancy (mc in December) but I had either forgotten or blanked out how awful the early weeks are. My bump also appeared much earlier this time round! I'm 13 weeks and the sickness is starting to improve although the hit-with-a-sack-of-spuds-tiredness hasn't yet. At 10 weeks you've not long to go till your scan and hopefully not long before you start feeling less dreadful too. One thing that helped me feel a little better was to buy some lovely Isabella Oliver tops on eBay - for a fraction of the (hideously over-priced) retail price. Lovely soft material that looks good and is super-comfy - treats or pampering are a good way to cheer yourself up a little! Hope you feel better soon xx

Have you got a date for your scan yet?
My dc's are 11 and 7, we just showed them the scan picture and told them they were going to have a little brother or sister!
dd (11) burst into tears (happy ones)
and ds (7) didnt beleive us!

It took them a while to get their heads around it, but they were really excited, and are stil! We got some books so they can se what's going on inside, and they are really involved.
Ive got my 20 week scan tomorrow!

The time up to your 12 week scan just drags doesnt it, it sounds like you have told a fewpeople already, we had kept it a secret, and it was really hard, I just hibernated until i felt better, difficult at work though.

I'm sure you'll feel better soon!

Just try to reassure yourself that most women get a period of grace in the middle of their pregnancies where they feel almost normal again. Hopefully any time within the next month you will stop feeling sick, get an appetite back and your energy levels will pick up a bit.

I'm 27 weeks and feel like i'm leaving that 'nice' phase behind because all the aches and pains are starting in earnest now. I'm just trying not to think of the long haul ahead, and concentrate on today.

No date through post for scan yet.
MW said no waiting list but I'm not convinced.
They said that last time, but my 12wk scan was delayed so much cos they were so busy that it would have been at 16 weeks .

We paid to have it privately instead, and we would do this time too but the money situation is a lot different to before and apparently they do the nuchal scan now on NHS when they didn't before.

I can't see how the same hospital can be less busy than 6yrs ago when they still only do scans 2days a week

mummy I will have a look for those tops - they sound lovely.
Lots of early nights I think (and chocolate!) will make me feel better

flagnogbagnog I had a lovely 2nd trimester with DD so I can't wait for this one. In fact I had a textbook pregnancy (shame bout delivery mind)
Sickness not so bad but went bang on 12weeks. Did have most of 3rd trimester in a heatwave so not much fun but was off work though so much easier to cope with!

So far it's textbook again but sickness and tiredness much much worse.

Don't remember being this bad before.

I'm generally an impatient person anyway (sure you guessed already) and I hate waiting for anything I know is due to happen/arrive etc.

Hope your aches and pains don't get too bad and you can get plenty of rest
x

I feel your pain I'm on no3 and hated every pregnancy and seems to get worse with the amount of kids you have which now means my symptoms are magnified triple the amount from my 1st. Not sure how far along I am but I'm constantly dizzy and have a headache constantly only found out last Wednesday and had enough already I'm just praying I'm further along than I think so I don't have as long to wait and even after all that iv got the worry of my anxiety and panic disorder getting worse, was left with it from my last lo only managed to manage it in feb and is now bk due to my symptoms as their all symptoms of anxiety to, so pretty much fed right up over here

Forpitysake I am 10wks today & could have written your post almost entirely word for word, although my DD is only just 2. Feel like a great big, wobbly, sick, grumpy, tired, achey beached whale :( Plus I have to wait over 3 more weeks until the scan!!!

Had a really great pg with DD & am pretty much wondering what's hit me!!

No advice, just empathy x

thanks chunkychicken
love your description of how you feel - spot on
thanks for the empathy - right back at ya

Though another perspective - I've been trying for over two years now and would give anything to look fat bloated or whatever if it meant I could be pregnant!

I'm really sorry to hear that question. I've got friends who have been through that waiting and some who are still waiting.

I am happy about it and I am grateful but it's also uncomfortable at times and thats where i am now .

I really hope it's your turn very soon ( for reminding me to feel blessed)
x

Hehe hope things get better and you get to enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. I've just started clomid so got everything crossed

good luck with that then question hope it all goes well for you

one of my close friends had twins by IVF and then fell naturally again less than 2yrs later so i guess anything is possible!!