I'm 4 months pregnant, and a few weeks back I was sent a letter inviting me to antenatal classes. I thought that it was a bit early, but didn't really think anything much more of it. So I turned up to the class yesterday with DH and pillow, noticing that all the other women in the room were obviously much more pregnant than me, and were giving me looks like 'what's that skinny girl doing here?'. Then a list came round which we had to write our names and due dates on. So I did this, I put September but realised that everyone else was due late May/early June.
Then it dawned on me. I'd been sent a letter to go to antenatal classes for the baby I had miscarried in the autumn which would have been due in early June. I had to get up in front of everyone to speak to the MW about it, it was so awkward. She apologised, said it was probably an admin error (I hadn't been crossed off a list), and said I could stay if I wanted. The fact that I was now crying, in front of everyone, meant it was pretty obvious I was going to leave. I was really embarrassed, and in a split second it brought back all the memories of losing the baby (obviously I'm please to be pregnant now, but it's not a 'replacement', I still miss the one I lost). So I left. How insensitive. I can't imagine how much worse it had been if I'd not been pregnant again and recieved that letter.
I don't really know why I'm writing this on here. Just needed to get it out of my system I suppose. I hope no one else has to go through the same thing.