just got a BFP after 2 m/c so scared

[foxyladee]

hi all just did a clear blue date test and got a BFP it says 1-2 makin me 3-4 wks pg.

we've been ttc for 16 months got pg but sadly m/c at 6 wks both times.
id just about given up all hope am 11 days late but kept gettin a bfn till today.

feel happy but am absolutely terrified it will happen again. will i get extra scans this time? has anyone got any advice to stop me worrying and goin mad?

You could try and phone the EPU but they might not let you have a scan.
I understand how worried you must feel, DS was my 3rd pregnancy, but 1st successful one.
Just take it one day at a time. Someone on MN has written something like 'Today I am pregnant, and I will enjoy it'.
Can't quite remember the exact wording, but I liked the sentiment.

Sending positive thoughts

I'm in a similar situation. if you don't have any luck with epu your gp may be more helpful. I was referred for a scan after bleeding but the gp said my history alone was reason enough for an early scan despite epu saying they didn't do reassurance scans after mc. saw the heartbeat for the first time ever (well I didn't see if myself as I was bawling my eyes out after she said "we've got a baby with a heartbeat").
There is a lovely supportive thread over on the conception board with people who are ttc or pregnant after a loss, great place to offload to people who understand.

GOOD LUCK AND CONGRATULATIONS!

I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriages and understand how you feel as, like many others, I have been in a similar position. I am now 34 weeks into my 3rd pregnancy after the first two ended in mc between 6 and 8 weeks, so please hold onto the hope that things can and do work out after such sad times. I remember how I felt when we got the 3rd BFP - of course I was happy but beyond that I was scared, worried and not sure how I was going to cope if things went wrong again. As another poster said you just have to take things one day at a time and stay as positive as you can. Have you told people about your previous miscarriages? I ended up telling one friend after both had happened, but we didn't announce this pregnancy to anyone else until after 12 weeks which helped me, but it is a totally individual thing so it's a good idea to consider if it would help you to talk about things with someone. I was lucky enough to speak to a lovely midwife at the EPU who agreed to book me in for an 8 week scan. I think this was because I hadn't used their services at all during the miscarriages, I just dealt with them at home, and she possibly felt this justified giving me the time and resources for a scan! I second the suggestion of looking at the very supportive thread on the conception board, I found that to be a it of a lifeline when I was going through everything.

So, congratulations and good luck with everything! x

If you have had 2 or more miscarriages the GP should refer you to the Eli for an early scan around 6-7 weeks. That is what happens where I live. On the GP referral form, there is a choice of boxes for the GP to tick, as a reason for the referral:
-bleeding

• suspected ectopic
• 2 or more previous miscarriages.

Hope the same applies where you live. Get to your GP and ask if they can refer you. At least then you will have the date in your diary for an eat scan. Wishing you all the best.

I had a MC at 5+5 in January and am currently 7+ 2 and shittin myself every time I get a little twinge or pain. But feeling pretty suck today so am hoping that means all is well!

**EPU not Eli obviously. Stupid iPhone.

*sick, not suck. Gah!

Congratulations! :)

I've just had a mmc and have been told if I should fall pregnant again to contact EPU for a scan around 7 weeks before I book in with Midwife. So each area is different and probably worth you ringing them to see what the criteria in your area is.

Massive loads of good luck coming your way :)

thank for all your help. good luck with all pg its good to hear it can work out.

going to speak to gp tomorrow so far through ttc And previous m/c he has been brilliant very supportive so i hope he'll refer me to epu.

twitwoo the first m/c i got to 11 wks but baby had died at 6, cause i thought i was nearly there we had pretty much told everyone. the next time hardly anyone knew till it had happened i felt i needed the support.
this time I've only told my mum and sister i haven't even told DH as then it seems so real if that makes sense? At the moment like you all say one day at a time so am trying not to think aboutt it to much. i will tell DH sn but that's it.

Sorry to hear about your MC's.

I was in a similar situation a few months ago. DS was my first pregnancy, he's now 3, then I went on to have 2 MCs very close together both around 7/8 weeks. When I became pregnant again after that I asked my GP if I could have an 8 week scan at EPU as I was just so worried. Although he was sympathetic, he explained he could only refer for an early scan if there was any bleeding or pain, of which I had neither. I didn't want to lie about something like that so looked into booking a scan privately. The average cost seems to be around £100. I did end up having one at EPU though in the end, rather than the private one. My MW called EPU at my booking in appointment and begged on my behalf. She repeated what my GP had said, that they usually only refer for bleeding or pain, but they made an exception in my case as this was the 3rd time I'd been pregnant in a very short space of time. I think it might depend on where you live as to whether you will get an early scan on the NHS or not.

Thankfully, all was as it should be, although I waited until I was 13 weeks before telling anyone other than DH. I am now 39+3 with DC2. I still can't quite believe it.

If you are offered an early scan I would recommend that you wait until 8 weeks. It's quite a milestone in that once 8 weeks has been reached and a heartbeat is detected at that stage the chances of miscarriage significantly reduce. If you had a scan prior to 8 weeks, it could show things are looking ok at that point, but things are more likely to go wrong during the period up to 8 weeks rather than between 8 & 12 weeks.

Congratulations and best wishes for this pregnancy.