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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Worried Husband posting - be nice please :-)

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BennettsBloke · 16/04/2012 14:00

Just want to put this out there as I really need to get it off my chest and not really ready to talk with friends about it. The other internet forum I use knows me a bit too well to throw this out there.

My wife had a biochemical pregancy some months ago and, I'm sure like others here, we didn't understand the term. Now I do - it felt very cold and clinical. We now realise it was "just" an early loss - it still feels sad. Her system had binned the embryo within a couple of days after the positive test. High to Low!!

We have been undergoing fertility treatment by the NHS in Bristol (BCRM, and we're very early stage treatment). My wife was scanned and a polyp was found in her womb - which the consultant explained, could be causing embryos to be rejected as the womb needs to be a "perfect place" for the embryo to continue through development. She went for a laparoscopy and hysteroscopy where they checked the abdominal area for symptoms of endometriosis and then found and removed the polyp from her womb.

At our next appointment, she was scanned again and the consultant saw what she thought might be another polyp - but doubted this very much as that would have been three weeks after removal of the first one. She thinks (and we hope) it might just have been a fold in the womb lining - that is showing up as a polyp shaped shadow. We had already had one "go" of trying for another natural conception (after the L&H) and we're about to go for IUI (I'm 40, sperm are within normal parameters and wife has plenty of eggs and is 37). Anyway, she's due for another scan this week to check if there's a polyp.

Then, Saturday morning I get whacked on the head at 5.30am - with a test stick held in front of quite bleary eyes - "I'm pregnant!!".

So, now I'm just really worried - afraid to be happy. She appears to be experiencing early pregnancy symptoms different to those the last time - ie. she says she feels much different - much more tired, a bit more hormonal, a bit more nauseous, etc. I dunno, maybe we're hoping for too much.

What should we do about the scan - wait till Friday and then tell the person doing the scan (our present consultant is on annual leave, so she got a colleague to squeeze us in) that we've had a positive test or ring them and tell them now?

Sorry to ramble on a bit, but I'm sure you all know how these early days feel - it's hard to keep it all in - especially as we've been on the rollercoaster of trying for the last few years without any success - while seeing friends, relatives, etc popping them out (of course, I realise that they may have all experienced difficulties too without anyone else knowing) - but you know the feeling.

Just looking for anyone out there that's been in the same boat.

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geekette · 12/05/2012 03:59

Ace!

fridakahlo · 12/05/2012 04:19

Congratulations! First babies normally turn up at between forty one and forty two weeks, so christmas day is an outside chance really. Perhaps he or she will aim for new years day instead!

Minstrelsaremarvellous · 12/05/2012 04:23

Congratulations - so very happy for you both (filling up with tears of happiness). I'm currently feeding DD2 of 12wks - the anxiety never goes but the joy is exquisite - good luck!

mathanxiety · 12/05/2012 04:30

Well done and I hope she stays sick Smile It's often a good sign.

HateBeingCantDoUpMyJeans · 12/05/2012 04:42

Fantastic news, congratulations.

I had a mc and was of again straight after (no period), don't be worried if tgat nervous, concerned feeling doesn't quite go away. It is totally normal. Ds is now 8 months old and a little cracker Grin oh and I had a scan (full mot of internal and external) after the mc and they didn't spot I was pg, must have been very early on. So when I had my dating scan I was further on than I had assumed.

BennettsBloke · 12/05/2012 15:30

And again, the warmth of your posts washes over me. Thanks so much.

The midwife who scanned us said that once the (super) strong heartbeat was established, that the chance of miscarriage was now down to less than 3%. Our main thing now is when to tell (very close) friends. Waiting for the next scan seems like forever, but there are two or three friends in particular that we'd like to tell.

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geekette · 12/05/2012 17:51

Oh just go on and give into the excitement with your close friends. you would have to swear them to silence and caution them on possible future disappointments and possible handholding needs. but it is woohoo time! :) Enjoy!

by the way, you may want to lurk on the december2012 thread Wink or maybe you have found it already.

HateBeingCantDoUpMyJeans · 12/05/2012 19:32

Defo enjoy telling some friends it's a fab moment, oh and make them feel very special.

DameHermione · 12/05/2012 19:46
Grin

Well done.

BennettsBloke · 14/06/2012 00:01

Well, it's been a while since I posted. We had our twelve week scan on Monday and it was all good. A whole two and a bit inches long. A nice strong heartbeat and all going nicely. We're super excited and have finally been able to tell friends and family. Still due Christmas day. :-) I'm keeping my fingers crossed now but hoping for a great 6 months of preparing.

Anyway, just wanted to say it was all going well.

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Piemistress · 14/06/2012 08:40

That's great news!! My DS was due 20th Dec but arrived on Xmas Day, it was really quite special as the Salvation Army carol singers were in the corridor outside the delivery rooms.

Congrats again

livismum · 14/06/2012 09:52

Congratulations! I'm due 29th Dec (got scan on tues, fingerscrossed all ok) the Dec antenatal thread is v busy but v supportive at the same time! Come join us!

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