baby over 43

[Banglesdebelle]

Hi ,completely new to Mumsnet so apologies if not using the usual abbreviations. All at sea-have beautiful sons under 7 but am desperate for another one and to be honest am holding breath for a daughter. LLife is so much easier (physically and financially) past the toddler stage but I feel I am in last chance saloon - I regret not going for a third earlier and in my heart of hearts feel that in 10 years time I would regret not going for a third. But maybe I would be partying enjoying my 50s..... anybody out there in the same boat? (realise this is the eve of the Titanic sinking...)

I had my third at the age of 42. He is a joy but sometimes I just feel so tired... but I don't regret him for a second!

Thank you cece - did you ever think wbout how your two children would be with third - does that make sense? - Mine adore each other (do fight though) -would a third rock the boat- if you get a minute let me know many thanks

My mum had me at 43, there is a 17 year age gap between me and my youngest big sister.. And it's great!! I get on so well with my mum, I think because she was a little bit older when she had me she was more chilled out and didn't worry about the "right" way to be a parent. We have a great relationship and I'm glad she took the plunge and decided to try for another baby at 43.. Therefore I think if you want another child then you should go for it :)

Hi I am turning 43 in July and expecting my 4th boy in august. My eldest is fully grown up and my youngest is starting school in sept. Logically it made no sense to have another but I found the heart and the hormones don't do logic!
I don't think you ever regret the children you have but I know a few people who wish they had gone for it but didn't. That thought, an unplanned pregnancy and mc last year and the feeling that we were missing someone made me bite the bullet try again, I didn't dither there isn't time!
My 4 and 5 year old fight, play, and compete in varying degrees and I know it won't be easy but we're all excited and looking forward to our next little boy. Good luck making your mind up x

my situation is a bit different in that i have been trying for a sibling for my nearly 4 year old since he turned one. I was 41 at that point. I have had 3 missed MCs and 2 early MCs in that time and just as i was about to give up got pregnant again and am now 15 weeks due early October. I very much agree with the you might regret not trying but you'll never regret another child sentiment. I wish you luck in your decision.

The others were quite a tight unit prior to DC3. However, I think because of the age gap I think it works fine. DD (who is 8 yrs older) is almost a second mother to him. DS1 (who is 5 yrs older) has proved to be very caring towards him and now DS2 is getting older he has started to play football and other games with his younger brother. It has been good.

My mum had her 1st at 22, and her 7th at 45! I wouldn't worry about age gaps, and as long as you're aware of the added risks that can come with being an older mother, then go for it :)