Are your hormones ruining your relationship?

[Sarahmarie2505]

oh dear I've been so horrible this pregnancy ! My OH never ever goes out and he jus sprang on me he going to some engagement party and I went mental I sed y is it u always want to go alone and wen I'm pregnant etc ur probably looking at all the skinny girls! Woops then I sed well b careful dnt bring any nasty diseases here to me! He flipped now he not gone and I feel really bad ! I tried to apologise and offered to give him a lift but he just looks really mad ! I dnt no what wrong with me I'm so horrible at the moment and I try not to be I'm never like this it's really getting Me down now : ( this is our 3rd bubb and to b honest I dnt think we will still b together when she is born I'm jus so mean to him ! But in my fairness he was going out last wakened I didn't complain kept my cool he came back early moaning it was all my fault cause I didn't give him a lift ! Jees then I eneded up not sleeping all night cause I was so angry! Someone please tell menun not alone in this ? I'm so depressed feeling like this but i dnt no what to do : (

Stupid mumsnet just wrote huge reply and it deleted it! was just saying Sarah your not alone, i was going to write something similar...i said alot of things to DP this morning i shouldn't have, this is our second pregnancy and the first one we actually split up for a time our relationship wassn't that strong and i didn't feel he was putting us first enough. Same is true now but the hormones just seem to make me talk and say horrible things arrgg! poor guys :( no advice really but your not alone. I'm worried i might let slip other things that I've been bottling up for a long time but once they are said there is no taking them back. think i need to learn to count to ten and walk away perhaps?

I'm so glad I'm not the only one! I haven't slept all night now I'm off to work ! I feel horrible and what makes it worse is I have a 6 and 4 yr old and I'm sure they can sense the tension! I won't b at all surprised if we split soon he isn't the forgiving type and he won't forget this ! I'm so miserable y do women have to go thru all this ? So not fair : (

If your argument the other night was caused by an insecurity of yours couldn't you talk to him about it? I suppose I'm lucky my partner is so laid back he seems to forgive me no matter what i say. You shouldn't be having to go to work having had no sleep its ridiculous especialy now when you need your rest. Why dont you just tell your partner you are sorry you were in the wrong (on that one occasion) but you feel like crap and your hormones are making you over react? He has to make allowances!! My dp said he was dreading the early months of another pregnancy as i was a bit of a nightmare last time, but i stil feel if i felt more secure that he would be there with me throughout i wouldn't push him away in the first place :(

I agree with mattymum. Just keep talking and let him know what's going on inside your head, just keep communicating. I've been a bit of a nightmare also the past couple of weeks, but I've assured dp that its not going to be forever and the laid back woman he married will return (I hope)

Thank you all for responding really helps to have someone to talk to! I will try and talk to him but he usually just stares at the tv and doesn't answer or I will jus get a little grunt he is not a communicator in fact I dnt no how we have lasted 8 years! He probably is listening but because he doesn't respond I feel it's not going in! Or he will jis make it into another argument ! I feel bad but all of a sudden he jus springs on me he going to some bloody party! Never invites me ! Jus that oh I I'm going to a party at 7 I dnt no the he'll it is ? Then he gets all defensive when I ask well who for? Who is it? Where is it etc? He like y u asking me that ? That's y I just flipped ! Then I felt bad cause he is a really good dad and he never goes out well neither do I but I thought great now I've done it! I will try and talk to him later he out with the kids at the mo I've jus got home from work :(

I can understand why you were upset i would be too if my dp just announced he was off out for the evening and leaving his pregnant missus home to look after the kids! Atleast like you say it is out of character for him and he's not leaving you a lot of the time. Things have been a bit strained with me and my dp due to him having responsibilities elsewhere in the form of teenage children from a previous relationship, I am understanding of that fact and have made allowances in the past, but this pregnancy i just feel awful about the prospect of being left alone heavily pregnant again with a young child to look after while he puts his feet up with kids who are, to be perfectly honest old enough to look after themselves! The childish part of me would be inclined to say go buy yourself a lovely new maternity dress and tell your dp your off to a party!! :)

Hey mattysmum! I like that idea ! Think I
May just have to do that! Lol I've jus tries talking to him but he ignoring me as usual ! That's unfair leaving u with a little one to see teenagers! Mind u they may b handy when u have ur little one do u think thy will come help ?

Christ it must be annoying trying to talk to someone who wont listen. Sounds like you need to get communicating somehow....is he always like that? Have you ever communicated well? I think our problem too is we dont talk enough infact i made a point of raising my concerns at lunch today and i think things may well work out ok this end now. Half the problem with DP's children is they live the other side of the country so any visits mean a long treck and time apart if DP is going to pick them up or stay with friends and visit and at the end of pregnancy it just wasn't comfortable for me to go with him last time. He has agreed that they are now old enough to take the train to us and for visit to take place at our house so thats great I think I had underestimated how much it was worrying me :(

Yea he is just dnt think he likes communication makes him uncomfortable ! I've Apologised now and think he getting over it a bit ! Jees I no this is my third but my youngest is nrly 5 I can't remember but I hope my mood will be better after I've had this bubby! I'm glad they can now visit u and that way u can all spend time together ! U dnt want him too far away incasebu need him!

Brilliant hopefully things stay on an even keel all round then! Until next time! And one of us be posting again....lol I'm lucky to have never suffered PND but i read that it can be caused by feeling unsupported either during pregnancy or with young baby and if i ever feel unsupported i lash out!!