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If you miscarry at 7 weeks or so do you need a D&C? Maybe TMI

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sharklet · 08/02/2006 14:13

Need to ask if you need a D&C if you miscarry at 7 weeks or so. I took pg tests at the weekend and was faint line pg then another this morning which was definately a BFP! But this afternoon I have massive stomach pains and lots of blood loss, it doesn't seem like a little "bleed" I feel like its all over. I've never had this happen and I really am not sure what to do. Not booked in yet - do I go and see Dr or just wait and see.

I can't believe it. I so wanted to be pg and I was soooo happy. Don't know how to tell DH. Have to go now as I am in work and supposed to be teaching. Trying to keep from crying as I don't want my class to know whats wrong.

RRRAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHH

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FirstNikki · 10/02/2006 09:59

sharklet hope all goes ok at epu x

VeniVidiVickiQV · 10/02/2006 15:40

I hope it went as well as could be expected today Sharklet. Have been thinking of you.

xxx

HellKat · 10/02/2006 15:42

Good luck today hun Thinking of you {{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}

kreamkrackers · 10/02/2006 17:44

how's it gone today? thinking of you {{{{{hugs}}}}}

workingmumnhs · 10/02/2006 17:56

Hi I don't know if I can help.

I am a nurse in a gynaecology ward. When ladies unfortunately miscarry at 7 weeks we offer a few options.
If the miscarriage symptoms are blood loss as yours seems to be you would be scanned to make sure that it is a miscarriage, (you can bleed in early pregnancy and continue with to a full term pregnancy. It doesn't happen often but it does happen)If it is a miscarriage and you are bleeding we tend to leave nature to take its course and scan the ladies a few dys later to make sure it has finished.
If the miscarriage is picked up on a scan then we offer, surgical (D+C) or a medical route(which makes you bleed) the choice is up to the lady.
I offer my sincere condolences at this time as it must be difficult for you. As this is the only time this has happened you will more than likely continue to have a perfectly normal pregnancy next time.
I hope this has been helpful
I am so sorry

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sharklet · 10/02/2006 21:07

HI everyone,

Thanks for all the support and advice. its been really helpful. I went today, my lovely friend took me to the clinic and she took DD off while I waited and gave her lunch, bless her as she is 6 months pg and has a 2 year old who is dd's best mate. It was good becasue there were a lot of very dissapointed ladies there and I'm not sure a pg lady and 2 toddlers would have helped them feel any better.

Anyway they scanned me and found nature was taking its course properly and everything looked like it was clearing up well. It is an m/c so no little miracles, its a good job I didn't take the GP seriously. I'm really dissapointed but I have it into perspective now, and I'm sure that luck will shine our way sometime soon. DH said at least its shown us thats what we really want!

I really do appreciate all your support, its made me feel much better and helped me try to put a positive slant on things.

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kreamkrackers · 10/02/2006 21:24

i'm glad you got to know one way or another what was happening. good luck for the future. you already sound like you're coping so well with everything, you're a remarkable person.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 10/02/2006 22:19

Oh sharklet....

You seem to be coping well, but, and i dont want to be negative.....be prepared to hit a low in a few days especially with hormones readjusting etc.

kreamkrackers · 12/02/2006 09:25

sharklet, how are you feeling now? i was so teary, felt empty and like a failure. i do hope you're still coping as well as you were before. also if you do start to feel like a failure then you're wrong, unfortunately these things just happen it's all taken out of our hands sometimes. {{{{{hugs}}}}}

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sharklet · 12/02/2006 21:22

Thanks everyone for bothering to see how I am. Am feeling fine at the moment. I'm blessed enough to have a DD already who is a gorgeous little girl and has been amazingly supportive and protective of me (even though she's only 2!) I'm sure hormones and emotions will kick in in a few days. Have found it really hard to tell my mum for some reason, and I'm sure when I do thats when it will all flood out. I'm going to visit them at the weekend so hopefully all will be well.

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Bugsy2 · 12/02/2006 22:01

oh sharklet, I'm so sorry - just seen this. Big hugs to you. Glad you have lovely DD to keep you smiling.

riley3 · 13/02/2006 15:42

I'm also from October thread and have just seen this. I had an early mc last Aug and thought I was losing my mind. My thoughts are with you - you have a fabulous, wise attitude. Well done for how you are coping and take it very easy.

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sharklet · 14/02/2006 16:03

Thankyou. I feel bad today, I don't know becasue its valentines day and I remember thinking how lovely it would be. It sounds stupid I know. I had even thought of a middle name if it was a girl, DH's sisters name. She died before he was born. I almost feel like I jinxed it by thinking that. Its got Dh worrying about birth defects and maybe thats why, and maybe its something hededitary and the like. His sister was born with severe hydracephalous which was pretty untreatable 35 years ago. I just wish we were still pregnant.

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rummum · 14/02/2006 16:11

sharklet... so sorry your going through this...
as soon as we know we're pregnant we plan for the future... you have a real positive attitude but do allow yourself to grieve....
Remember you did nothing wrong to cause this...

kreamkrackers · 14/02/2006 16:14

sharklet {{{{{hugs}}}}}
it doesn't sound stupid and you didn't jinx the baby, it's sadly just something that happened. i've got a dd with a chromosone deletion and although dp and me don't carry the chromosone deletion it was really hard when i had my mc not to think it was in some way related. i very much doubt that yours was related and you really need to speak to your gp about your concerns. it's really hard when you miss being pg, i found i wanted to be pg again but couldn't bring myself to ttc for another 6 months. there's not much i can say to help you, i really wish there was. you really need to try to rest and relax (i know it's hard). could you book yourself in somewhere for some much needed pampering?

harrisey · 14/02/2006 16:17

sharklet, just saw this.
Its not easy to deal with and like you I found telling my parents the hard bit - not sure why. I've had 3 m/c - m/c, m/c, dd1, m/c ds, dd2, and certainly having a child already takes your mind off things, but its still not a nice experience.
Take it easy and look after yourself for the next wee while.

Piffle · 14/02/2006 16:17

sharklet take it easy on yourself poppet.
Natures way is not always kind and it often leaves us without an explanation, so we kind of make it up.
You look after yourself and cry when you need to.
xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

FirstNikki · 14/02/2006 17:04

Sharklet you didn't jinx anything and please don't try and find an explaination as it will drive you crazy and there isn't one it is just natures way of doing things.

Thinking of you - sending you lots of {{{hugs}}} x

FirstNikki · 23/02/2006 12:45

Sharklet how are you feeling now ? Thinking of you. x

whiffy · 02/03/2006 16:03

Hey FirstNikki

Didn't want to dwell on what you're going through on the other thread as I'm sure we are at risk of putting the fear of God into the mn-ers there who haven't been pg before, but wanted you to know that have been thinking of you lots.

Heart has gone out to you esp. as I had been empathising with all your earlier threads about you trying to donwplay stuff and your partner making a couple of faux-pas. I so know what you are going through underneath all the supportive threads you are putting up there.

Really hope things work out for you & sharklet soon xx

FirstNikki · 02/03/2006 17:30

ah thanks whiffy, thanks for the post thats most kind. I wish you all the luck with your pg.

Sharklet hope you are copying ok. x

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