Need to rant about the doctors :(

[Sparklesandglitter]

Need a bit of a rant as I'm still really upset!
Yesterday I had my 20week scan I have been so excited for weeks and really wanted to find out the sex. I arrived early, according the the letter I had been sent, to find that the letter was incorrect and I had in fact missed the scan time (cue floods of tears). They then managed to "fit me in at the end" to have the worst scan ever :( baby was breech and they wouldn't allow me to move to try and move
baby, the sonographer was obveously annoyed at being made to see me and was totally rushing, and then despite showing us reasonable images of baby on it's side said the only image we could buy was the back of baby's head :( so my much dreamed of scan (after everybody has told me how amazing 20wk scans are) was totally traumatic :(
now obveously the main thing is that baby is healthy and I know that this is just a job for them but even still it's special for me!!!
I am now going to have to pay for a private scan as I can't bare for that to be the last time I see baby before its born :(
Ps. This is 1 of a long line if errors/mix ups and I just needed to get it off my chest!!!
Thanks for reading :)

Aww, i had a private 4d scan at 25 weeks, much better than hospital scan, and it turned out the hospital had got the sex wrong so good job we did, they focus on letting you see baby and are very good at making sure you get good results x

Did you found out the sex?

Yeah I figure that at least with a private scan as you are paying they should be nicer as you are actually paying them!it was just really disappointing as last time the same sonographer had taken the time to get us a really good picture so this time it was obvious she just couldn't give a damn!

No because baby was lying breech and she wouldn't let me try and get baby to move she just wanted me to leave (she was made to stay on to do the scan I think)

I second with jeze on having a private 4D scan. I had mine done at 26 weeks after a major scare leaving me in hospital for a while. It was worth the peace if mind and the woman who did the scan was actually a midwife from the hospital!

The pictures are amazing and she looked exactly like the scan. If you can afford it, or if you can't can you ask for it as an early present off people(?), I would say to do it. Btw, my pictures are on my profile if you want a look.

Sorry you had such a horrid experience but I found they were more formal than the dating scan.

NHS scans are there to check the health of your baby as long as they did that that's all you can really expect. Yes the sonographer shouldn't be rude and it should be a good experience but there is no guarantee of it I'm afraid. If you want to find out sex or get good pictures they usually will try their best but this is a courtesy.
I had loads of scans throughout my pregnancy (right up to the end) due to worries about my health & the health of my baby and tbh that's all I could have cared about - pictures & sex were the last thing on my mind.
I hope that if you go for a private scan it's a better experience and is everything you hope for.... You'll forget all about it when they actually pop out to say hi in real life

Sorry you had that experience :(

If I were you I would ring up and complain.

However, if the sonographer (sp?) saw all the internal organs etc that she was looking for then she might likely claim that she did her job and tough tatties that you didn't see the sex.

Are you sure your hospital doesn't do growth scans closer to due date time? I'd check that before going ahead and shelling out for private scan.

I'm in Northern Ireland and the hospital I had DS at did scans at 12, 20, 34 weeks pregnant. Don't think that's policy for all hospitals, but check where you are first.

Try to not worry, although I'm sure it is hard to not be stressed.

I've been looking at a company that does sexing scans the pics are 2d but the show you baby in 4d (I guess you can buy the pics at additional cost but 2d pics are included) but they said that of baby is lying in an awkward position you can try and get baby to move or come back at a later date so I think that may be a good option.
I know the Nhs is "free" but I still think that if they make (and acknowledge the mistake as being theirs) they should try to rectify it not just be rude!but then I know I just being idealistic!!! It's just after struggling a bit to bond with baby I thought this would be a great chance oh well you get what you pay for I guess!!lol

It's a shame but I promise the next 20 weeks, in the grand scheme of things, will go pretty quickly and you'll be cuddling your newborn very, very soon :) I'd also bear in mind that the point of the scan is to check the health of the baby not to give the parents pictures-although of course the pictures are a nice addition, the sonographer may well have not been feeling generous if she had to stay behind at the end of her working day. It wasn't her fault either after all. She doesn't really need to 'give a damn'-her job is to check for abnormalities, which she did, and she also stayed after work. She doesn't have to pretend to be happy about it, although it would be nice if she did!

I was told that they may do a later scan but by then it will be too late to see the sex as baby will probably be squashed and therefore unable to identify the gender.
I know being healthy is the main thing it's just after so many mistakes (and lots of hormones) it all just got a bit too much!!!
Thanks for all the replays :)

The scan is to check the babies health. If the sonographer did that then the scan is complete, so the position of the baby wasnt relevent to that. They shouldnt be rude, but it sounds like you were looking for things that werent the aim of the scan.

Oh poor you, yes much as it is about the health of the baby, everybody seems to enjoy the experience and get to know the gender, not surprised you are disappointed.

I think we should all expect a bit more than the basics of "doing your job" from HCPs, and I would argue that having a pleasant bedside manner is one of those basics anyway! Having been scanned on a couple of occasions by very rude sonographers (one of whom was informing me my pg wasn't viable at the time!!!), the contrast with having a nice sonographer (and fortunately most of the time they seem lovely) is very striking, and does make the difference between having a reasonable experience and one that is unpleasant or even traumatic. I'm not surprised you are upset.

It was the hospital's mistake, not yours, so whether or not the sonographer was personally to blame she has no right to take it out on you if she had to stay after her shift. I'm sure everyone, whatever their job, has occasionally had to stay behind at the end of their working day to deal with unexpected situations - it's no excuse to be moody.

I know the reason for the anomaly scan is to check for anomalies, but I'm now expecting my third baby, and have never had a sonographer not take their time to get good photos, and try to check the sex (though if the position was such that they couldn't see the sex, then to be fair they can't help that).

I had my 12 week scan done privately this time (due to a mix up with the NHS appointment), at MUMS in Solihull, and they were fantastic. One of the consultants did the scan, and took absolutely all the time needed to explain every bit of the scan to us, answered any questions we asked, etc. It was expensive, but worth the money for the peace of mind. They do a sexing scan there too, and they do let you come back if the baby is not in the right position to see what you're having.