Feel like an epic failure and can't stop crying.

[Yummymummyyobe1]

I feel such a failure, my DP is out at work all day and I recently started my leave and feel like I'm letting hime down. I am 36 weeks and 2 days and feel like my home should be immaculate and there should be no washing and ironing in the house and his lunch for the following should be made and tea underway.

Instead I am exhausted and can barely drag myself out of bed at the moment. I look a mess my roots need doing (well half a head of colour), I look exhausted and nothing fits. Where is the pre natal yoga and the beauty therapies that mummy's to be are meant to get. All I want to do is cry and have cried most of this morning.

xx

Right now i am pregnant with second child - believe me, I ENVY you! Your maternity leave is yours and you can relax, enjoy it and indulge - don't get me wrong, you've got so much to look forward to, but this time to selfishly indulge will be hard to come by for a while.

I am the same, sometimes am nearly on my knees, after running round after a 2 year old and trying to keep the house going, I really think you should put your feet up, watch films and indulge!

Our little one is Harry. The diary sounds a great idea Harry and I need to go for a few walks.

How do you mummy's with other DC do it? I'm tired enough carrying Harry let alone running around after another child.

I am also eying up my easter egg at the moment I need will power to make it last until Sunday. If I eat DP then is won't count as it isn't mine and besides Harry needs it .

xx

yummymummyyobe1 most of us with 1 or more manage but that's it

Maternity Leave is not the time to think about having a spotless house, a freezer to rival Nigella's OR to try to keep up a Victoria Beckham style. If I manage to look like Waynetta Slob most days then it's because I've made an effort

You are busy. All day. Every day. You are everything Harry needs now, and for the next few months. You're a walking, talking life support machine. Sod the cooking. Sod the ironing. You're on Maternity Leave for a reason!

Accept that you're not going to look great for a while. Accept you and DH are going to be so tired and busy looking after your little boy that you'll forget to eat some days, never mind have his tea on the table when he gets in. Accept that in a few weeks if you can find a shirt without milk, snot or baby sick on then you'll think it's a real achievement.

If you do manage those things it's a bonus but it shouldn't be an expectation or assumed you can carry on as normal. This IS normal pregnancy and it's a taste of life 'afterwards' but without the newborn cuddles or nappies

The serene, toned yummy mummy doing yoga in pristine clothes with a snoozing baby next to her that's in the magazines is a myth. It's not like that. Unless you've got a wardrobe assistant, hair and make up artist, and nanny on standby.

Make the most of this time - honestly. Before long it'll be time to return to work, and you won't go back thinking 'I wish I had done more ironing and put make up on every day' - trust me

Well, I don't really have any useful advice, as I'm in the same boat. I'm 37+2 and pretty much beached on the sofa.

I do try and get out every day and can just about manage to keep a workable number of clothes clean and empty/fill the dishwasher each day, but the house could really do with a bit of a scrub up. I fear that my 'nesting instinct' may also just extend to wanting stuff to be clean, but that the actual motivation/energy to get up and do it will never arrive....

Thanks Flisspaps I am slowly realising that being PG is hard work (perhaps a little later than most) but it will be so worth it when Harry is here and DP and I can get cuddles and love.

I am thinking perhaps I might become a nudist a lot less washing xx

I ate one of the easter eggs yesterday. Ooops. At the weekend I went and got them for the nieces and nephews and I am already one down!
Cadbury's creme egg ones very good value though. Only cost a pound and it had a chocolate egg and two creme eggs in it - bargainous!

KatAndKit I managed to resist the easter egg in the end (heartburn) Might have to take a walk once the last of the nursery furniture arrives and buy a few for today's tv viewing pleasure and also OBEM. Oh I might pack a couple in my labour bag.

mummybare enjoy the sofa it is our friend, as is the bed and the bath.

xx

Ooh, I'd like to catch OBEM sometime, and then the Apprentice is on tonight too which I look forward to. May have to watch on iplayer though as apparently there's some crucial football game on tonight for which DH requires the box

JugglingWithTangentialOranges I think OBEM should trump the football as it in educational programme wherelse would we learn about these things xx

I'll try that one on him, but I don't hold out much hope !

Taking Harry anywhere nice today ?

It's a bit rainy with us - more of a sofa and cream egg day perhaps ?!

You are working incredibly hard. You are growing and running all the organs for another human being. You carry that person with you wherever you go. Your body feeds him and disposes of his waste. This is a 24/7 job! Any moment off the couch is overtime.

Same here JugglingWithTangentialOranges so I might introduce Harry to Ab Fab Sweetie Darling and crack open the alchol free champers . Your DP can't argue with a PG woman and the great logic we hold.

saffronwblue oh I wonder what the overtime rate is for PG women

xx

Oh, I'm not actually pg - my two are 10 and 12 now - I just come on here for old times sake - and to give you some support & the benefit of my great wisdom

JugglingWithTangentialOranges your wisdom is just what I need as for the OBEM it is still educational as things may have changed and you just want to stay a breast of things. xx

crikey. ds2 has just turned 4 and I still don't manage to do half the things you are talking about.

And I still haven't managed to tidy out the junk room his room ready for it to be turned into a nursery. He moved into his brother's bedroom instead (was his big brother's choice!) - and now that he is 4 he has decided he wants to be in a room by himself (big brother (6) is gutted and wants little brother to stay in his room as he doesn't like being by himself)

So I have now finally got to shift my backside into gear and turn out his room so it can really be his room and not my dumping room - it currently has a couple of air mattresses in from when we had lots of guests staying (which ds2 loves sleeping on), along with a built in cupboard and a wall-full of shelves that are piled high with assorted gubbins (and highly tempting to be climbed as ds2 is little monkey when it comes to things like that) so it all really really needs to be changed. so not looking forward to it - I've managed to put it off for 4 years but can't any more.

You need to sit back and relax and enjoy these last few days/weeks of peace, getting to watch what you want when you want on the tv, and just building up your strength for the next 21 years few weeks :o

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FFS, what a disgusting thing to say to anyone, Sarah! I hope you get banned.

Also reported. Disgusting way to speak to somebody.

Ooh, I wonder what was said - I hope it wasn't directed at me ...

"What are these aged old crones doing butting in on our pregnancy board" that sort of thing ?

Seriously, doesn't anyone else wonder about deleted posts ? Is just deleting them really an adequate response ? Isn't it bound to leave insecure people wondering what's been going on here ?

Hope no-one was rude to the lovely OP ? How could they be ?

op I'm 35weeks today and have a DS aged 2.3. I'm coping with him by his Daddy and Grandad having taken him out of the house for the day. I'm watching Pride and Prejudice and drinking tea and eating fig rolls. I cried on Dh this morning (hormonal) and am planning on spending the rest of this afternoon without moving. There are many things I could be doing, but I'm mindfully ignoring them until next week when DH is off and we can do them together (there are after all two of us expecting a new baby in the house in the next few weeks).

Oh and internet shopping helps greatly with the nesting instinct!

cairnterrier I had forgotten about shopping online. I'm pretty much beached at the moment. xx

Juggling - let me just say you really don't want to know what was said, and yes it was to the OP and I hope she didn't see it.
It appears that the offender is in fact a troll who comes onto the boards periodically to create mayhem by spilling bile and poison across them; and in this case the posts weren't deleted as quickly as we would like because MNHQ are a bit thin on the ground with staff, which has prompted several "what can we do about vile offensive posts in the middle of the night" threads.

The troll has been banned again but will no doubt return under a new name at some point, sadly.

Yummymummy, I hope you are taking it easy now and ignoring the housework! [bugrin]