6 weeks pregnant...feeling really low and worried

[MCT76]

It's my first time posting on the pregnancy board and as nobody else, apart from DH, knows about the pregnancy yet (we have decided to wait until the 12-week mark before announcing it) I feel that I am going slightly mad and have nobody to talk to.

We had been trying for two years and as I am 36, we asked to be referred to a specialist after 6 months. Lots of tests and long waits ensued and it looked like I was not ovulating properly and that one of my tubes was blocked. We were given two attempts at IUI. The first one failed and the second and last one worked so I am now 6 weeks gone and completely unable to enjoy it or feel excited about it as I am constantly worried that something might go wrong. My three closest friends have had MCs (two of them on numerous occasions) and it is constantly playing on my mind to the point where I find myself incapable of doing much else apart from counting the days until my first scan (this coming Wednesday). I don't know how to cope with these feelings but I feel that I can't carry on like this for another 6 weeks. I would like to be happy and excited but cannot allow myself to even entertain the thought.

Has anyone felt like this? Any advice would be much appreciated.

Me! I wrote a post very like this after we found out we were pregnant. I am 10+5 weeks after second round of ICSI. I'll be honest, I am still worrying, but I think everyone does and that's normal. I try to stay away from google because that makes me feel 10x worse.

Try to find something to do to relax, hypnotherapy CDs or relaxing music. I spend time every day thinking positive thoughts about the little baby inside me growing and getting stronger and visualising this helps me. No matter how slowly the next few weeks pass, they will pass!

My consultant told me that after a heartbeat is seen on a 6 week scan, then there is a 90% chance of the pregnancy continuing, which is great odds. Good luck with your scan on Wednesday. Have a !

Hi MCT. I'm sorry you're feeling that way. I'm 5wks and feel the same (did last time too, but all was absolutely fine and dd now 18mo). I am/was constantly thinking the worst. Sorry, not so much advice on how to deal with it as reassurance that you're not the only one. I had friends who told everyone about their pregnancy v early on and didn't even seem to consider that anything might go wrong, when I was feeling totally paranoid - couldn't understand it. All I can say is it is v likely you will have a healthy baby this winter, and after the 12 week mark you will be able to relax and look forward to it more. Only 6 wks to go, hang in there! And good luck with the scan x

P.s. agree with ellan - avoid google! Wish I could take that advice myself though...

Thank you so much for your messages. It's reassuring to know that I am not alone in this and I know I need to focus my mind on positive thoughts which I do manage to do at times but it's as if I've got the "good" and the "evil" voices fighting a constant battle in my head...I think I might have too much time in my hands which doesn't help (I work from home and have very little work at the moment) and yes...Google is the enemy! But a very tempting one at that...I will do my utmost to stay away from it for the next few weeks at least...

Only one and a half days until the scan so I hope I will feel better after that...

Oh, working from home definitely doesn't help! Especially as all thoughts of doing actual work have probably gone out the window. Be prepared to not be v productive for the next few months :)

Something else to reassure you that i forgot to mention - worrying won't harm the baby (this was something else i worried about!). I asked several doctors this and they said it was rubbish. So ignore any literature that says you have to maintain a perfect zen like state for 9 months. Which will only add to the stress of course.

Anything to distract yourself is good, maybe planning some low-stress local weekends away. And failing that, wangle as many check-ups and scans as you can, to keep reassuring yourself all is ok.

It's normal to worry- all the way through pregnancy (and beyond!). Like others, I strongly recommend distraction and keeping busy... Good luck for Wednesday!

A quick update from me: I had the scan this morning and it went really well...I could clearly see the sack and the 4mm foetus with a "good, strong" heartbeat as the doctor put it which was very reassuring. I feel like a big weight has been lifted off my shoulders although I am still being very cautious and trying not to get too excited about it...

Thanks everyone for your good wishes and advice...I know I will worry but I will do my best not to let it affect me too much. I've got some work to do today which is just what I need...

ellangirl and spicymum: hope you're feeling well and staying away from google...

That's great, I'm so glad it went well :-). Hope you have a nice relaxing easter