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Hyperemesis Support

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LucindaE · 30/03/2012 12:21

We need a new thread.

This thread is for anyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis and if anyone's got bad m/s too they're welcome to join in. Hopefully sufferers will continue to get support through talking with present and past sufferers on here.

There's no such thing as TMI here - by definition with this awful illness there can't be - and feel free to moan all you like. You have reason to!

I want to thank Everyone MOH Mother of Pearl Ovaltine (once theOnly Melange (once NitNat) FluffyWhiteKittens* and so many more
for all their stirling work, and so many more that I can't name them all.

My apologies to anyone I've rudely overlooked, I daren't keep gabbling too long, or I might put off current sufferers.

Remember, when you are at your worst, the words from the Eastern story: - 'This Too Shall Pass.' It will...

Below is some brilliant information from sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos/

However, if you don't feel up to reading it now, feel free to skip it for now and have a good moan.

Hyperemesis gravidarum (HG) is a severe form of pregnancy sickness which affects between 1 and 3% of pregnant women. Historically, it was mistakenly thought to be a psychosomatic illness and women were treated as though they had a psychotic disorder. This view has been comprehensively disproven by numerous research papers in recent decades, and it is now known to be an illness of organic origin, although its causes have yet to be fully understood. There is a persistent common belief that no drugs should be given to women in the first trimester of pregnancy. This is not true. There are a number of effective anti-emetic (anti sickness) drugs which can safely be taken in early pregnancy. Unfortunately, the erroneous views that HG is a psychosomatic conditions and that no drugs are safe in the first trimester still persists in many places, shockingly, even amongst GPs and midwives. Sadly, many women still come across unsympathetic health professionals who are ignorant of current treatment methods.

How do I know if I have HG?
If you are suffering from persistent nausea and/or vomiting which is preventing you from eating and/or drinking then you may be suffering from HG. With ordinary nausea and vomiting of pregnancy (NVP), the sickness does not interfere with your ability to eat and drink enough, you should not be losing weight and you should be able to continue to care for yourself and your family although you may not be feeling too great. With HG, sufferers often need help caring for themselves, never mind look after their family. The illness can be completely debilitating for weeks or even months. If you're not sure, the HER foundation website who have a fact sheet to help you determine whether or not you are suffering from HG
www.helpher.org/mothers/hyperemesis-or-morning-sickness/index.php

Diagnosis is important as you will inevitably become dehydrated and you will need to be admitted to hospital for IV rehydration. Starvation is another risk. When your body burns fat for energy, it produces chemicals called ketones which can be detected in your urine. You can monitor your levels of starvation using ketosticks, available from pharmacies. You pee on the stick and it monitors your levels of ketones. If levels are high, you should tell your doctor or midwife. If you are worried about dehydration and ketone levels and you can't see your doctor or midwife, you can go to A&E.

Facts and Figures and FAQs

HG is worse in the first trimester for the majority of sufferers, though a significant proportion (10 ? 20%) suffer for the entire duration of the pregnancy. If you have close relatives (mothers, sisters) who have had HG, you are also at significantly higher risk of being a sufferer yourself. HG is the most common cause of hospitalisation of pregnant women in the first trimester.

Is it worse carrying a boy or a girl?
There is conflicting evidence as to whether having a boy or a girl makes HG worse, some studies say boys, some say girls.

Is it worse with twins?
Yes there is evidence that carrying more than one baby makes HG worse.

Will my baby be ok?
Babies born to HG mothers are usually absolutely fine. If you lose some weight during the first trimester the risks for the baby are low as it does not need much nutrition at this time and your body should have enough stores from before your pregnancy. However, if you continue to to lose weight due to lack of treatment or failed treatment, then there is an increased risk of low birth weight or pre-term birth. Studies show that this is a risk for women who are severely ill, are dehydrated for long periods and lose more than 10% of their body weight.

There is also growing evidence of long term health effects in some children born to mothers who suffer malnutrition in pregnancy. In some cases this is not evident until adulthood with increased risk of chronic conditions such as diabetes and hypertension.
For more information see forums.helpher.org/viewtopic.php?t=18 and www.helpher.org/hyperemesis-gravidarum/complications/fetal-programming.php

I've heard that being sick is a sign of a healthy pregnancy, is this the case with HG?
You will often be told that morning sickness is a good sign and you should be happy that you're feeling sick. This is generally the case with normal NVP, however, it is not the case with untreated HG. There is actually a higher risk of pre-term birth and low birth weight. However, continuing to feel sick may be a sign that the pregnancy is still progressing. Some women with HG who miscarried reported that the first sign was that they suddenly stopped feeling sick.

What are the treatments?
Initially you will be advised to use non-pharmacoligical strategies which are similar to the general advice given to any pregnant women suffering from nausea. These include eating little and often, eating protein-rich, low-fat meals, avoiding triggers of nausea such as strong smells and getting enough rest. You can try ginger, seabands (accupressure wristbands used for travel sickness) and extra doses of vitamin B6. Avoid getting out of bed in the morning without something in your stomach such as a tea biscuit or cracker. Some women find that these give relief in the initial stages of HG but they become ineffective once the illness is in full swing.

The next line of treatment is prescribed antiemetics such as phenergan, cyclizine, stemetil and ondansetron. For many women these work well and control the nausea and vomiting enough for them to eat and drink normally and regain some of their lost weight. Many can even return to normal life. You may find that one antiemetic on its own is not effective and you may need to try different combinations but you can discuss this with your doctor. Even with antiemetics, you will probably still need to use coping strategies such as getting extra rest, eating small frequent meals and avoiding triggers when the HG is at its peak. If you are dehydrated, you may be admitted to hospital for IV fluids. Minerals and vitamins can be added to the drip to replace any you may have lost, as well as antiemetics.

Unfortunately, antiemetics don't work for everyone. If they are ineffective, you should be referred to an obstetrician (if you haven't been already) for the next line of treatment, which will probably be steroids. These carry a small risk of cleft palate, but this will be discussed with your doctor. In a small number of cases even this is not effective and drastic treatments such as feeding with a tube directly into the stomach may have to be considered.

My GP is unsympathetic and refuses to prescribe me drugs - what should I do?
Unfortunately this experience is all too common. In this case you should see another GP if possible. You should also ask for a referral to an obstetrician. If you remain untreated and become dehydrated, you can have yourself admitted to A&E for IV fluids and ask to be seen by an obstetrician.

Do alternative remedies work?

Some women are greatly helped by alternative medicine, particularly Homepathy and Acupunture. Some women can claim to have had the illness 'stopped in its tracks' by Acupunture, but success varies between individual patients and it tends to be expensive. These remedies are worth a try if you can afford it but have a back up plan incase it doesn't work.

How long will this last for?
For most women, HG peaks in the first trimester and tails off or disappears completely later in the pregnancy. The usual advice for morning sickness is that it will improve after 12 weeks. The majority of HG sufferers find that it takes longer than this. Unfortunately, some women suffer severely for the entire pregnancy. Others find that it improves, but they suffer from nausea and occasional vomiting until birth. Relapse is quite common especially if you have tried to return to your normal busy life. There is a great temptation to make up for lost time and become very active once you start to feel better, but this very often leads to the nausea returning. You should be very careful about resuming work and normal household activities even if you feel as though you're up to it. Be careful too about stopping your medication, do it very gradually and resume at the first sign of the condition returning. You may have to continue to take it for the entire pregnancy to prevent a relapse.
All I can drink is coke, I'm worried that I'm not eating a healthy diet.

Through pregnancy, we are bombarded with advice about what to eat and what not to eat. Women with HG often find that the list of food and drinks that they can keep down is very small and not at all from the healthy options. For some reason, women with Hyperemesis ofen find sweet and salty foods ie, sweet drinks like coke, and crisps, are more likely to stay down than healthy foods. Their peculiar diet can lead to disapproving comments and the incorrect assumption that this is how they normally eat.
Various women find different drinks acceptable. Coke (often left to go flat) Lucozade, lemonade, milkshakes and IronBru, Dr Pepper, orange squash, apple juice, lime juice, ice cubes made of flat coke or just tapwater, ice lollies and sips of tepid water can help in keeping rehydrated. 

When the illness is at its worst during the early hormonal surges - typically between eight and ten weeks- then it is difficult to retain any liquids and you may need to be hospitalised for rehydration at about this time. 

When solids do become bearable,jelly, tinned fruit, ice lollies, ice cream, crisps, fish fingers, potato cakes, crumpets, soda bread and similar potato based or salty foods have often been found to be acceptable.

The important thing to remember at this time is that it doesn't matter what you eat or drink, the crucial thing is that you eat or drink something. Don't forego something because you are worried that it's bad for you. In a normal diet, too much salt and sugar is bad for you, but when you consume nothing else, this may be your only source of calories, fluid and salt for the day. Instead of berating yourself for your unhealthy diet, congratulate yourself that you have kept something down because your body needs it. If you are able to take vitamin tablets or syrups, then do so but most women find that large multivitamin tablets make the nausea worse. You may be able to get vitamins that dissolve under your tongue which you may be able to tolerate. If and when you begin to feel better, you can start to re-introduce more healthy food.

Will it go away when I give birth?
The good news is that for the vast majority of sufferers the physical symptoms of HG disappear completely as soon as the baby is born. You should be aware though that it is not unknown for the nausea to persist after birth especially if you have been severely ill. If this occurs, speak to your doctor. For women who suffered persistent, long term nausea and vomiting, it may take some time to restore energy levels and nutritional reserves. Moreover, while the physical symptoms may leave, the trauma of HG can leave an emotional legacy for many women, especially when combined with the rigours of caring for a baby. If you have any concerns, speak to your doctor or midwife. Don't feel that you should just be able to pick yourself up and get on with things, if you're having problems you are entitled to seek support.

Will I get it in my next pregnancy and will it be the same?
Unfortunately, having HG in one pregnancy puts you at a high risk of suffering in subsequent pregnancies although it is possible to escape it. Some women find that the HG gets better in subsequent pregnancies, whereas others find it stays the same or gets worse. There is really no way of knowing how your pregnancies will relate to each other.

Can I do anything to prepare for HG incase I get it again in my next pregnancy?
The HER website has a page of advice on preparing for your next pregnancy. forums.helpher.org/viewtopic.php?t=17. If you had medication which worked for you in your previous pregnancy, make sure that you have it ready to take as soon as you feel ill. Studies show that the quicker you get on top of the sickness, the better the medication works. Because HG can start within days of missing your period, see your GP as soon as you know you're pregnant.

Useful sources of information
The Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists in the UK have no guidelines on the treatment and management of HG. However, the American College of Obs/Gynae (ACOG) and the Society of Obs/Gynae of Canada (SOGC) have published guidelines which can be found at the following sites

www.sogc.org/guidelines/public/120E-CPG-October2002.pdf 

www.guideline.gov/content.aspx?id=10939

Pregnancy Sickness Support is a UK based organisation run by GPs and midwives with direct experience of HG. They have a helpline which you can call for advice ? if nobody answers you leave a message and a midwife will call you back. They will be able to answer your questions about treatments and they keep a note of doctors around the country who are known to be sympathetic to HG sufferers and are willing to treat it with medication. Their website is at www.pregnancy sicknesssupport.org.uk

The Hyperemesis Education and Research Foundation (HER) is a US based foundation which was formed by HG survivors and has a mission to research the causes of HG and provide information and support for other sufferers. They have links to the latest scientific research and are actively involved in funding research, although you usually have to live in the USA to take part. There are loads of threads on every topic related to HG from women who have been through it, including very useful information about which treatment regimes worked. Their website is at www.hyperemesis.org.
Dealing with well meaning but unhelpful advice

Women with HG are often told by friends and family that it's just morning sickness, a normal part of pregnancy and you just have to put up with it. Many HG sufferers report extreme frustration at being advised to try ginger, dry crackers or eat little and often. Most of them have tried every remedy they can think of to no avail. Because most women are familiar with NVP, there is often an attitude of, well I had morning sickness and I just got on with it. HG sufferers are often left with the feeling that they are whingers and malingerers and that if only they could adopt a positive attitude then they would be fine. This can lead to further depression in what is already a depressive condition. In order to deal with this, it is important that the HG sufferer has some supportive friends or family who can firmly but politely fend off these comments. The sufferer will often have no energy to deal with it herself. If possible explain to the person giving the advice that you are not suffering from morning sickness, you are suffering from a condition called hyperemesis gravidarum.

I have never known anyone with HG. Where can I talk to women who understand how I feel?
There is a support thread on the talk boards here (ask MT to add link) which is run by sufferers and ex-sufferers. There are discussions of practical issues such as tips for coping and medication but the real value of this forum is that you get sympathy and understanding from people who know exactly what you're going through. If you just want to moan or let off steam, you are free to do so and nobody will hold it against you. Comments are also welcome from relatives, partners, friends and carers of HG sufferers. The HER website also has talk boards at forums.helpher.org/. There is also a UK based yahoo group called Bloomingawful at health.groups.yahoo.com/group/bloomingawful/

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kalidasa · 08/07/2012 16:00

Thanks for encouraging post about the post-hyperemesis experience ovaltine! My big worry at the moment is how I could face doing this again. I really don't want to have just one, and also I don't like the idea of spending the rest of my reproductive life really terrified of an accidental pregnancy when DP and I love each other and have secure jobs and I wouldn't want to think of an accident as a disaster if you see what I mean! DP (sensibly) says I should try not to worry about all this at least until we've had this baby . . .

No, I didn't see the torch. Evenings are still out for me really, I get tired and queasy, though I did manage a super stressful dinner out last Thursday because it was really important to DP. (Involved dinner for four with a v. famous Nobel prize winner and his wife whom I had not met before. Such a relaxing prospect when you haven't been out of the house after 7pm since the end of March!! Was so worried about being too ill, looking ridiculous in a too-tight dress etc etc but in the end it was OK and both the scary people were actually friendly and good company.)

Just lounging around watching tennis at the moment. Have done no work at all this week, though my knitting is progressing quite well! Hope everyone else doing OK.

BarmeeMarmee · 09/07/2012 11:32

Hi Everyone, I've had problems even getting onto the site lately, let alone managing to post, so sorry I've been very quiet too.

How are you all? Kali sorry to hear that you're being sick every morning still, although if possible, remember how much of an improvement you have made since the start!

Lucinda sadly now on crutches for the SPD - only 4 months to go, lol! I've decided I'd be good contraception to be trotted out in sex education classes - look what can happen to you if you get pregnant Grin - you too could end up fat (legacy of my last baby!), permanently nauseous/vomiting and on crutches. Hardly a glowing recommendation for pregnancy Grin.

Sorry, I haven't had the chance to read back over everything - how is everyone else? Thinking of you all.

knickyknocks · 09/07/2012 12:31

Hello I'm just lurking, particularly wanted to respond to kali's last post.

I only popped on this thread last month but I unfortunately had a chemical pregnancy. I am now pregnant again this month and waiting for the sickness to start or rather hoping crossing fingers this time it won't. kali it took me a long time to consider trying again for a baby following my DD. She's now nearly 3 years old. For a long while after she was born I couldn't contemplate putting myself or hubby through it again - not least as I would have to look after DD this time aswell.

We've been TTC for 18 months and it's been particularly tough as I have to note each and every month whether we have support in place IF I was to become pregnant that month. This time round at only 4 weeks and 1 day (ridiculously early still), I've had to tell my mum, MIL and a couple of key friends, for my own peace of mind. Thankfully DD goes to nursery 3 times a week for full days, so there is a chance that I will get some respite if needed. I guess I wanted to say that with your second I think preparation is key and to look at the long term. Terrible sickness within pregnancy is temporary but incredibly hellish at the time. It is a very tough decision to make to put yourself and your partner through it again. I guess I wanted to say I understand where you're coming from.

Lastly, just to say I got my BFP last Tuesday, and apart from a couple of waves of nausea all is well so far. As lovely as the support is on this thread, I hope I don't need to come back, but I know where you are if I do. GP is ready to give me pre-emptive meds, I'm on vitamins and support systems are in place. I hope that I'm ready for it this time (and wonder whether that's half the battle....)

kalidasa · 09/07/2012 15:41

Thanks knicky how kind of you to post and congratulations on your pregnancy. To be honest I think the chances of it not happening again for me are slim - both my mother (five children and a few mcs) and my sister (three children and two mcs) had it every time at pretty much the same intensity - bad but not quite as severe as mine; and even in the two very early losses I had (4 and 5 weeks) I was already - in retrospect - very obviously developing it. I was hospitalised for the first time at 5 weeks with this pregnancy and I think it would have been pretty much the same with either of the early ones, I already felt so unwell when I lost them.

I'm sure you're right that preparation is key. And at least you'd know what to expect and (roughly) when it would end. I worry about the career impact for me too, which isn't something my Mum or sister had to worry about. I think there are a few things we've learnt this time that might help fractionally another time - for instance, I would start on medication immediately, I wouldn't allow myself to starve for so long another time, and I would treat aggressively for the terrible constipation from the start. All the same it feels like a big decision hanging over us. A bit of me thinks that it would be better to do it again fairly soon and get it out of the way. I also worry a lot about being really afraid of an accidental pregnancy in a way that makes me sad. I would never previously have imagined terminating an accidental pregnancy within a happy relationship but to be honest I can now. I think when things have settled down I might try and have some counseling about the whole issue because I do get quite tearful thinking about it.

Anyway best of luck for your pregnancy and fingers crossed you escape it this time. I read somewhere that almost all the most severe cases start fully before six weeks so if you can reach that point without being too ill that's a good sign.

LucindaE · 09/07/2012 16:46

Hello, Everyone Trouble with posting and lost posts too - Knicky
congratulations, wonderful news. hugs to all hope everyone's not suffering too much - I'd better try and post this before it disappears too.
Lucinda
xx

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BarmeeMarmee · 10/07/2012 14:35

Hello everyone. I'm coming on here for a swift kick up the backside please. Am feeling so miserable today - sitting at my desk trying not to cry! I think I've mentioned before that I work 2 jobs? The 2nd is in security and as of today I've been told I can't work any "outside events" until after the baby is born, and instead of my usual hands on job I will be confined to a desk job for the rest of my pregnancy too. I know that rationally it is the best thing for me and the baby but, not only does it mean losing out on a lot of money (roughly £400 in the first 2 weeks of the Olympics alone, as an example), it has left me feeling like a complete failure Sad. My DH has said it doesn't matter and that I shouldn't worry/feel like it but I just can't help it. I feel like I'm "defective" in some way (for want of a better word). All my friends seem to flourish when they're pregnant, and carry on regardless. I've had/am having 2 HG pregnancies, am on crutches with SPD and feel useless. I feel like I'm neglecting my little boy and I feel so guilty that DH is having to shoulder so much of the burden of every day life. He's exhausted and I can't give him the break he desperately needs. I can't even keep working properly. Feels like he got the short straw when he married me - the faulty model - and he can't even ask for his money back! Sorry. Sorry everyone. I know I'm better off than so many and I should be grateful for small mercies, but.... well.... at the moment it just doesn't feel that way.

So sorry - I hope you're all ok. Sorry for rambling.

washngo · 10/07/2012 16:45

Thanks to you all for the great advice you gave me a couple of weeks ago. I have since seen a doctor who has given me a prescription for cyclizine and metoclopromide, which i can take (test out one at a time) as soon as i feel nauseous. He was helpful in some ways - suggesting that pre emptive meds are definitely the way to go. He was a little patronising in other ways - he was v dismissive about vit B6, and also said that hyperemesis is a psychological problem in some respects. I'm not sure what I think about that. He said that if i went into the pregnancy with no expectations of it being either good or bad i was less likely to be disappointed / turn it into a self fulfilling propehcy. Anyway, I feel much better equipped now to ttc. Thanks for the advice.
Barmee Marmee - you don't need a kick up the backside you need a hug. I know exactly how you feel, it is so hard, and you are doing well just getting through it.

ovaltine · 10/07/2012 19:46

awww barmee! fuck working the olympics, sit back at your desk and watch it whilst drinking Dr Pepper and ordering your colleagues to get you chips or you will puke/pass out. on your feet all day! you nutter. it will only rain. i think ALL women must be defective as even the ones with seemingly perfect pregnancies have something hiding behind them (piles, normally). DH will cope, once you pop there will be no keeping you off your feet so he can have a rest then. in fact, when the baby is here he will get a bit of a rest those first few days. I think he married a far superior model than most men, any old tart can get pregnant but it takes a real lady to get HG Grin

kalidasa · 10/07/2012 20:56

Yes I agree, HG is tres exclusive. And aren't all the babies meant to be budding geniuses or something? Someone had an encouraging study or two about super-efficient placentas and babies with higher IQs . . .

Actually I think DP has improved his levels of domestic skill permanently. He does things now like putting a wash on when we get back from a trip immediately, which I'm really not sure he would have thought of before.

Threw up twice today (before and after trip back from Cambridge), rest of the day a bit of a wash-out and have only really been up in order to eat. Bit fed up but maybe tomorrow will be better. Nearly 19 weeks. Can't wait to pass half-way point.

kalidasa · 10/07/2012 20:57

Barmee you are not defective at all but I do know what you mean. I rashly bought a pregnancy magazine the other day as am trying to feel more positive about my changing shape (which to be honest I hate - I just feel lumpen and uncomfortable). But hadn't bargained for the relentless upbeat tone and endless pics of sprightly pregnant women markedly not hunched over the loo.

pugsmum · 10/07/2012 21:08

Hello all

I havnt read all the info on here yet as I have just dropped in for some advise because i an getting increasingly upset and worried about not ever being to have more children

( i have dp nagging me help him tidy while i sneakily mumsnet ... )

I have recently had an op and contracted an infection (sounds irrelivent) of which obvioulsy i was puking my guts up (excuse my french!!) for the past week ..
This brought flooding back all the memeries of being preganant with my son now 19 months but was sick throughout the pregnancy , and bed bound for 4 months ! However this week dp has been off work and has been single parent / sick persons slave / cleaner and chef !!!! ( to a mans standard any way ) therefore i have been able to crawl out of my pitt for big cuddles and toilet only ! which was just luck as he booked off the week for my opp!

It was torture for the past week as i just kept thinking (as we have been starting to think about trying for another baby in the near future ) HOW THE HELL am i ever going to ever manage another pregnancy and look after my current son

??? IS THIS EVEN POSSIBLE ( or am i hoping for too much should i just be happy with my one beautiful baby and not epect to much )

while pregnant with ds1 i read about a women who aborted her 2nd baby for the same reason .. this gave me the strength to continue with my 1st pregnancy as to be perfectly honest i was very very close to giving up on the whole thing (I hope no1 is offended by that comment but ) but it just outlines how bad it was .

i want nothing more than a family and to have more children .... is this reality how do people survive it a second time and how do i look after my son.?? i do not have the money for permanent childcare especially if i am on measly sick pay !!!

kalidasa · 11/07/2012 12:14

pugsmum I'm not sure what to say as I haven't had my first baby yet and I am already worrying about this a lot! I don't want to have only one but the thought of doing it again . . .

We are going to have to have full time child care in place by the time the baby is about 10 months anyway as I'll be back at work so I hope that that will help us plan for a further pregnancy. I think if we do decide to go for it we will just have to plan really carefully and ask as many family/friends as possible to commit to offering support. Some people also say that if you start on the drugs before the vomiting begins that can stop it getting as bad, so I would make sure I had a plan agreed in writing with my GP before we even started trying (in writing so that if you end up seeing a different GP in an emergency they are also up to speed). I hope I would also be able to avoid losing so much weight/becoming so weak a second time, as we would definitely order the food replacement drinks at the beginning. The doctors didn't suggest them until I'd eaten nothing for three weeks which was too long I think, and as a result I could barely stand up for weeks.

I have to say I am nearly 19 weeks tomorrow and even though I am much better than I was my feelings about pregnancy are still very negative. I hate it and want it to end!

missJ30 · 11/07/2012 18:43

Hey, I know no one has posted on here for a while, but just thought i'd see if anyone is suffering at the mo? Am 7 weeks and every female in my family has had hyperemesis with every pregnancy. At the moment am just having really bad nausea (Reluctant to call it extreme as have no idea how much worse its about to get possibly!). My question for anyone really struggling is just how much you worry about getting enough protein/vitamins etc and how much you just eat whatever you can stomach, regardless. Am on a multivitamin and managing some apples and small amounts of fruit juice. But protein is really really hard at the mo - just can't think of much with protein in it i can stomach. What should I do? Don't want to hurt my baby and am really worried. But then I know my sisters ate next to nothing for their whole pregnancy and their babies were all really really healthy. Am doing well with all the foods to avoid, just struggling with protein. Thanks so much for any advice (and please be gentle with me if I'm messing up on the protein front - feeling very hormonal and sad!)

LucindaE · 11/07/2012 20:27

Wolcome Newcomers, , Oh dear, there is a lot that I want to say and my mother's pc is still crawling along. Not sure if MumsNet website still playing up. barmee hugs, and Kali you are being so encouraging to everyone when you are still not yet out of the woods yourself. Back home tommorow, I hope my pc works quicker.
Hugs to all.
Lucinda
xx

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goldie32 · 11/07/2012 21:27

Hi all. Hope you are managing ok today. Washngo I think you did well not to punch the Dr who said hyperemesis is psychological! I think if any of us ever met them that might be their fate! It's a shocking statement!!
Barmee you are doing so well to even be a work, just make the most of having slightly less to do. If you are defective so are all of us, I think you might be right, but I don't care and neither should you! I understand the horrible down feeling, it will pass. Sending love to you. Pugsmum I have had Hg and a 3 year old, to be honest I had the HG and other people had to have her! But it has passed and now I am thrilled to have her and be giving her a baby sister. At the time I would have said never ever again, but you know what? Now I wouldn't rule out another pregnancy-can't believe I am saying it, but yes. I 'd do it again! Love to all. xx

washngo · 11/07/2012 23:23

:) goldie - he is a bit of a smarmy doctor and said it all using the power of inference so I only really realised what he meant after I'd left the building! He did give me the prescription though, and nodded sympathetically a lot, so I felt like my goal was achieved!

MotherofPearl · 12/07/2012 13:17

Sorry I've been absent for a while - we've been away and then came home to a broken boiler. Cue lots of drama, having to boil pans of water on the hob for baths and washing up, all very tedious. Anyway, new boiler now fitted and of course it's a walk in the park compared to HG!

Barmee, it is hard to see pregnant friends flourishing when you feel so awful, but you should try not to be so hard on yourself. I really think just surviving HG from day to day is a huge achievement, and you should be congratulating yourself on having got this far. As Ovaltine says, put your feet up as much as possible. Your health and energy will return after the birth, I promise.

Washngo, glad to hear some GPs have the sense to give out prescriptions for pre-emptive meds, but as Goldie says, that comment about it being psychological is pretty infuriating. That theory is completely outdated now, as well as being plain wrong.

Kali, so glad to hear you're having some better days and nearly 19 weeks. I think getting past that 20 week halfway point makes quite a big difference mentally. How's the knitting coming along?

Pugsmum, I had pretty bad N&V with my first pregnancy but was never hospitalised or diagnosed with HG. Even so it took me 3 years to pluck up the courage to have my second child. Unfortunately I suffered from HG pretty much throughout that pregnancy (last year). My daughter was fortunately in nursery full time so that made a big difference, and because I was on research leave (I'm an academic), I was able to fit my work into the periods when I felt better. It was exceptionally tough, but as Goldie says, I would do it all over again in a heartbeat. I have even begun to contemplate a 3rd, which would be sheer lunancy for all sorts of reasons. I think as Kali says, getting as much support set up in advance would be the first step. I had lots of help from DP and his parents too (my family live abroad). I think you also have to be realistic that it will probably be very hard, but hang onto the fact that is always, always temporary, and that at the end you get a lovely baby. It's not an easy decision, so good luck.

MissJ30, congratulations on your pregnancy and here's hoping you don't fall prey to the horror that is hyperemesis. Unfortunately with your family history, it is quite likely that you will. I don't mean to be a prophet of doom and gloom, but you can go from feeling nauseous, to being sick, to requiring hospitalisation in a very short time (as Kali experienced), so do keep monitoring yourself for ketones (I guess you know about ketosticks from your sisters). There's also lots of info on sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos/ - a site developed by our very own MOH. Do keep us posted with how you get on.

Phew, what a mammoth post. Waves madly to Lucinda and Ovaltine!

meebles · 12/07/2012 14:51

Pugsmum - for a number of reasons I waited to get pregnant a second time until my DD was 4. I had HG with her, although not as bad as with DS this time! It was extremely hard but we managed with a combination of help from MiL (who had DD for a couple of nights a week during the first/start of second trimester), my friends who would have DD to play during the day and her being old enough to play quite independently sometimes. Between that, Cbeebies, and DH doing the essentials(everything else went hang) we coped. It wasn't fun though, but looking at DS now (3 weeks!) I'm glad we did (and that I was optimistic enough to think it couldn't be as bad a second time!).

Just wanted to drop in and say something encouraging to everyone - you will all feel so much better afterwards, and will be bouncing! One day at a time....

LucindaE · 12/07/2012 19:09

Meebles OOh, lovely to hear from you, how is baby? Thanks so much for lovely encouraging post, and from MOP. Lovely post from Goldie too.
Site seems to be OK now (glances about anxiously face).

MissJ30 Don't blame yourself for the protein, you are doing well to eat at all! It will come later, nobody on here is going to be judgemental about your not being able to face protein, my goodness.
Barmee I so agree with Goldie anyone who is coping with any sort of job at all when suffering deserves a mdeal.
WashnGo Again agree with Goldie, I would have been tempted to assault that Dr, even if it was only carefully implied. It's a nerve!
Kal Hugs.
Lucinda
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LucindaE · 12/07/2012 19:11

Pugsmum Meant to say, I can't improve on others' advice, but I do regret not going for it myself, though it would have been so difficult.
Lucinda
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LucindaE · 14/07/2012 11:03

Continuing very quiet on here, thouigh I think the site problems have rectified. I do hope Everyone is managing.
Lucinda
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kalidasa · 14/07/2012 12:13

Thanks Lucinda. Plugging away here. Still throwing up every day and beginning to think it might just stay like this all the way through as I'm nearly 20 weeks now. I still hope it'll ease a bit more but this is manageable. Though goodness knows what it's doing to my teeth! Eating OK anyway, and the knitting is going quite well! I have made a little blue hat, and I'm about 2/3 through a little fawn coloured cardigan. My weight is nearly back where it was when I got pregnant so I think I'm doing OK despite the vomiting.

Hope everyone else is surviving.

LucindaE · 14/07/2012 14:28

Congratulations on knitting, Kali! I am terrible at knitting, so I am impressed. Sorry to hear about throwing up every day still, I am keeping my fingers crossed twenty weeks proves the date that will shift that.
Lucinda
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missJ30 · 15/07/2012 16:16

hi. anyone been prescribed an anti-emetic? is it ok to take? have just been prescribed metoclopramide. thanks.

kalidasa · 15/07/2012 16:44

Yes missJ it's fine. If you've been prescribed it it's because you need it. There's loads of info about this on the pregnancy sickness site that I think there's a link to in the blurb at the start of the thread. I think pretty much everyone on here has been on at least one drug: I was taking four at max dose all at once for weeks and weeks!

Usually doctors start with one or two of cyclizine, stemetil and metoclopramide. That's because these are drugs that have been used for decades in pregnancy with no ill effect and have a long track record of helping. Metcolopramide works by speeding everything up a bit inside so food doesn't sit in your stomach as long. It helps some people to throw up less. If it doesn't work for you, or it does but not enough go back to GP as it can be combined with other things. You may notice that it gives you a bit of diarrhoea or makes things 'looser' than normal, which is a common side effect. It may also make you a bit 'twitchy' - you may find your body twitches or jerks a bit sometimes, especially after you've been on it for a while. Eventually I stopped taking it because of the twitchiness but that was after several months - it was fine at the beginning. It won't harm your baby however early on in pregnancy you are. Hope that helps!