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Hyperemesis Support

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LucindaE · 30/03/2012 12:21

We need a new thread.

This thread is for anyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis and if anyone's got bad m/s too they're welcome to join in. Hopefully sufferers will continue to get support through talking with present and past sufferers on here.

There's no such thing as TMI here - by definition with this awful illness there can't be - and feel free to moan all you like. You have reason to!

I want to thank Everyone MOH Mother of Pearl Ovaltine (once theOnly Melange (once NitNat) FluffyWhiteKittens* and so many more
for all their stirling work, and so many more that I can't name them all.

My apologies to anyone I've rudely overlooked, I daren't keep gabbling too long, or I might put off current sufferers.

Remember, when you are at your worst, the words from the Eastern story: - 'This Too Shall Pass.' It will...

Below is some brilliant information from sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos/

However, if you don't feel up to reading it now, feel free to skip it for now and have a good moan.

Hyperemesis gravidarum (HG) is a severe form of pregnancy sickness which affects between 1 and 3% of pregnant women. Historically, it was mistakenly thought to be a psychosomatic illness and women were treated as though they had a psychotic disorder. This view has been comprehensively disproven by numerous research papers in recent decades, and it is now known to be an illness of organic origin, although its causes have yet to be fully understood. There is a persistent common belief that no drugs should be given to women in the first trimester of pregnancy. This is not true. There are a number of effective anti-emetic (anti sickness) drugs which can safely be taken in early pregnancy. Unfortunately, the erroneous views that HG is a psychosomatic conditions and that no drugs are safe in the first trimester still persists in many places, shockingly, even amongst GPs and midwives. Sadly, many women still come across unsympathetic health professionals who are ignorant of current treatment methods.

How do I know if I have HG?
If you are suffering from persistent nausea and/or vomiting which is preventing you from eating and/or drinking then you may be suffering from HG. With ordinary nausea and vomiting of pregnancy (NVP), the sickness does not interfere with your ability to eat and drink enough, you should not be losing weight and you should be able to continue to care for yourself and your family although you may not be feeling too great. With HG, sufferers often need help caring for themselves, never mind look after their family. The illness can be completely debilitating for weeks or even months. If you're not sure, the HER foundation website who have a fact sheet to help you determine whether or not you are suffering from HG
www.helpher.org/mothers/hyperemesis-or-morning-sickness/index.php

Diagnosis is important as you will inevitably become dehydrated and you will need to be admitted to hospital for IV rehydration. Starvation is another risk. When your body burns fat for energy, it produces chemicals called ketones which can be detected in your urine. You can monitor your levels of starvation using ketosticks, available from pharmacies. You pee on the stick and it monitors your levels of ketones. If levels are high, you should tell your doctor or midwife. If you are worried about dehydration and ketone levels and you can't see your doctor or midwife, you can go to A&E.

Facts and Figures and FAQs

HG is worse in the first trimester for the majority of sufferers, though a significant proportion (10 ? 20%) suffer for the entire duration of the pregnancy. If you have close relatives (mothers, sisters) who have had HG, you are also at significantly higher risk of being a sufferer yourself. HG is the most common cause of hospitalisation of pregnant women in the first trimester.

Is it worse carrying a boy or a girl?
There is conflicting evidence as to whether having a boy or a girl makes HG worse, some studies say boys, some say girls.

Is it worse with twins?
Yes there is evidence that carrying more than one baby makes HG worse.

Will my baby be ok?
Babies born to HG mothers are usually absolutely fine. If you lose some weight during the first trimester the risks for the baby are low as it does not need much nutrition at this time and your body should have enough stores from before your pregnancy. However, if you continue to to lose weight due to lack of treatment or failed treatment, then there is an increased risk of low birth weight or pre-term birth. Studies show that this is a risk for women who are severely ill, are dehydrated for long periods and lose more than 10% of their body weight.

There is also growing evidence of long term health effects in some children born to mothers who suffer malnutrition in pregnancy. In some cases this is not evident until adulthood with increased risk of chronic conditions such as diabetes and hypertension.
For more information see forums.helpher.org/viewtopic.php?t=18 and www.helpher.org/hyperemesis-gravidarum/complications/fetal-programming.php

I've heard that being sick is a sign of a healthy pregnancy, is this the case with HG?
You will often be told that morning sickness is a good sign and you should be happy that you're feeling sick. This is generally the case with normal NVP, however, it is not the case with untreated HG. There is actually a higher risk of pre-term birth and low birth weight. However, continuing to feel sick may be a sign that the pregnancy is still progressing. Some women with HG who miscarried reported that the first sign was that they suddenly stopped feeling sick.

What are the treatments?
Initially you will be advised to use non-pharmacoligical strategies which are similar to the general advice given to any pregnant women suffering from nausea. These include eating little and often, eating protein-rich, low-fat meals, avoiding triggers of nausea such as strong smells and getting enough rest. You can try ginger, seabands (accupressure wristbands used for travel sickness) and extra doses of vitamin B6. Avoid getting out of bed in the morning without something in your stomach such as a tea biscuit or cracker. Some women find that these give relief in the initial stages of HG but they become ineffective once the illness is in full swing.

The next line of treatment is prescribed antiemetics such as phenergan, cyclizine, stemetil and ondansetron. For many women these work well and control the nausea and vomiting enough for them to eat and drink normally and regain some of their lost weight. Many can even return to normal life. You may find that one antiemetic on its own is not effective and you may need to try different combinations but you can discuss this with your doctor. Even with antiemetics, you will probably still need to use coping strategies such as getting extra rest, eating small frequent meals and avoiding triggers when the HG is at its peak. If you are dehydrated, you may be admitted to hospital for IV fluids. Minerals and vitamins can be added to the drip to replace any you may have lost, as well as antiemetics.

Unfortunately, antiemetics don't work for everyone. If they are ineffective, you should be referred to an obstetrician (if you haven't been already) for the next line of treatment, which will probably be steroids. These carry a small risk of cleft palate, but this will be discussed with your doctor. In a small number of cases even this is not effective and drastic treatments such as feeding with a tube directly into the stomach may have to be considered.

My GP is unsympathetic and refuses to prescribe me drugs - what should I do?
Unfortunately this experience is all too common. In this case you should see another GP if possible. You should also ask for a referral to an obstetrician. If you remain untreated and become dehydrated, you can have yourself admitted to A&E for IV fluids and ask to be seen by an obstetrician.

Do alternative remedies work?

Some women are greatly helped by alternative medicine, particularly Homepathy and Acupunture. Some women can claim to have had the illness 'stopped in its tracks' by Acupunture, but success varies between individual patients and it tends to be expensive. These remedies are worth a try if you can afford it but have a back up plan incase it doesn't work.

How long will this last for?
For most women, HG peaks in the first trimester and tails off or disappears completely later in the pregnancy. The usual advice for morning sickness is that it will improve after 12 weeks. The majority of HG sufferers find that it takes longer than this. Unfortunately, some women suffer severely for the entire pregnancy. Others find that it improves, but they suffer from nausea and occasional vomiting until birth. Relapse is quite common especially if you have tried to return to your normal busy life. There is a great temptation to make up for lost time and become very active once you start to feel better, but this very often leads to the nausea returning. You should be very careful about resuming work and normal household activities even if you feel as though you're up to it. Be careful too about stopping your medication, do it very gradually and resume at the first sign of the condition returning. You may have to continue to take it for the entire pregnancy to prevent a relapse.
All I can drink is coke, I'm worried that I'm not eating a healthy diet.

Through pregnancy, we are bombarded with advice about what to eat and what not to eat. Women with HG often find that the list of food and drinks that they can keep down is very small and not at all from the healthy options. For some reason, women with Hyperemesis ofen find sweet and salty foods ie, sweet drinks like coke, and crisps, are more likely to stay down than healthy foods. Their peculiar diet can lead to disapproving comments and the incorrect assumption that this is how they normally eat.
Various women find different drinks acceptable. Coke (often left to go flat) Lucozade, lemonade, milkshakes and IronBru, Dr Pepper, orange squash, apple juice, lime juice, ice cubes made of flat coke or just tapwater, ice lollies and sips of tepid water can help in keeping rehydrated. 

When the illness is at its worst during the early hormonal surges - typically between eight and ten weeks- then it is difficult to retain any liquids and you may need to be hospitalised for rehydration at about this time. 

When solids do become bearable,jelly, tinned fruit, ice lollies, ice cream, crisps, fish fingers, potato cakes, crumpets, soda bread and similar potato based or salty foods have often been found to be acceptable.

The important thing to remember at this time is that it doesn't matter what you eat or drink, the crucial thing is that you eat or drink something. Don't forego something because you are worried that it's bad for you. In a normal diet, too much salt and sugar is bad for you, but when you consume nothing else, this may be your only source of calories, fluid and salt for the day. Instead of berating yourself for your unhealthy diet, congratulate yourself that you have kept something down because your body needs it. If you are able to take vitamin tablets or syrups, then do so but most women find that large multivitamin tablets make the nausea worse. You may be able to get vitamins that dissolve under your tongue which you may be able to tolerate. If and when you begin to feel better, you can start to re-introduce more healthy food.

Will it go away when I give birth?
The good news is that for the vast majority of sufferers the physical symptoms of HG disappear completely as soon as the baby is born. You should be aware though that it is not unknown for the nausea to persist after birth especially if you have been severely ill. If this occurs, speak to your doctor. For women who suffered persistent, long term nausea and vomiting, it may take some time to restore energy levels and nutritional reserves. Moreover, while the physical symptoms may leave, the trauma of HG can leave an emotional legacy for many women, especially when combined with the rigours of caring for a baby. If you have any concerns, speak to your doctor or midwife. Don't feel that you should just be able to pick yourself up and get on with things, if you're having problems you are entitled to seek support.

Will I get it in my next pregnancy and will it be the same?
Unfortunately, having HG in one pregnancy puts you at a high risk of suffering in subsequent pregnancies although it is possible to escape it. Some women find that the HG gets better in subsequent pregnancies, whereas others find it stays the same or gets worse. There is really no way of knowing how your pregnancies will relate to each other.

Can I do anything to prepare for HG incase I get it again in my next pregnancy?
The HER website has a page of advice on preparing for your next pregnancy. forums.helpher.org/viewtopic.php?t=17. If you had medication which worked for you in your previous pregnancy, make sure that you have it ready to take as soon as you feel ill. Studies show that the quicker you get on top of the sickness, the better the medication works. Because HG can start within days of missing your period, see your GP as soon as you know you're pregnant.

Useful sources of information
The Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists in the UK have no guidelines on the treatment and management of HG. However, the American College of Obs/Gynae (ACOG) and the Society of Obs/Gynae of Canada (SOGC) have published guidelines which can be found at the following sites

www.sogc.org/guidelines/public/120E-CPG-October2002.pdf 

www.guideline.gov/content.aspx?id=10939

Pregnancy Sickness Support is a UK based organisation run by GPs and midwives with direct experience of HG. They have a helpline which you can call for advice ? if nobody answers you leave a message and a midwife will call you back. They will be able to answer your questions about treatments and they keep a note of doctors around the country who are known to be sympathetic to HG sufferers and are willing to treat it with medication. Their website is at www.pregnancy sicknesssupport.org.uk

The Hyperemesis Education and Research Foundation (HER) is a US based foundation which was formed by HG survivors and has a mission to research the causes of HG and provide information and support for other sufferers. They have links to the latest scientific research and are actively involved in funding research, although you usually have to live in the USA to take part. There are loads of threads on every topic related to HG from women who have been through it, including very useful information about which treatment regimes worked. Their website is at www.hyperemesis.org.
Dealing with well meaning but unhelpful advice

Women with HG are often told by friends and family that it's just morning sickness, a normal part of pregnancy and you just have to put up with it. Many HG sufferers report extreme frustration at being advised to try ginger, dry crackers or eat little and often. Most of them have tried every remedy they can think of to no avail. Because most women are familiar with NVP, there is often an attitude of, well I had morning sickness and I just got on with it. HG sufferers are often left with the feeling that they are whingers and malingerers and that if only they could adopt a positive attitude then they would be fine. This can lead to further depression in what is already a depressive condition. In order to deal with this, it is important that the HG sufferer has some supportive friends or family who can firmly but politely fend off these comments. The sufferer will often have no energy to deal with it herself. If possible explain to the person giving the advice that you are not suffering from morning sickness, you are suffering from a condition called hyperemesis gravidarum.

I have never known anyone with HG. Where can I talk to women who understand how I feel?
There is a support thread on the talk boards here (ask MT to add link) which is run by sufferers and ex-sufferers. There are discussions of practical issues such as tips for coping and medication but the real value of this forum is that you get sympathy and understanding from people who know exactly what you're going through. If you just want to moan or let off steam, you are free to do so and nobody will hold it against you. Comments are also welcome from relatives, partners, friends and carers of HG sufferers. The HER website also has talk boards at forums.helpher.org/. There is also a UK based yahoo group called Bloomingawful at health.groups.yahoo.com/group/bloomingawful/

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kalidasa · 08/06/2012 16:25

Sorry to hear that mrsdaisaku. Have you got ketosticks at home to check your ketones? Don't be embarrassed about going back to the hospital if they are rising again. I only had three days between every single one of my admissions! I was always in a right old state again by day 3.

Do persist with the drugs though at whatever maximum dose they have suggested. They do take time to build up in your system so they can seem not to work very well to start with but then begin to make more of a difference. Make sure you stagger them too - so take the metoclopramide when you wake up, the stemetil three hours later, the metoclopramide again three hours after that etc so there's always something in your system. I had such a struggle with the nurses in hospital to stop them bringing me all the drugs together every six hours!! Also remember that if you vomit immediately after taking a pill you can take another one as it won't have been absorbed.

mrsdaisaku · 08/06/2012 17:21

Thanks kali sent the DH out to get some, my husband phoned the hospital earlier and was advised that so long as i'm keeping down water I should be okay. But unfortunately that has degenerated this afternoon. Wish there was someone else's ear to chew off, but this is the only place and I dont want others on here to think that their situation is less because i'm moaning so much. I just dont know where to turn to. Feeling low and even considering drastic measures to stop the sickness... Obviously not what I want, but low points etc etc

Thanks for the cont support!

LucindaE · 08/06/2012 17:46

MrsD Glad you're getting those kesosticks, excellent advice from Kali.
Poor you, it's very disappointing to have this relapse, can you stand ice lollies or ice cubes? I remember you said you don't find flat coke bearable. Never feel you're moaning too much - that's what this thread is for. Sending you most gentle cyber pats.
Kali How are you doing? Are you in Bristol yet or is that tommorow?
Blonde I hope managing?You are an expert and know when things are getting bad.
MeeblesHow are things? Everyone on this strange, windy day?

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kalidasa · 08/06/2012 17:58

mrsdaisaku during my horrendous third hospital admission my DP and I discussed termination. I think it is only natural to think about it when you are so terribly ill and it feels endless. Actually I think it is worth making it clear to the doctors that you are discussing it as it demonstrates how terrible you are feeling. My mother admitted to me that when she was admitted with her first pregnancy in the late sixties they were going to terminate for her sake, but then a doctor said "we'll try one more thing first" and she was actually a bit disappointed in the moment as had thought end in sight. I think it is totally normal to have these thoughts/wishes. I had had two early miscarriages before so I knew how quickly the sickness stopped as soon as the bleeding started. You wouldn't be human if you didn't fantasise about the sickness stopping in this situation. What kept me going was the thought that if I lost/ended the pregnancy I would just have to do it again at some point anyway and would have 'wasted' the weeks I'd got through so far.

You will feel better but it sounds as if you may need to go back to hospital. Do go straight away if your ketones are at 3 or 4. The ketosis itself makes you feel terribly ill and you will feel a bit better once they get that under control. For me other signs of needing to go to hospital were: eating nothing at all, vomiting fluids, vomiting on an empty stomach (producing only yellow bile or white foamy stuff), feeling confused. For weeks I never vomited any actual food because there was never anything in there, only water and drugs.

If you are nearly 10 weeks you are probably nearly over the very worst bit. For me weeks 6-10 were the very worst, 11-12 still pretty horrendous but with the odd slightly better day, now at 14 weeks it is very up and down but at least there are days like today when I can get out of bed.

If you do go back to hospital ask about ondansetron. They put me on it on my second admission. It wasn't a miracle cure for me but it seems to help most people more than it helped me so don't lose heart - there are still other things to try. (Also steroids after that.)

goldie32 · 08/06/2012 18:25

Mrsdaisaku you sound very poorly and very low, as they've said the ketosis makes you feel worse, but to be honest I have at times like this lied and said that I couldn't keep fluids in either. Naughty I know, but then at least I was taken seriously and got some help.
Haven't read all of the recent posts but sending love and support to everyone and thanks as always to Lucinda. x

PineapplePol · 08/06/2012 20:56

Hi everyone and especially Mrs Daisaku. So sorry to hear what a rough time you are having and just wanted to say please don't apologise for having a good moan when you are so poorly. My sickness, while very unpleasant, is nothing like what you are going through and reading your experience keeps my own troubles very much in perspective. Keep going hon - you are so strong to have got this far and each day is one day closer. I have to agree with Goldie - sometimes it is worth stretching the truth to get the help you need.

This is my 2nd attempt to post this message as the 1st one disappeared when I hit the button, so if it all seems very familiar or a little jaded from having to repeat myself, I apologise.

I've had an up and down few days. The cyclizine has worked for the most part although I'm still sick most evenings. I've managed a few short trips out which has been good (if dull - only hospital and midwife), but seem to pay the price with worse vomits in the evening. So its back to a quiet weekend. I've enjoyed reading the comments about food and amazed at how chalk and cheese we all are. I don't know if it is just me but at a time when food often seems to be the enemy, I am quite obsessed by it! Anything white/cream coloured is what I am wanting at the moment, with a particular thing for boiled egg and salad cream sandwiches (much to DH's disgust!). Lemonade and orange squash is my tipple of choice.

Braved a pizza last night (being careful to avoid wardrobes!) and all was fine until the nausea went away - really not what I expected. By 9pm I was feeling the most normal I had for weeks. This put me into panic mode and I was convinced that miscarriage number 6 was about to begin. The pizza made its return journey later that evening but even this just seemed like a cruel joke. After a very long night, I managed to book a private scan locally and was relieved to see a little baby and heart beat. Am now 9+6. Did anyone elses symptoms begin to improve at this time? I was expecting it to go on a bit longer. Same pattern seems to be happening tonight.

Hope you don't mind if I wait a while before adding my due date. I'm only just beginning to dare to believe we might make it this time. We've lost 5 pregnancies to early miscarriages and this time is so anxiety ridden its untrue. Weekly scans are all that is keeping me going. Added to that the dates are a bit freaky too. My LMP is April Fools Day and my due date is the anniversary of my mum's death (as if there wasn't enough emotional baggage with 5 losses!).

Thank you all for your support xxx

LucindaE · 09/06/2012 10:14

Mrs D How are things today? Feel free to moan as much as you like, and take comfort that it will almost certainly get a lot better. You can do it! Everyone feels they can't a some stage. 'This Too Must Pass' as it did for Fluffy Caramel MOP Ovaltine (then The Only) and so many who are happy with babies now.
Pinapple Lovely to hear from you, and I do so feel for you over those miscarriages. 1 April may be your lucky date! Lol about that wardrobe, there were splashes of tomato high up I'd missed when clearing up, my OH thought it was paint. Very brave of you to risk any cooked cheese dish Shock...Eggs sound ideal, full of protein, however taken!
Goldie Was it you who has the seven month old baby or is that BLonde? sorry to forget this, but whoever that is, you deserve a medal.
Kali May be travelling, may have arrived and I hope didn't/ doesn't suffer to dreadfully on her journey.
I had a dreadful journey by cab once when suffering; the driver was munching a burger and began chatting cheerfully to me - aagh! Cue my putting my head in a carrier bag.
Meebles How are things?
I hope Evreyone is OK and has their roof still on - when NitNat who called into this thread a few weeks ago was suffering her roof fell in Shock. Lucky even that didn't defeat her sense of humour...

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LilBlondePessimist · 09/06/2012 10:59

Hi Lucinda, yes it's me with the seven month old. He is a darling, but it is tiring. Well, exhausting really, as he is still ebf, also 3-4 times per night. We didn't expect to conceive quite so quickly, due to the bf, but here we are! This time is different to the three others. I do get bouts of respite, and manage some food, although when it does hit it hits fast - when I'm driving, and especially if I need to walk or stand for any length of time. I also have a terrible cough, which is a bit like Russian roulette Blush. It is a long weekend here just now so I'm going to go back to the docs on Tuesday and insist that they give me something. Fortunately, I'm not very dehydrated yet, due to the small bouts of respite, but I don't want to get any worse, and 7/8 weeks has always when it has started getting to its peak for me.

Thank you all for welcoming me here, and I hope everyone else manages a slightly better day, especially mrsd, as you sound so poorly.

I can understand wondering if you can go on with this - with a young baby, I am seriously questioning if I will cope :(

meebles · 09/06/2012 11:04

Pineapple wishing you all the best and hoping that this one is the one. I still find the evenings the worst to cope with as the sickness and tiredness is overwhelming then. Luckily, there's nothing stopping me going to bed at about the same time as DD. Sleeping through it is best. I am looking forward to staying up in the evening and being sociable. Got a lot to make up for!

MrsD hang in there, time is passing (slowly I grant you) and this is the worst bit. We never got as far as the had the termination discussion (unlike Kali), but it did cross my mind briefly. The thought of doing it all again though was enough to keep me persevering. I have firmly made up my mind though that this is the last DC (even if something should go wrong) - I can't put the family and I through this again.

In news here, I've got to 33 weeks, and I'm feeling a lot more positive and calm (mostly). Seeing the consultant on thursday for a scan and checkup. To keep to the 'there's never TMI on this thread' agreement - I'm still leaking copious amounts of amniotic fluid which is icky. Apparently when they are breech, they don't plug the hole as well as a head would. Bah!

In the mean time I'm trying to carry on as normal - as normally as possible when DH doesn't want me to get out of bed!

goldie32 · 09/06/2012 13:35

Lucinda no, I am not brave enough to have a seven month old and hyperemesis! Blonde I think you deserve some sort of medal! My DD is 3 1/2 and thats hard enough to manage! Meebles you are doing so well, just keep going! Pineapple poor you, just try to take it easy, physically and emotionally. Hope MrsD you are ok, part of me hopes you are in hospital, then at least you will feel some respite. Love to all.xx

LucindaE · 09/06/2012 14:57

Blonde and Goldie I think anyone who goes for it a second time is a heroine, and with a seven month old it must be so hard. It will be wonderful for the babies to have a sibling so close, for sure. Goldie I suppose you're three year old has some idea that Mummy is temporarily not functioning. I remember OhToBeAMan's daughter gaver her a temporary loan of her teddy.
MrsD You can see we are all thinking of you.
Pinapple You are very brave about those mc's.
Meebles 33 weeks, oh good. You are being very brave too.
I wonder if Kali is in Bristol?
Hugs to all.

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LucindaE · 09/06/2012 14:59

Meebles Just noticed that about the amniotic fluid - that's a pest, I suppose you have to have one of those waterproof things on the bed?

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knickyknocks · 09/06/2012 20:16

Hello all. I hope you don't mind me lurking. I've just found out I'm pregnant with DC2 and the familiar waves of nausea are coming through today at 4 weeks and 3 days. Was awful with my DD (now 2 years 8 months) and remember vomiting several times a day for weeks on end from about 6 weeks eventually ending up eating salt and vinegar crisps exclusively for weeks.

I'm feeling very anxious about what the next few weeks will bring given that the nausea is already kicking in. Would you recommend that I pre-empt the MS and go to the GP now?

knickyknocks · 09/06/2012 20:16

Hello all. I hope you don't mind me lurking. I've just found out I'm pregnant with DC2 and the familiar waves of nausea are coming through today at 4 weeks and 3 days. Was awful with my DD (now 2 years 8 months) and remember vomiting several times a day for weeks on end from about 6 weeks eventually ending up eating salt and vinegar crisps exclusively for weeks.

I'm feeling very anxious about what the next few weeks will bring given that the nausea is already kicking in. Would you recommend that I pre-empt the MS and go to the GP now?

kalidasa · 10/06/2012 09:03

Hello knicky. Sorry you are right at the beginning. It started really early for me too. Did you have any drugs last time? I think it's sensible to go to the GP now and stress how ill you were last time. Apparently the drugs work best if you start them early, even before you are actually vomiting. Good luck with it.

I am in Suffolk now with my parents. DP left this morning and I cried! It's only for nine days but he's been with me the whole time for the last 10 weeks, I saw him every day even in hospital and he's been such a rock the whole time. I know my parents will look after me but it's not the same. Snivel! Will be so good for him to have a break though.

LucindaE · 10/06/2012 09:27

Knicky Welcome, I'm always pleased when people lurk, as that shows the thread is informative! So agree with Kali it's worth trying to pre-empt things by trying to get meds early, if possible. My usual dull question, which I am sure you have seen; have you got those kesosticks (available from chemist) to check your urine to make sure, if things get bad (and I so hope they don't, and you get off lightly this time) that you can check for dehydration and go to A and E if necessary. I know what you mean about nibbling crisps, that and flat coke were my staples at one time. I think a lot of people find sweet and salty food bearable.
Kali Ah, it's sweet you are so close, Hyperemesis can really drive couples apart and I'm glad you are safely at Bristol.
MrsD Anxious about you.
Meebles? How is baby and the nausea?
Blonde Goldie Pinapple and Everyone?

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BarmeeMarmee · 10/06/2012 12:06

Hello everyone-and a belated welcome to the newbies. Sorry that you feel you need us, but pleased to "meet" you.

Kali I'm pleased you made it to your parents, I hope the journey wasn't too horrendous. Meebles I'm glad little one is hanging on in there-keeping everything crossed for you. MrsD 7 months and doing it again-wow I take my hat off to you! I thought it was bad enough with my DS about to turn 2!

Sorry I haven't been around much everyone. I'm 18+2 now and had been feeling better but have had a couple of coughing fits where I've thought I was going to be sick lately, plus some splitting headaches and have been feeling quite low really. Not sure why-I think I need to give myself a shake and pull myself together! Have had the news my Gran is very ill as well which I don't think is helping. My parents are currently up in Scotland saying their goodbyes. Hoping she'll prove everyone wrong though-she's a stubborn old bird!!

Hope you're all having a good day. Sorry to those I've missed.

kalidasa · 10/06/2012 12:27

Sorry about your gran Barmee. Headaches sound horrible. I get migraines occasionally and had a couple very early in pregnancy. I checked with my GP and she said cocodamol is OK to take occasionally in pregnancy. I was so relieved as nothing else cuts it for a real migraine. Hope you feel you can take something if necessary.

Journey was surprisingly OK actually. We were really lucky and it was a good day with no first-thing double-vomit (for a change!) so we set off really early. To start with I felt OK-but-not-great and then when we stopped for coffee at a vile service station coffee place for DP I ate the most inappropriate possible thing - I wolfed one of those super-greasy cheese and bacon pastry turnover things and felt miraculously better. It was so good. Felt like a horrible gamble at the time but evidently the right call on that occasion. I have reached a stage now when even on less good days eating usually seems to help. I'm sure I'm going to go from thin to fat pretty quickly!!

My parents are being very good and my father especially is very solicitous. I keep forgetting that this is actually his first grandchild (my big sisters are half sisters as my mother was widowed when they were little). It was forecast rain here but in fact is sunny and lovely today which is great.

goldie32 · 10/06/2012 16:46

Oh Kali I am glad you have made it to your Mum and Dad. I cried whenever I was on my own during the worst weeks. Quite enjoy it again now! I definitely reached a stage where I felt much, much worse when hungry. I also strangely enjoyed slightly greasy cheesy things. Knicky I didn't manage pre-emtive meds, but I hear they are a good idea. Thinking of you MeeblesBlonde, Pineapple, MrsD and Barmee. Thanks for the thoughts Lucinda I am really not too bad at all thanks. Love to all x

LucindaE · 10/06/2012 16:58

Barmee Kali For sure there is a connection between hormonal imbalance, migraine and Hyperemesis. I hadn't heard of that drug, would you believe it?! Really feel for you, hope you get something. Coughing wth heartburn can bring on retching and puking, not nice.
Kali I am so glad you are being indulged.
Goldie Glad things have looked up.
Thinking of MrsD Blonde Knicky Meebles and Everyone.

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kalidasa · 10/06/2012 17:32

It's just paracetamol with a bit of codeine Lucinda. A few people don't metabolise codeine so it does nothing for them but provided it works for you it is about as effective as OTC stuff gets I find.

knickyknocks · 10/06/2012 18:06

Thank you so much for your messages. This though will be the a short stay, I've started to bleed heavily this afternoon and the nausea has subsided. This is my second chem p/g (also had a m/c last year) so think it's time for me to go back to the GP to see if there's anything they can do. It took me a long time to come round to TTC again after my pregnancy with DD, but I may have now waited too long (I'm 40).

That said, hopefully when the time comes I know this thread is here full of wonderful ladies with fantastic advice. I know that I'll need to come back as even with the short lived chem p/gs I've been starting to feel those all too familiar waves of nausea (last time started feeling rotten at 3 and a half weeks....ridiculously early). I had meds last time, but couldn't tell you which one, and will definitely need them again.

Much love to all, thank you again and I hope that you all get past the dreadful bit as quick as possible - labour and early days of the newborn are a breeze in comparison!!

PineapplePol · 10/06/2012 18:14

Hi everyone, I'm having a low day. It's so difficult to forget you are pregnant when you feel constantly nauseous isn't it. I know I'm not having nearly as many problems as some of you but its getting tiring now. Am fed up of throwing up every night before bed, despite cyclizine and of feeling so queasy past 6pm that I can't even read DD a bed time story. Experienced the hell of heartburn last night too. I just want to cry. Puking before bed means I'm always awake in the middle of the night feeling queasy too and having to run the gauntlet of making tea and eating cornflakes or face puking again on an empty stomach. I'm also at that dodgy stage where lost previous pregnancy and it feels like eternity until the scan on Friday. Sorry for being so pathetic. Just needed to get it off chest. DH not good at the moral support thing!

kalidasa · 10/06/2012 20:02

knicky really sorry to hear that. If it's any comfort, I had two early losses in January and February this year and conceived yet again in March, now 14 weeks. I was worried after the second as well and my GP sent me for some blood tests but they were all fine. I started feeling sick (incredibly) at two days after conception every single time. Was hospitalised for the first time at five weeks!

pineapple sorry you are feeling so grim, it is incredibly wearing, I know just how you feel. Sorry too that your DP is not being supportive. I was so ill but felt lucky all the time about how great my partner was even when he was terribly scared and worried himself. I know how many partners really struggle to be supportive with this. Has he read the pages at pregnancy sickness or the HER website? My DP read both of these really thoroughly right at the beginning and this made a big difference, it really helped him "get" how different it was from ordinary MS and how much support I would need to get through it.

LucindaE · 11/06/2012 10:51

Knicky Ah, poor you, cyber hugs, that is devastating. I am sure you haven't left it too late but I know when having a miscarriage it seems like your last chance. I was no spring chicken myself, rising 35, but I took a homeopathic remedy that made me puke like anything and conceived again within the month. However, at the moment you only want to mourn this loss. It is particularly hard to have suffered from the beginnings of Hyperemesis and to miscarry. Don't worry about two consecutive miscarriages, I remember reading the statistics. The odds are massively on your side even after three consecutive miscarriages. If you need to vent, talk any time,pm. I'm sure that goes for everyone on here.
Pianapple Poor you, it is so wearing, and not being able to read that bedtime story Sad. I wonder if they might try a change of meds so you are not puking in the evening? Things will gradually improve for sure. It is so difficult to juggle eating/not eating and I really feel for you over that heartburn, it is dreadful and can make your life as much of a misery as the nausea, sometimes turning into nausea and puking, which is too bad. I am sure you know all about the propped up on pillows. I used to drink milk which worked temporarily, but I think it's acidic, isn't it, so that after half an hour or so it was as bad as ever. I wonder if MOH has any recommended cures for heartburn, I must investigate.
Kali Your usual lovely self, comforting people while suffeirng yourself. About that drug, I am going to give it a try with my next migraine.
Meebles How are things?
Blonde and Everyone. Oh dear, still nothing from Mrs D. I think she must be in hospital.

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