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Panicking about having number 2

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Mandymoo · 04/02/2006 22:32

Hi - i'm nearly 27 weeks pregnant and have now decided to panic myself about having another child!

I already have a 3yr dd who is, at the risk of sounding up my own arse, a delightful, beautiful, well behaved little angel - i'm scared of having another one to look after!

Can someone please reassure me that all will be well and that dd wont be permenantly disadvantaged by having a sibling?!

tia x

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starlover · 04/02/2006 22:33

well..... tough luck! you don't have a choice now! lol

nah you'll be fine... you will have 2 lovely, beautiful, delightful children!

can't guarantee the well behaved bit though

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Mandymoo · 04/02/2006 22:35

lol - yeah, i guess it is a bit late to start worrying about having another one! Dont get me wrong, i am delighted to be pregnant again and feel very lucky BUT the practical side of me is kicking in now! I look at mums with 2 or more children and i am in awe of them - i know i'll be ok - just having a panicky moment cos i've got nothing else to worry about for 5 mins!

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hunkermunker · 04/02/2006 22:35

Yes, I can. Have 17 day old DS2 and 22mo DS1 - you see a different side to your oldest when there's a tiny baby in the house and it's lovely!

DS1 is a lovely child, sweet-natured, really good company, very funny - I wondered about having another one and how he'd react, but he's been very loving and sweet.

DS2 is lovely too - calm, alert, rarely cries - very like his brother was at this age. Lightning can strike twice

Good luck!

VeniVidiVickiQV · 04/02/2006 22:36

You dappy mare! of course she wont be permanently disadvantaged. She has a permanent playmate/doll that she can play with, play dress up, boss around, put make up on (doesnt matter if its a brother or sister ).

I cant guarantee the behaviour will be the same though but their is no point in worrying about things you cant change.

Aloha · 04/02/2006 22:36

Oh, it's LOVELY. I felt just like you - think it's really normal - but ds adores his baby sister and she worships him. When he comes home from pre-school she totters and crawls down the hallway to greet him, staggers to her feet, and cuddles him so hard. And when he kneels down to return the hug, she rests her head on his shoulder, says 'aaah' and strokes his hair. It makes me want to cry with pride and happiness.
Ds loves his sister so much. It is the best thing I ever did for him.

starlover · 04/02/2006 22:36

i desperately want another one mandymoo... but then sometimes i jsut think, but ds is SO lovely, how can i change that?

so, alythough not pregnant i think i know kind of how you feel.... and i am guessing it's pretty common too!

Aloha · 04/02/2006 22:37

ps - my gap is 3yrs and 3months. Dd is nearly a year old now and they are starting to really play together.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 04/02/2006 22:38
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Mandymoo · 04/02/2006 22:39

Awww thanks guys - btw i'm having a boy this time so dd will love having a little boy to dress up!!!

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moondog · 04/02/2006 22:39

Mandy,I felt exactly like you,but believe me,having two has been (and continues to be) tremendous fun.
Like Aloha,I want to cry with pride and joy when I see them together.

It iswonderful,I promise you.

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Mandymoo · 04/02/2006 22:40

Hunker - congrats btw!!

Starlover - good luck XX

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CarlyP · 06/02/2006 13:27

you manage, some days you'll never know how, but at least dd at 3 is communicating and will be able to understand alot more.

cx

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trice · 06/02/2006 13:41

I have ds age four and a dd at three months. He says that she is his best thing in the world. He worships her and all she does at the moment is gurgle . He loves to fetch things for her and kisses her bald if I am not careful.

I was worried about how I would cope with two kids and tbh I do get a bit torn ignoring one or the other of them sometimes but our family is so much richer for having dd it makes it all worthwhile.

tonton · 06/02/2006 14:21

I'm nearly 30 weeks and have gone off the idea of having a 2nd too!! To be fair to me, it was not planned. DD (age 5) was meant to be an only child. I go in waves, but right now I'm sick of being pregnant and working hard, and nopt sure how I'll provde for 2! One seemed so straightforward....

Nemo1977 · 06/02/2006 14:25

completely normal to feel this way. I did from around 23wks till day before i went to be induced.
can honestly say having 2 is fab, ds[2.3yrs] adores his little sister who is now 7wks.

MissChief · 06/02/2006 14:29

congrats! Yr 1st will love the 2nd - new toy to play with/target for attention! Recently had our 2nd and could not wish for a more gorgeous baby (dare I say it, even more than 1st time round!)

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