Just got a BFP...v.happy but mostly terrified, anyone else?

[Superunknown]

So, tested positive yesterday morning. The initial excitement has now given away to total fear. I was wondering whether anyone else is feeling that way or whether there's anyone who has been there done that and can give me some comfort/advice...

Firstly, congratulations :)

What you are feeling is totally normal! I was on cloud nine when I tested positive with all my pregnancies but then the fear quickly kicks in!
Unfortunately, nobody can say for sure whether everything will be ok but you have to keep telling yourself it will be. You have every reason to have a happy and healthy pregnancy.
I'm 20+3 now and I still worry about every little thing but then I give myself a good talking to and I calm down a bit.

Put your feet up and try and stay positive.

I think this is very common, I was terrified when I found out I was pregnant with DS1 and it took a few weeks to pass. Now pregnant again and was sure I wouldn't have any such feelings this time but I have. Try and find some past threads on mumsnet and you'll see how common these feelings are.
Hope you are feeling better soon

I got my BFP on Friday, an am now waiting for a scan next Thursday as my last pregnancy was ectopic. Every little twinge I get makes me worry that its happening again, even though I have none of the symptoms that I had last time. My dp and I are trying not to get carried away as we dont feel we are in the clear until we see the scan. Then the real fear will start.

Congratulations btw, its going to ne an interesting few months for us all. :-)

Congratulations super - you are definitely not alone! I got a BFP in January for DC#1 after a late MMC last year - and I was euphorically happy and then completely terrified. Am 15w now and have started to relax a bit - although still more worried than I thought I would be! The majority of pregnancies end with lovely happy babies at the end of them, so relax, put your feet up, and enjoy your happy news! Congrats again - and to everyone else on here!

Hi superunknown, I know exactly what you mean. I was a shocker last time, anxious about everything throughout the pregnancy. I'm older (late 30's mum with 1 dd 18 months) so I got freaked right out with the extra risks. Turns out I had a perfect little girl and none of my worries came to fruition. I'm cautious again now (9.5 wks) but I've promised myself a 'blind faith' approach is the best for me! When I start to have anxious thoughts I push them out my head. Enjoy it, there is every reason to think that all will be well :) massive congrats, when you hold your perfect little one in your arms you may wish you had not worried so much and enjoyed things more (I did!!). All the best.

Congratulations! I got a bfp yesterday afternoon. This is my third month with a bfp in a row - in January and February they ended with early losses by five weeks. But for some reason I feel much better about this one and more confident. I even bought a pregnancy book today which I held off doing the other times because I just didn't feel sure about it. I am definitely going to go on feeling anxious though. And also because it feels more "real" this time I'm also much more worried about all the practicalities like my job and maternity leave and stuff.

Big big congratulations! Being anxious is all part of being a mum I think!

I just had my first reassurance scan and am delighted that everything was fine but I know I won't relax til I'm holding dc3 in my arms!!

Try to relax and enjoy

When I first got a bfp for a much planned and much wanted pg I felt as if I had sauntered off a very high cliff. It's huge isn't it?

Congratulations!

Congratulations is it your first child? :)

I'm 8 weeks on Friday and although unplanned and completely unexpected for a variety of reasons (years and years of secondary infertility for one!!) I am generally happy about it, but at least once a week I am having a complete soggy snotty total meltdown so I can totally empathise with you feeling the fear, what franke said is apt, feeling like i am about to launch off a cliff edge.

When you feel ready come and join me and the others on the November 2012 thread www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1432039-Due-in-November-2012-part-deux-no-cringy-thread-name-here - they do a great job of talking sense and helping allay fears, I think I would be having a lot more meltdown moments if it weren't for them being there to offload to!

Thank you everyone!! I've just come in from a hot day's walking (on a walking holiday) and it was wonderful to have so much love waiting for me!!!

And to all who asked, yes it's my first!

I felt this way with both BFPs.

I still look at DD (2yo) with abject terror sometimes (usually when she's emptied the toy cupboard and is merrily taking the potatoes out of the veg rack and using them to practice her shot put skills) and I also eye my 38+6 bump with the same abject terror at some point most days when I think 'what the fuck are we doing?' (usually coincides with the shot-putting from DD)

Definitely join the antenatal thread that's appropriate to you - it's handy to be in a boat with lots of other people feeling the same way as you!

I'm still terrified and my BFP was over a week ago!

Every so often the reality keeps sinking in and DH and I look at each other and think, crap, an actual baby. We're having a real, live baby. It's insane.

And because it's so early we've not really told anyone so keeping it a secret at work is driving me nuts!!

Anyway, I'm surrrre this is all normal (least I keep telling myself this) and a big congratulations to you. : )

(I might see you around in the November thread!)

With DS I was fucking terrified, and I'm not his mum. Got over it eventually.

mcdquared know what tou mean about staying quiet!! We're on a family holiday with my parents and brother and it's SO hard not to spill all to my Mum...

Hey Superunknown, a big congratulations to you!

I just got my BFP yesterday for DC#1 and I'm right there with you on the totally terrified front! I was originally on cloud 9, I have endometriosis so I've always been told I'd find it difficult conceiving, but now having got my BFP I'm worried something might go wrong.

Has anyone else been insane like me and checking frantically for any signs of their period? The problem with all the information online these days is if you don't have one or more of the symptoms you're worried you might MC.

Hiya I got my BFP this morning and the fear has started to set in, worried it is a false positive etc.had slight cramping today and nauseous feeling. This will me my DC2 and much longed for as told i had secondary infertility and was on clomid for 6 months. cant wait until the GP confirms this pregnancy so i can start to relax a little.

Congrats Laura and witty!

Witty I also have endo and had my left ovary removed along with a cyst just before Christmas. Do you know if the endo affects the pregnancy itself??

Ps. Know what you mean about looking for signs...evertime I go to the loo (increasingly frequently) I'm expectinv my period to have started.

I'm 14 weeks and still worried, I just try not to think of it!

It's my second and I'm 90% terrified, 10% excited. With my first I was more excited/delusional. The terror may be biological me thinks to help you prepare?