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midwife wont scan me early !!

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madasahattermummy · 20/03/2012 11:30

really as the title says !

im 8 weeks +3 with my 8 pregnancy .

my 1st pregnancy ended in a MMC at 9 weeks but i didnt find out till my booking in scan at what i thought, i was 13 weeks .
( bloods and everything had allready been taken )

every other pregnancy iv been given a early scan around 8/9 weeks to put my mind at ease , BUT !! this time the midwife point blank said NO and has allready booked me , which i also didnt want to do till id had a scan,( i real like its a jinx ) i just worry that "what if the babies died again ??" and iv wasted peoples time reading paper work and doing my bloods !!

iv now got to wait another 4 weeks for my scan , i may have really gone mad between now and then with worry , that or driven the DH mad !!

im so mad , should i have pushed for a early scan a little harder ??

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katiesprout · 20/03/2012 11:46

What do you mean "every other pregnancy"?

Firstly, I'm sorry that you went through an MMC. But I'm afraid that I think the midwife is entitled to book you in line with normal procedure. It's a worrying time for everyone, not just if you've previously had an MMC. Also, by having a scan at the normal time you will be able to get a proper scan picture and they will be able to run the usual checks.

You're not wasting anyone's time. And as for there being a jinx now that you're booked, well I'm sorry but I think that's ridiculous.

OMGBFP · 20/03/2012 11:48

Were your other pregnancies successful? If so I would think this is why. everyone would love an early scan for reassurance but therre simply isn't enough resources to do it. She's just calculating what risk you are at and acting accordingly imo (sorry!)

Can you afford a private scan?

OlympicEater · 20/03/2012 11:51

If you are worried then go for a private scan. The midwife is just following procedure.

There are valid reasons for the NHS timings of the scan, not just to put your mind at rest.

FondleWithCare · 20/03/2012 11:52

Would you be able to book a private early scan?

Or can you have your hcg levels checked regularly by your doctor?

Good luck with it and I hope you have a lovely uneventful pregnancy.

Katie it's normal for women who have had miscarriages to get early scans so that they aren't panicking for the entire first trimester, a little bit of tact for a woman who's scared would be nice right now.

belgo · 20/03/2012 11:55

I totally understand why you need a scan at this point. I've had two miscarriages and the stress during subsequent pregnancies was immense.

Do you have any pain/bleeding/other symptoms that might be cause for concern?

farfallarocks · 20/03/2012 11:57

katie It's a worrying time for everyone, not just if you've previously had an MMC.

Of course its worrying time to everyone, its totally and utterly different if you have had a MC before, especially several and actually research now shows that early scans for women who have miscarried in the past improve outcomes in subsequent pregnancies.

op if you have had several successful pregnancies since then it may be you on longer fit the criteria, could you call the epu directly and ask them? Good luck?

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madasahattermummy · 20/03/2012 11:58

i could afford a early scan , iv just found a clinc near us that does them , thanks to google , just going to wait and see what DH thinks .

im not saying im more special than the next person of course not ! each baby is precious be it your 1st 4 th or 100th .

but when lost our 1st i had no picture nothing to say that baby was ever alive, at least with the others i had a very early scan picture to keep and to show i did carry that baby.

im hormonal too .

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blackcatsdancing · 20/03/2012 12:00

its all about allocating resources according to clinical need . My EPU won't even scan recurrent miscarriers (ie 3 in a row) unless there is a medical need, they only scan women who've had a previous ectopic, those who have prolonged bleeding after a MC/ ERPC procedure and those who are having bad pain and/or bleeding in pregnancy. Its hard I know (i had a MMC discovered at routine 12 weeks scan) so can empathise but the NHS only have so much money and a MC can happen to anyone. My EPU have at least a 2 working day wait for everyone so when you're waiting with bleeding in early pregnancy, thinking the worst , you don't want to hear people having reassurance scans are causing part of that wait. Obviously resources and policies vary from area to area.

blackcatsdancing · 20/03/2012 12:02

sorry xpost, yes i had an early scan photo from the private one i had done at 7 +3 (due to an earlier MC) and it is very good to have that pic as a reminder. I don't yet look at it (MMC was to recent) but i did make sure i took it back from my notes. Hope all goes well with this pregnancy .

Gingersnap88 · 20/03/2012 12:06

Early scans can actually be more stressful than waiting. I had bleeding at 5 weeks, went for a scan at 6 weeks and they found no heartbeat- told me to expect the worse. Had to go back at 7 weeks to have more internal scans to determine if it was a "viable pregnancy" and was stressed out of my mind (not good for baby or me!)

Am now 40+3 with a healthy baby

Of course it must be a very worrying time for you, there are private clinics who will put your mind at ease if need be good luck and all the best!

ProlificYoungGentlemenBreeder · 20/03/2012 12:34

Good luck with your early scan mad!
I understand why you would an early scan, I had a nasty experience with a tactless rude mw with ds2. Although NHS guidelines are of course there to be followed and normally to the letter, tact and empathy are lost on some.

katiesprout · 20/03/2012 14:10

I apologise for coming across as tactless. I do wish you good luck in this pregnancy.

Methe · 20/03/2012 14:17

I've had 3 mc and a mmc and have had to pay for 'reassurance' scans myself. It's just the way it is.

Good luck with this pregnancy :)

KatAndKit · 20/03/2012 15:15

If you have had a successful pregnancy since your miscarriage then they will probably not give you an early scan. Round here is is only recurrent miscarriers who get an early scan. I was fortunate in that I felt that they listened to my reasons for wanting a scan at 9 weeks and realised the risk to my mental health of making me wait till 13 weeks only a few months after my most recent miscarriage. Having said that I have a history of anxiety and depression so perhaps that carried some weight. And the fact that until this time, I'd never had a successful pregnancy.

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madasahattermummy · 20/03/2012 18:24

" reassurance " scan is booked for a week on thursday , lets hope its well worth its £80 , i just couldnt wait another 4 weeks !

thankyou to google :)

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ProlificYoungGentlemenBreeder · 21/03/2012 09:28

Good luck! Hope it goes well.

blackcatsdancing · 21/03/2012 09:29

yes, best of luck with the scan!

SootySweepandSue · 21/03/2012 09:32

Good luck with the private scan. I was going to suggest asking your GP for a scan as opposed to the MW. I think it's awful expecting you to wait if you have a history of MC.

KateSpade · 21/03/2012 09:48

I had an early scan before I'd even seen a midwife, I was about 6 weeks I think, my doctor referred me, could you try that way?

Stillnosign · 21/03/2012 09:59

I know what its like to go through a mc, I went through a mc last year, and didnt get to see my bby :'(. So sorry for your lost. xx

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madasahattermummy · 21/03/2012 10:32

i never even thought about going to my GP , baby brain !

never mind at least i v got a date to see my baby sooner , fingers crossed alls ok :S

i really hope they take payment first , it would be awfull to go in there and something be wrong , then having to hand money over crying you eyes out :S

starting to allready feel nervous , i hate scans but at the same time i dont ! must be my hormones !?!?

and for the fisrt time i read the leaflet on the 18 / 20 week scan ! had no idea they could pick up such horrible things on that scan :S

im just a big ball of pregnancy worry's at the mo .

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bibbityisaporker · 21/03/2012 10:35

Try not to worry! Its great that you've picked up the phone and arranged the private scan - £80 seems good value to me.

KateSpade · 21/03/2012 15:46

Glad you've got a scan, hope all goes well!

nextphase · 21/03/2012 16:03

My subsequent pregnancy to an ectopic, the midwife refused to send me for an early scan.
I rang the EPAC who had diagnosed my ectopic pregnancy, and asked for the policy. I was told in no uncertain terms to come in, and asked for the midwife's name, so they could carry out training.
Can you talk to someone in EPAC to see what the policy is following a MMC, and then (I'm assuming) successful pregnancies?
Hope you have a stress free and successful pregnancy.

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madasahattermummy · 29/03/2012 07:37

well todays the day for my scan :S EEEKKKKKK ! fingers crossed for me .

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