How to tell my 7 3/4 yr old DS I am pregnant

[exiledmancityfan]

Ok, so I am 12 1/2 weeks pg and I have my scan next week. My Husband is away and we plan to tell our DS this weekend that I am PG but he is 7 3/4. DH suggested doing this together via Skype, I do think that this is a good idea gbut what exactly do I tell him and how do I answer all the questions that he is going to have once DH hangs up??

I would wait til you have had the 12 week scan and then you know for sure that everything is ok, and you can show him the scan photo.

We have just done this my ds is also 7, and dd is 11. They were really excited, and wanted to know more, so maybe you could buy some books that show what the baby looks like, etc, as there are bound to be questions!
I bought these books whats in your tummy mummmy and usborne where babies come from

I was going to wait for the scan but the community mod wife is coming on Sunday morning (something to do with my request for an elective cs) and as I am on my own I can't get rid keep him occupied whilst she is there without raising some suspisions.

My Ds was the same age and had just started asking questions about how babies come out! so it was a fairly easy subject to bring up a few weeks after that. I think I told him at about 12 weeks too and took him to my scan, really involved him in it.

My DS was 6.5ish when I was pg with DD, and I fretted about telling him... DH and I sat on the bed together, and I simply said we've got something special to tell you... I'm growing a baby in my tummy.

He just shrugged, said ok, and walked off...!

During the pg, he was curious, and loved feeling DD kick me, and asked a few questions, but we kept it simple. Having a picture of LO is a good tool too.

Good luck!

hes almost 8! he already knows everything ;)

seriously though, he will be fine, just tell him straight!

when my little boy was 6.5 and i told him that i had a baby in my tummy and that he was going to be a big brother he just punched the air and shouted "yes!"

as for questions, if he has them just answer all his questions honestly but simply, he doesnt need to know all the biology yet, but the truth is always your best bet.

We were going to wait until dd's 5th birthday to tell her (when I was 16 weeks), however, due to her earwigging on Xmas day she found out...without us knowing (didn't say a word to us), and then telling her teacher when she went back to school, who then said congrats to DP (made for a very confusing day...), so she came with us to the 12 week scan!

I bought her the book 'Mummy laid an egg' which is very funny and explained 'things'. She's really excited about being a big sister

I will try and get hold of one or some of those books for him. I will let you all know how it goes and thanks for the advice.

For a second there I thought you had 7 3 and 4 year olds.

:o RachelWalsh

I'd just be honest and answer questions he has (if he has them) matter-of-factly. If he doesn't then leave it. But then I am a really biological (?!) and down-to-earth person; I wouldn't have qualms about giving kids the details at any age. Please tell me why that's a bad idea, if there's a school of thought that says it is!

I don't think it's a bad idea at all. If you've got an open attitude to sex and babies, I think it's absolutely fine to be open with your kids, and model a healthy mindset towards a subject that so many people are really very immature, and closed about.

I've been open with DS about how babies get in and out since he was really very small (3). I know some people aren't, but it is better for us that way. He's curious, asks questions, and frankly I want to try and make the most of his open mindedness and to try normalise everything for him. My thinking was to get to him, before the playground did.

p.s exiledmancityfan - we are going to have a very similar age gap between our DCs. I'm nearly 13 weeks (scan on Monday) and DS is 7.5 yrs old

Aww good luck. Sure itl be fine. I told my DS, yes he's only 2 and a half but he understood about baby in mummys belly,he even kisses my bump and asks when babies coming home! He loves the babies bedroom and helped me paint it! 33 weeks and 3 days..he's not got long to wait! Anyway I'm sure your DS will be excited! Just include him, taking him to the scan would be quite a could option for him to see it !

Thanks for all your messages. He is fine with it and is asking lots of questions including how do I know when it got in there!!