constantly on edge with this pregnancy......am scared of another mc

[jaylee89]

hello girlies.

i found out i was pregnant on monday, me and dh are overly thrilled but i just cant shake this paranoid feeling.

a little bit of pain sends me straight to the toilet to check im not bleeding im so frightened i panic myself horribly.

i couldnt bare losing this pregnancy. i love this baby so much already.
me and dh have been ttc for over a yr.

is this normal?

xxx

same here ! snap !

im 6 weeks and 6 days and every pain i to run off to check im not bleeding , wish is strange as when i had a MC with my first pregnancy i had no pain or bleeding at all yet at my 12 week scan the baby had died 3 weeks earlier .

good luck !

Totally normal! First trimester is so terribly stressful and uncertain. My last pregnancy ended in MMC discovered at 12 week scan - it was devastating. But now I'm 37 weeks and expecting DD1 soon. Things have gone really well with this pregnancy, but I was very frightened in the beginning. I couldn't even look at the screen at the 12 week scan and was just bracing myself for the worst. But do try to keep in mind that the chances of 2 MC in a row are very slim, and it is far more likely that things will be fine. The odds are in your favour. Try to relax, think positively and take it day by day. There's a good thread - the Freak Out Room - in the Conception forum if you need support - take care!

Meant to add this, just had to find it:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1309049-Freak-Out-Room-For-Those-Newly-Diffed-Up-After-MC-Part-IX

I had a MC last year at 6 weeks and it was horrible. Im now 13 weeks pregnant and even though I have had my 12 week scan (which was all fine and amazing!), I still worry that something will go wrong.
Nature is amazing and will just take its course anyway, there's nothing you can do about it
I just keep telling myself that the odds are in my favour, there is no reason anything should go wrong, and I know all will be fine.
I think its very common and very normal - just try to stay positive!

In the last 10months I have had a mmc and a mc at 6wks and I am currently 5 wks pregnant and scared, but trying to stay positive as stress can not be good for either of us.
I wish u all the best and anyone else going through the same trauma.
xx

Yep, it's normal. I had a miscarriage in July and I've only just started to relax in this pregnancy, now I've had the 20 week scan and the baby is moving round a lot.

thanks for the supportive messages girls.

i have a 5 yr old lovely daughter already but i would love for her to have a sibling.

i just have the tendency to panic myself silly.
congrats to everyone whos pregnant loads of sticky dust for you all!

big hugs xx

It's really tough and even at 29weeks I still check regularly for bleeding and panic at every symptom and lack of symptoms. I had a mmc last year at 12 weeks after seeing a heartbeat at 8 weeks so I don't trust my previous scans. Everyone keeps telling me I need to accept I am having a baby in 11 weeks but I am still too paranoid. One Dr said something to me early on which helped and it was that the viability of a pregnancy is decided at the point of conception. Nothing can change that. All that can be done is live as stress free as possible so that every chance is given in making the pregnancy a healthy one.

Yes, totally normal. My first pregnancy resulted in MC. Then about 9 months later, I got pregnant with DD and worried all the way. I was a serial knicker checker and would go to the loo to check even when I didn't need to! She was fine, despite all my worry and she's three now.

I'm now 12 weeks pregnant with DC2 and haven't worried as much. Obviously I want everything to go well, but I sort of accept that I can't change things if things are to go wrong. I can only do my best and all the checking in the world is not going to make a difference. I think this is also because I have DD and my time is occupied so much by her that I have to carry on as normal.

Good luck OP, and congratulations on your news!

It's very normal unfortunately. 25 weeks tomorrow here and there's a part of me that still doesn't think I'm going to get this baby - every scan or midwife appointment I go to I'm sure I'm about to be told the baby is dead . So far so good though. Good luck OP, I hope the pregnancy is as stress free as possible for you.

thank you it is so comforting to know im not going crazy. my dh must think im a complete nutcase. i must bore him to death aswel because i constantly want to talk about this pregnancy.

i think its because i had my dd when i was 18 and i was kind of naive i suppose. didnt really think about all the complications that could arise.

shes a very energetic 5 yr old now.
after having my dd i developed pos which i have been in and out of hospital with since i can remember. fingers crossed havent suffered any ruptured cysts since january last year when unfortunatly was when i was rushed into hospital with the theory that i was having an eptopic i was only 6 weeks and found out on new years eve i was expecting much to mine and dh delight. had my op on the thursday and very sadly mc on the monday which i can say completely knocked me for six!!!

we have been ttc for over a yr now and finding out i was pregnant last monday was probably the best day of this yr for me. i wanted to cry and dance at the same time for excitment and fear.

i just hope god wont be so cruel again and take this much loved baby already away from us.

sorry for the essay lol.

big hugs girlies xxxxxxxxxxxx

I feel exactly the same. One mc, one lovely dd, and now 5 weeks pregnant. Am almost totally convinced it will fail . Like you, I want to talk about it all the time. Maybe to make it real, maybe to enjoy it while I can. What a misery guts I must seem!

Congrats on your pregnancy, and here's to healthy boring pregnancies for all!